okay ive known this chick i go to school with for about a year now. shes a blonde who is totally smoking and was voted most attractive sorority girl at my school last year. well i always thought she was hot but not as hot as everyone made her out to be. well one night about 3 weeks ago she came over to my place with some friends and we all went out. this chick was totally into me. holding my hand and putting my arm around her. big time flirting. well we started calling and text messaging each other alot and hanging out over the next week or two. we started kissing and everything like that so i know she had interest. for instance one night when i didnt call her like i said she texted me "did you forget me?". well anyways, she was always coming over until like 4 am and stuff and then she went on vacation for a week. i dropped her off at the airport and then didnt hear from her for the 5 days she was gone until the last day. she texted me "hope you had a good weekend, ill call you when im home". this was about a week and a half ago. well when she got home she was real busy with sorority recruitment week where they get new members and i know they spend a ton of time with it so i wasnt really thinking about it if she didnt call me for a couple days. well the past week or so shes been calling me just like every other day, and hasnt shown that shes not interested, but she hasnt been coming over like she was before. she called me tonight and i asked her to come over and she said maybe and that she would call me back in 10 minutes. she called me back in 20 and started talking about something unrelated to coming over. from there i said "hey let me call you back in 2 minutes". i havent called her back and i dont think im going to tonight (or should i have at least waited for a couple minutes to see if she was going to come over). she knew i wanted her to come over but when she called back she started talking about something off the subject so i was just like screw it. anyone got any tips for me on what to do with this chick? i never call her, i always let her call me. if you have any questions about my situation, let me know so i can answer as well.
help with hb9....
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cactus3178
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I think you messed up with the "I'll call you back in two minutes" and not calling back thing, bro. Women hate flaky men as much as we hate flaky women.
Also, there's a big difference between never calling and blowing up her cell phone. Find a happy medium! If you never call, and she's always having to initiate phone conversation, there is not reciprocity. It shouldn't always be you, and it shouldn't always be her.
As far as her not coming over as much as before, you may have let her drop IL by being coming across as completely NOT interested.
There is a middle ground. You CAN call her, just don't go overboard.
Also, there's a big difference between never calling and blowing up her cell phone. Find a happy medium! If you never call, and she's always having to initiate phone conversation, there is not reciprocity. It shouldn't always be you, and it shouldn't always be her.
As far as her not coming over as much as before, you may have let her drop IL by being coming across as completely NOT interested.
There is a middle ground. You CAN call her, just don't go overboard.
the reason i never really call her, is because usually when we get off the phone, she says that she will call me tomorrow. im not the type thats going to call a chick if she says shes gonna call me. plus i do recall once she was telling me about the last guy she dated who got on her nerves because he called all the time. any other help guys?
SealTeamSix
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she is
a) bored and playing you like boy toy.
b) she has sight on some other guy and keeping u as back up
c) she likes u as friend.
d) she may like u as lover but undecided yet.
Here is how to find out where u stand with this chick:
Go out with her and her friends and your friends etc ..
When you see her start of the evening, just say simple hello to her then run away from her and start talking to other chicks.. do not talk to guys .. You want to show her that you do not need her .. you QUALIFY the chicks ..
continue to flirt .. as she watches you and if she has feelings for u like in d) .. she will come to you and complain .. then ask her to shut up and kiss her
a) bored and playing you like boy toy.
b) she has sight on some other guy and keeping u as back up
c) she likes u as friend.
d) she may like u as lover but undecided yet.
Here is how to find out where u stand with this chick:
Go out with her and her friends and your friends etc ..
When you see her start of the evening, just say simple hello to her then run away from her and start talking to other chicks.. do not talk to guys .. You want to show her that you do not need her .. you QUALIFY the chicks ..
continue to flirt .. as she watches you and if she has feelings for u like in d) .. she will come to you and complain .. then ask her to shut up and kiss her
bootlegger
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you could kidnap her.
SealTeamSix
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Plan is simple. You need to act busy and flirty with other female in front of her or in her sight... meaning where ever you go, you see nice looking woman .. just go talk to her .. I would go to mall this this HB9 of yours .. go into stores where she goes to .. Mack sales staff .. make them lasugh .. have good times .. HB9 will be irritated if she has hots for you.
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LOL don't CHANGE now that you're romantic...absolute WORST thing you can do is attract her with your regular attitude and then once you realize she's interested start playing things differently trying to do what's right for her.
She's a guest in YOUR reality. Stop worrying over every little thing.
Oh, and have you actually gone beyond kissing yet?
She's a guest in YOUR reality. Stop worrying over every little thing.
Oh, and have you actually gone beyond kissing yet?
NewMan
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When she called you back, you should have told her to come on over - something like....
"Hey girl, so I'm still here waiting for you to get yourself over here - it's fun talking on the phone and all, but it's far better in person"....
At some point you've got to be agressive.
You've kissed a couple of times - you've obviously been flirting - and she's calls you regularly. What else do you need? Those are buying signals in my book.
If your not being agressive you run the risk of being LJBF'd.
It's all well and good being a challenge - and playing these little games - but at some point you need to step up to the plate and make this sh#t happen.
People take this "Being a DJ and being cool" thing a little to far. She's kissed you - you've flirted.
It's time to seal the deal or move on.
"Hey girl, so I'm still here waiting for you to get yourself over here - it's fun talking on the phone and all, but it's far better in person"....
At some point you've got to be agressive.
You've kissed a couple of times - you've obviously been flirting - and she's calls you regularly. What else do you need? Those are buying signals in my book.
If your not being agressive you run the risk of being LJBF'd.
It's all well and good being a challenge - and playing these little games - but at some point you need to step up to the plate and make this sh#t happen.
People take this "Being a DJ and being cool" thing a little to far. She's kissed you - you've flirted.
It's time to seal the deal or move on.
okay, so while i was at work a little while ago she called and wanted to see if i wanted to go to the mall with her. told her unfortunately i couldnt because i was at work but joked with her and told her to buy me some stuff, and said id love for her to come over later when i was off. she said that i should come to her place instead because she was tired from working all day. thoughts before i head over there tonight? and by the way, no, we havent done more than kiss...yet.
Hell yes I knew things would start to look up lol Go there and fvck her already! I know you can do it, the question is are you going to stand up to the plate and make sh1t happen like NewMan said? I like NewMan's way of thinking, get aggresive, take control and sweep her off her feet. And if you like her maybe you could bring some candles, and I don't mean to get all romantic and sh1t but if you two connect really well then it will be a hit. I guess now you have to ask yourself are you going to fvck her tonight or what? I think it is possible and I think you need to make a decision and stick with it, go there and MAKE IT HAPPEN.
Go there and fvck her already! I know you can do it, the question is are you going to stand up to the plate and make sh1t happen like NewMan said? I like NewMan's way of thinking, get aggresive, take control and sweep her off her feet. And if you like her maybe you could bring some candles, and I don't mean to get all romantic and sh1t but if you two connect really well then it will be a hit. I guess now you have to ask yourself are you going to fvck her tonight or what? I think it is possible and I think you need to make a decision and stick with it, go there and MAKE IT HAPPEN.NewMan
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Yes, get yourself over there - not to early though - be a little later than you said you'd be there.
Pick something up and take it with you. Desert is fun. You can grab some ice cream or something. Booze is good as well - perhaps wine - but only you can know if it's appropriate.
Be casual - relaxed. Don't stress and don't worry. let things happen. The thing is, when you see an opening take it. play with her, tease her - C&F her. you know the drill. Just don't get all stressed out.
You've made out with her before (under what conditions though? drunk? sober?) so you've done the hard work.
This will be cake.
This chick is yours for the taking - I'm almost sure of it.
Pick something up and take it with you. Desert is fun. You can grab some ice cream or something. Booze is good as well - perhaps wine - but only you can know if it's appropriate.
Be casual - relaxed. Don't stress and don't worry. let things happen. The thing is, when you see an opening take it. play with her, tease her - C&F her. you know the drill. Just don't get all stressed out.
You've made out with her before (under what conditions though? drunk? sober?) so you've done the hard work.
This will be cake.
This chick is yours for the taking - I'm almost sure of it.
when we made out was when we were both sober (this girl doesnt drink). it was probably the 2nd or 3rd time we hung out alone. her friend called to ask her something and i kissed her while she was listening to whatever her friend had to say. it lasted about 5-10 seconds and i backed away and laughed and she looked like she about had an orgasm and quickly said "im so sorry i didnt hear anything you just said" to her friend. haha. but yeah i guess maybe if i look at it from a different angle, i could totally have come off as uninterested, but i never call a girl if she says shes gonna call me. but anyways, anyone else got some advice before i head over?