Most of my life I have been an introspective person. I look at my flaws and I do my best to fix them. Well, this is one of those flaws I'd really like to iron out if anyone has any advice.
In short, I grew up with attention deficit and hyperactivity disorder. My mind has always been quite chaotic and I've always been quite restless and fidgetty. Since I quit smoking some years ago, I find it has got even harder to sit still and focus.
A few women on dates have pointed out that I seem nervous when in fact I've not been even slightly nervous. It's just the fact that I am constantly picking up things, fiddling with my clothes or my attention darts around the room. I also tend to speak too quickly and too expressive and my voice changes pitch a lot. Overall, I think it makes me appear quite goofy.
It's not just about the women though. I hate this side of myself. I keep making a conscious effort to change. I find that when I slow down and think about my actions, I have much better composure, but my mind soon wanders or I get too relaxed and I return to my old ways.
What's worse about this is that it's quite inconsistent with the way I look. I'm a big guy, I work out and people say I look like a bad ass, but my behaviour is that of someone nervous and ditzy.
Any advice on overcoming this or help learning to focus more?
In short, I grew up with attention deficit and hyperactivity disorder. My mind has always been quite chaotic and I've always been quite restless and fidgetty. Since I quit smoking some years ago, I find it has got even harder to sit still and focus.
A few women on dates have pointed out that I seem nervous when in fact I've not been even slightly nervous. It's just the fact that I am constantly picking up things, fiddling with my clothes or my attention darts around the room. I also tend to speak too quickly and too expressive and my voice changes pitch a lot. Overall, I think it makes me appear quite goofy.
It's not just about the women though. I hate this side of myself. I keep making a conscious effort to change. I find that when I slow down and think about my actions, I have much better composure, but my mind soon wanders or I get too relaxed and I return to my old ways.
What's worse about this is that it's quite inconsistent with the way I look. I'm a big guy, I work out and people say I look like a bad ass, but my behaviour is that of someone nervous and ditzy.
Any advice on overcoming this or help learning to focus more?