Help! With a girl who just wants to be friends!

[klapaucius]

My problem is complicated, and I need some help!

Basically, this girl and I had been getting quite close, and flirting with each other for about 6 months. I asked her if she
would be my date for our school prom in June, she said Yes, and it was a fantastic evening! Then during summer break, I met up once
with her, once being the only time she could see me, due to the fact that she was abroad on holiday. I asked her out to which she said yes
and seemed really happy about, and so was I!

I didn't see her in about a further month, and I started college this week, and when I saw her first at college, she was really off with me and blanked me.
When I asked her why, she just ignored me. I then got a text from her that evening saying she wasn't ready for a boyfriend and that she thought we should just stay friends.

I didn't see her for 2 days, until I walked past her in the corridor, where I said "Hi". She turned around and asked if I was free next week to meet up.
We've arranged a time and place, but I don't know what to do! I really like her, but I'm not sure if I can go back to being friends with her, due to the fact I like her!

Then I walked past her yesterday, and I said "Hi", she just looked at me like I was some stupid idiot and walked off, without saying anything?

What should I do when I meet with her? Do I tell her how I feel, or do I just leave it and have a really good time when I meet her?

I also have another problem. I have a choice of two classes to go to tomorrow, one with her in, and one not with her in but a subject I would much prefer to do? This would however mean that I would only get to see her less often, maybe only as much as an hour a week?

What shall I do! I'm sure my problem sounds pathetic!

 

[quest]

you're problem is fine.

you are pathetic.

Cruel to be kind.

Go to the class you'd perfer.

If you need to be with a girl to make her think about you, you should realise you have a lot to learn.

See her next week as planned. Say to her.

"I think you're right, we should remain single, but we should see each other, as more then friends."

This is the perfect situation, keep you're jealousy in check, and see other girls aswell, and you'll be able to have sex with her + other girls.

This is probably what she wants, so she'll do it with or without you.

You're new here, so you won't beleive me. Read this again after you've been here for 2 years, and you'll see I was right.

DO IT.

 

[brenbaus]

Originally posted by quest


"I think you're right, we should remain single, but we should see each other, as more then friends."

definatly the best way to go, throws them for a loop (look at the confused expression when youi tell her this).

 

[Lost In the Seas]

you know what, i had a problem that is very similar to yours too, by any chance, did you confess to her how much you like her? how much you thought about her? how you think she is pretty and smart and just incredible?

if you did, well there's your problem right there, read the bible and tips and find out why yourself

as your solutions, the only thing you can realistically prevent this relationship from being a wreck is make her the one jealous of you. She expected you to beg her to stay with you, asking what's wrong, calling her twice a day etc, don't do these things

ignore her just as she ignores u, and if you can, hit on her friends, flirt and play with them, it's a very powerful move, and jealousy would make her want u back

 

[quest]

Originally posted by Lost In the Seas
you know what, i had a problem that is very similar to yours too, by any chance, did you confess to her how much you like her? how much you thought about her? how you think she is pretty and smart and just incredible?

if you did, well there's your problem right there, read the bible and tips and find out why yourself

as your solutions, the only thing you can realistically prevent this relationship from being a wreck is make her the one jealous of you. She expected you to beg her to stay with you, asking what's wrong, calling her twice a day etc, don't do these things

ignore her just as she ignores u, and if you can, hit on her friends, flirt and play with them, it's a very powerful move, and jealousy would make her want u back

You're teaching him how to get this girl, and it should work. But it will not teach him the game, ultimately he'll be doomed.

klap; you have much to learn. Stay a while. Its worth it.

 

[S0LID]

Love puff

Man focuss less on her and more on the gym. If you look 10 times better we'll soon see how much she isnt looking for a b/f, then use her for sex cause she played you, dude your her little monkey boy!

 

[klapaucius]

Any more advice?

Originally posted by quest


"I think you're right, we should remain single, but we should see each other, as more then friends."

Will this actually work, and what do I do if she's confused by what I mean?

 

[Docs]

Will this actually work, and what do I do if she's confused by what I mean?

You got nothing to lose by saying it.

"I think you're right, we should remain single, but we should see each other, as more then friends." (for the confused look)

Better yet, I wonder if this would work.

It depends, I've seen you looking at me with interest, and you want to be 'just friends'....

 

[BackToTheMack]

She ignored you when you said "Hi"? Why the f**k are you still chasing her?

If you had any self respect you would have told her to f**k off by now. She is obviously playign games with you.

Your like a puppet and she is the puppet master.

Oh and take whatever class you want for f**ks sake.

 

[griffon65]

looks like your really into her. After all that bs she gave you, especially with the not saying hi back, I would say ignore her, shes a *****. But if you really wanna push it, do what the first guy said, its the best thing to do in this situation.

 

[klapaucius]

When you say "see each other as more than friends, do you mean look at each other as more than friends, or see as in go out together as friends.

 

[tmpgstx]

She's got her sights on other guys at college? She's a freshman right? Well there you go. You both are freshman in college, and she is overwhelmed with all the choices she now has, and you're on the back burner if at all.

She has time for and wants a boyfriend, don't think for a second she doesn't. She's keeping her options open for some of those attractive guys at college.

You need to dissappear, don't meet up with her. Cut it off completely and go to the gym and be competitive.

 

[V0rt3x]

all right guys: observation - YOUR ADVICE SUCK BIG TIME... **** her off... Yeah right:crackup: ... One good advice i saw was play on jealousy, and this one too:

She's got her sights on other guys at college? She's a freshman right? Well there you go. You both are freshman in college, and she is overwhelmed with all the choices she now has, and you're on the back burner if at all.

She has time for and wants a boyfriend, don't think for a second she doesn't. She's keeping her options open for some of those attractive guys at college.

You need to dissappear, don't meet up with her. Cut it off completely and go to the gym and be competitive.

My advice is get yourself a book about this stuff. I'm not talking about the DJ bible cuz it sucks. No offense to writers again. Its just the pay books are much more better cuz bible is composed of articles which give you the idea but not good enaugh (recommend double your dating by deangelo) Im not advertising - get yourself shareaza and start finidng some free books.

If youre a real dj you'd dump her if shes really not worth (worth is 9 and +) If your into her (like i think you are) your main goal should be to find out why is she acting that way. My guess is you dont have enaugh muscle weight and one of her friends said something like "how can you date that thing", or lied something about you which really made her pissed (or you actually did it). That is your main goal.

Secondary but more important is to get over her so you can control yourself near her. Shes just gotten herself a new "i'm the queen of the world" attitude (reasons - could be billions of em) This is probably a test (shes just acting bratty - no way she could be just evil, they never are. bratty attitude gives them what they whant - deep inside they know its bad BUT Y SHOULD THE STOP IF ITS WORKING: dont allow her to win) to see if your weak so dont play mister nice guy and start playing on jealousy. Bulk up. Build confidence (i can see u dont have any in your choice of words) and some self esteem. When your sure you have some start hanging around her BUT NOT TRYING TO SAY HI OR ANY SUCH BS. Try walking to her and when she starts roll eyes or what she does when your near just wlk by her. Make her ashame. Walk by her two times one day and once tomorrow and then date someone else. come to her and start speaking to the PERSON NEXT TO HER. If shes ignoring you - i say you ignore her. Try dating her closest friends. Oh and also take the class you like. When you and only when your sure into succes, try asking out on date her best (female! duh?! ) friend sitting next to her on date. When she finally starts showing interest in you play some games on her. Stand right next to her and say something like: "plz stop touching me" if she shows insecure "im sorry i didnt realise" say "yes you were touching me soif you really have to start doing it a bit higher". She cracks. If she shows playful "touchy touchy" you say "from now i keep you at bay. keep a whole inch from me!" if she starts acting bratty (not a chance) "dream on" you say "no need to be insecure. i mean i know you like me. but i dont care." walk off.

Next: start acting cool. Dont think about her. Dont show her you know her. I know this doesnt makes ANY SENSE AT ALL TO YOU but it never will. Just do it. Men percive world differently than women. So instead alowing yourself that she plays games with you take the "youre now in my reality" attitude

If you need help from now on feel free to pvt me and even though these advices here sucked ppl around here actually get lucky sometimes with finding right advices...

 

[Omni]

Originally posted by BackToTheMack
She ignored you when you said "Hi"? Why the f**k are you still chasing her?

If you had any self respect you would have told her to f**k off by now. She is obviously playign games with you.

Your like a puppet and she is the puppet master.

Oh and take whatever class you want for f**ks sake.

Word.

 

[V0rt3x]

Originally posted by Omni
Word.

NOT a good adive right before this one

 

[quest]

Originally posted by V0rt3x
NOT a good adive right before this one

take advice from a 14 year old about relationships.

 

[BackToTheMack]

Quest is right the guy is 14 he lacks the relevant expirance.

 

[griffon65]

^^ yeah besides I dont know what hes talking about when he says the people are giving the guy bad advice. He gave almost the exact same advice as the other people except he wrote 3 paragraphs on it.

 

[BackToTheMack]

Pftttt kids these days

 

[Legend]

why arent you putting ninja out anymore?