DJBond said:
Talked to an awesome girl. Had some of the best conversations in my life - hers too. Apparently she didn't have a clue I liked her. She referred to me as a friend - told her straight up "We're not friends." She was confused and dismayed- I had to clarify, "I think of you as more than a friend." She responded, "Aww, I feel special." Me: "You should."
WTF does "I feel special" mean??? Either it's the same as "Aww, you're so sweet" = "Not gonna happen" OR "I was blindsided and am thinking about it now."
Thoughts?
So many thing wrong with this.
Great conversation.
Great conversation doesn't equal attraction for women. That's romcom bullshiit. Sure you can have a great conversation with a women and she might even think that's one of the reasons she likes you, but that's only after she's already super attracted to you or you've had sex. Having long deep talks with a girl before there's attraction. Well that's a one way ticket to the friendzone. Even after attraction, a girl can be in love with you, but if it's all talk and no touching, there's no mystery and she will lose attraction. That's why long distance almost never works.
Didn't have a clue you liked her
Sure, you can play push/pull, aloof, disinterested even, but if she had no clue you liked her, it means she's never thought of you romantically or sexually. That why you have to be sexual when you interact with her and I don't mean grope her tits whenever you see her(at least not at first), but build sexual tension and escalate.
We're not friends, you're more than a friend
Showed your cards too early, took away any possible sexual tension and mystery. Might as well have told her you like her. Her reaction was just a polite feigned misunderstanding of what you said and taking it as "You're so awesome, you're even better than a friend".
You look really nice
Her giving you a safe compliment, hoping you won't take it as sexual interest on her part.
You're actions are typical of a guy learning about game, but is still uncalibrated and saying the wrong things at the wrong time. "You should" could be a nice ****y line in the right context with the right tone and bodylanguage, but it this situation is just uncalibrated. Anyway, you'll get there just keep getting more experience with women and it'll all be second nature.
