johnny_dangerously
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Gentlemen,
I'm a noob, but learning fast (3 dates this upcoming week) thanks to Doc Love & the DJ Newsletter. I, like most hackers, am slightly autistic & therefore have to study body language like an American studying Mandarin Chinese, and I would be grateful if anyone could help clear something up for me.
On the b*lls of steel web site, Dr. Steele has some body language videos, but he only discusses the clearest, most extreme cases (woman is *very* smitten, or woman hates your guts). I'm having trouble reading the ambiguous cases.
Here's an example: I walk into a cafe, dressed nice, swaggering a little. Woman looks up at me from her laptop and I smile. She does a double-take (good), but breaks eye contact by scanning horizontally (back to the laptop) instead of looking down (bad). I get my coffee, come back & make a joke, but no smile, no laugh, no response (bad). She doesn't touch her hair (bad).
This is mostly bad stuff, except for the initial double-take. Most real-life body language is mixed and ambiguous, not cut-and-dried like the books demonstrate.
Now, one of two things could be happening: (1) She is not into me at all and only did the double-take because her eyes registered motion, or (2) she's *so* interested that she's a nervous wreck.
How would you senior DJs approach? Should I have persisted after the first attempt at contact fell flat? How do you read this?
Thanks in advance for your help,
Johnny Dangerously
I'm a noob, but learning fast (3 dates this upcoming week) thanks to Doc Love & the DJ Newsletter. I, like most hackers, am slightly autistic & therefore have to study body language like an American studying Mandarin Chinese, and I would be grateful if anyone could help clear something up for me.
On the b*lls of steel web site, Dr. Steele has some body language videos, but he only discusses the clearest, most extreme cases (woman is *very* smitten, or woman hates your guts). I'm having trouble reading the ambiguous cases.
Here's an example: I walk into a cafe, dressed nice, swaggering a little. Woman looks up at me from her laptop and I smile. She does a double-take (good), but breaks eye contact by scanning horizontally (back to the laptop) instead of looking down (bad). I get my coffee, come back & make a joke, but no smile, no laugh, no response (bad). She doesn't touch her hair (bad).
This is mostly bad stuff, except for the initial double-take. Most real-life body language is mixed and ambiguous, not cut-and-dried like the books demonstrate.
Now, one of two things could be happening: (1) She is not into me at all and only did the double-take because her eyes registered motion, or (2) she's *so* interested that she's a nervous wreck.
How would you senior DJs approach? Should I have persisted after the first attempt at contact fell flat? How do you read this?
Thanks in advance for your help,
Johnny Dangerously