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midwest_kc

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Ok, this may be kinda long, but I'm going to try to explain the whole situation here so that I can get some good sound advice.

About 7 or 8 months ago, I met this girl through a friend of mine (female). Now These girls are alot like my group of friends in that we pretty much go out every night, the same group, and occasionally we would all go out together. Anyways, I was completely hammered that night at the bar, and don't remember everything, but I do know that when I ran into her at the grocery store a couple days later she said hi, and asked if I was going to the bar that we had met at that night. I was, and she said good, I'll see you there.

Well, I had alot going on at that time, and I really was just not interested in girls at that time. I just wanted to hang out with the guys, drink beer, and play golden tee. So that's what I did, though I would talk to her when I wasn't playing, seemed like a nice enough girl, just wasn't interested.

Fast Forward to about 3 weeks ago, I hadn't seen her in probably 3 months, because her dad got real sick and he had to go home to be with him, and then deal with everything after he passed. Anyways, we were at a bar, and the girls showed up, and so did she. She had gotten back the day before, and needed to unwind. At this point, it had been about a month since I had gotten laid, and decided that I should try to bang her. Then I felt bad, because I didn't wanna be the a-hole trying to get in her pants right after the funeral and everything. So I was just nice to her, made sure she was doing alright, etc. Anyways, after that the group of girls started hanging around us alot more, and I found out it was because she wanted to be around me. So I use it to my advantage, took her out, **** close. She has something about her though that I like. She might be one to hold onto a little while.

Anyways, what I wanna know is, since then we've hung out almost every night (it's been about a week and a half) and I'm wondering if that's too much. It's always been my friends and her friends with the exception of the date, but it's hard to be mysterious and try to keep IL high when we're around each other all the time. It's odd because though we talk when everybodies hanging out, I'm there with the guys, and she's there with the girls, so we're not talking the whole night, though when I go over to them she's all ears. AND if I don't come over for a while, she'll come over to the dart board/pool table/golden tee machine (I'm a triathlete! j/k) and talk me up a bit. anyways, I probably just confused you, I think I confused myself, but any advice is appreciated.
 

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U shouldnt hang out with her everyday.
Dont have u other things to do?
if not then find other things to do.

heres a few question to ask yourself:
What do you want out of her? (just sex?)
or is she LTR material?

beware of girls who just lost their dad, u might just be her father figure for the moment.
 

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thats the thing...I'm out with the boys, and her and her friends show up. I'm not trying to hang out with her everynight. I wanna know what I can say without messing things up so that I'm not hanging out with her. If I'm with my friends, her friends that she always chills with will be there, hence she will be there.
 

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thats the thing...I'm out with the boys, and her and her friends show up. I'm not trying to hang out with her everynight. I wanna know what I can say without messing things up so that I'm not hanging out with her. If I'm with my friends, her friends that she always chills with will be there, hence she will be there.

Oh ya, I definately like this one, so I'm looking for a relationship, how long term will be decided after I really get to know her.
 
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