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SO... The other night i was working at a temp job where you basically answer phones, it was for a few hours and i got lucky that a hb8ish Asian girl was assigned the seat next to mine. Naturally i struck up some convo, kino some rapport. Now knowing that i would have to periodically though the night, and that she could be released during one of those periods, i couldn't wait for the end of the night let me get your number deal. So instead i asked for her email:

So here is 2 questions

1) while she was writing her email i sed "you should just give me your number", " that's OK" was her reply implying that email is good for now. Is this a sign she is just not interested?

2) I have only done number closes before this is my first email BION. I'm not quite sure how to go about it. I don't really want to ask her out right away because if its a flake then it will be a bit awkward because we are working together again the 18th.

some help on the matter would be greatly appreciated.
 

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I don't know man. If a woman isn't open enough to giving me her number, I'd consider her not to be worth the effort.

It's a phone number. It's not like you asked her to mail you her panties.

How did you ask for her email/phone number? Did you say something like "I know this fun (event/bar). We should go check it out sometime. Give me your contact info." Or did you ask her in some kind of lame way?
 

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SIX said:
SO... The other night i was working at a temp job where you basically answer phones, it was for a few hours and i got lucky that a hb8ish Asian girl was assigned the seat next to mine. Naturally i struck up some convo, kino some rapport. Now knowing that i would have to periodically though the night, and that she could be released during one of those periods, i couldn't wait for the end of the night let me get your number deal. So instead i asked for her email:

So here is 2 questions

1) while she was writing her email i sed "you should just give me your number", " that's OK" was her reply implying that email is good for now. Is this a sign she is just not interested?

2) I have only done number closes before this is my first email BION. I'm not quite sure how to go about it. I don't really want to ask her out right away because if its a flake then it will be a bit awkward because we are working together again the 18th.

some help on the matter would be greatly appreciated.
illogical AFC thinking - trying to wriggle around rejection

what the hell how could you ask for email BUT not a number??

WTF???

it seem strange to me to ask for an email - are you gonna try and use email to "sneak" her into a date with you?

SIX said:
1) while she was writing her email i sed "you should just give me your number", " that's OK" was her reply implying that email is good for now. Is this a sign she is just not interested?

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this is womanise for "thank god i can give you my email then i can ignore you (i i ever see you again i will pretend i didnt receive it! ) ...you aint getting my number"
 

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Iceberg said:
I don't know man. If a woman isn't open enough to giving me her number, I'd consider her not to be worth the effort.

It's a phone number. It's not like you asked her to mail you her panties.

How did you ask for her email/phone number? Did you say something like "I know this fun (event/bar). We should go check it out sometime. Give me your contact info." Or did you ask her in some kind of lame way?
I know i never get emails but i asked for it first, figuring that if i asked for the number mid way though working would be odd. It wasn't lame i don't think, we both knew that we are working again together again soon. There was like a flirting corny thing about Irish soda bread (I'm Irish) and Dim sum that we were doing. So laf way i said something to the effect of " I might not be around when you leave, so give me your email so we can do dim sum" or something like that. I'm going to go for it anyway if its awkward when we work again, its awkward and ill deal. im much better at talking than conversing through email because i can gauge her reaction. any help there is needed heavily.
 

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coz u felt it was odd i bet ther was a subconcious vibe she picked up on...that didnt work in your favour

translated as - if you were truely confident youd asked for her #
 

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kingsam said:
illogical AFC thinking - trying to wriggle around rejection

what the hell how could you ask for email BUT not a number??

WTF???

it seem strange to me to ask for an email - are you gonna try and use email to "sneak" her into a date with you?


this is womanise for "thank god i can give you my email then i can ignore you (i i ever see you again i will pretend i didnt receive it! ) ...you aint getting my number"

Prolly right, needed to hear that. Though you are absolutely right, i did have to keep a convo with her for another 2 hours, and this is where some AFC bullsh!t came in to play with the email. Though this maybe a lame excuse, i would have no problem asking for the number if one of us had to leave. That said i still need a lot of AFC ass kicking to do. Going to have to email tho just to make sure.
 

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Her mind went nuts in less than 15 seconds.
This is what she went through mentally:

1) He's asking me for my email??? Oh well, I'll give it to him. I guess he doesn't have the balls to ask me for my number.

2) I guess email will help me to play it safe. Besides, he looks harmless... could make a good, new friend.

3) Now he's asking for my phone number? Huh?

4) Why didn't he ask me for the number in the first place? He's either crazy or can't make up his mind or what?

5) Screw that. Work with the email first. A real man will ask me for the number first and then I'll decide if I flake on him or not.



You don't know how to number close, but you can email close?
Is this a joke???

Remember when you asked her:

Hey, what's your email?

Replace the word EMAIL with the words PHONE NUMBER.

See how easy that is?
 

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Kailex said:
Her mind went nuts in less than 15 seconds.
This is what she went through mentally:

1) He's asking me for my email??? Oh well, I'll give it to him. I guess he doesn't have the balls to ask me for my number.

2) I guess email will help me to play it safe. Besides, he looks harmless... could make a good, new friend.

3) Now he's asking for my phone number? Huh?

4) Why didn't he ask me for the number in the first place? He's either crazy or can't make up his mind or what?

5) Screw that. Work with the email first. A real man will ask me for the number first and then I'll decide if I flake on him or not.



You don't know how to number close, but you can email close?
Is this a joke???

Remember when you asked her:

Hey, what's your email?

Replace the word EMAIL with the words PHONE NUMBER.

See how easy that is?
I dont think im making myself clear.. I can number close, i got a number they day b4 this instance. But what i am saying is that i was however i guess nervous about asking for the number mid way through working together. which i admit is still a bit AFC, but i can easily number close or at least ask in other situations.
 

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When a girl is interested she will make it easy for you. She would have given you her number happily, probably would have even suggested it herself after you said about email. Its easy to see when a girl is into you.

When a girl isnt interested you will pick up on it with a feeling in your gut.

You know she isnt very interested. It doesnt sound like she will be waiting nervously for you to ask her out. Wait like you planned to and test the waters again when your on with her again.
 

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Ease said:
When a girl is interested she will make it easy for you. She would have given you her number happily, probably would have even suggested it herself after you said about email. Its easy to see when a girl is into you.

When a girl isnt interested you will pick up on it with a feeling in your gut.

You know she isnt very interested. It doesnt sound like she will be waiting nervously for you to ask her out. Wait like you planned to and test the waters again when your on with her again.
your right but it worked in my favor, so i guess i played it right, but not really i should have just asked for number strait up..
email

Hello six,

Wow, so you actually did the whole wait-3-days-thing? Thought you forgot about me. How was I supposed to help you get out of driving the old woman? Who BTW did not seem that annoying, just old. Text me later *******.
hb
 

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SIX said:
Hello six,

Wow, so you actually did the whole wait-3-days-thing? Thought you forgot about me. How was I supposed to help you get out of driving the old woman? Who BTW did not seem that annoying, just old. Text me later *******.
hb
she sent you that?

she sounds WELL excited ... :rolleyes:
 

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yeah. We have been going back and forth and finally have a date set up for Thursday. Still getting a vibe like she's interested but not completely sold since its basically a day date, any advice on turning this into a full fledged date?. The other thing is im supposed to meet a different girl i met last week that night(she is from out of town and visiting, so the day was out of my hands), I want to make it a two date night. I never done this before, any one who does this Or has done this any pointers would be appreciated.
 
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