guys, it might be a long one but i need some advice on this because until i can get this right, i would never be able to achieve my dream as a DJ.
ok, approaches are basically of two kinds... cold approach (where she didnt notice you and has no idea about you) and hot approach (when u got her attention and she wants u to approach her)
my questions and problems are as follow but before that i would like to describe myself, my inner self and my outer self too. my inner self is I am a quite a shy boy kind and an introvert to start with and dont open easily until i get comfortable in the environment adn since i am brought up in a conservative society, dating is not so much popular and as i m 21 yrs old, dating naturally means getting into a relationship if i am looking for a quality girl or since it is a conservative society, girls that are mostly sluts are more open to a guy's approach and maybe more adventurous and very much outgoing! and outer self is I am rated >7 by most girls to be modest, as i said in some other thread and i look the soft cute romantic boy kind.
now here are the following questions:
1) regarding cold approaches, i really fear approaching this outgoing kind of girls who wears low revealing tops and low jeans or like that. u know what i mean. if she is very beautiful or with a guyfriend, then it is like out of question. i have seen negging and ****y funny comment as an opener are not quite good, rather if u just start up normally in a different way, that works in opening the girl a bit. man, since i dont go to clubs and all because i return from work by night like 10.00pm so after that i dnt get enough energy to rock in a bar or club. so i basically, i have to depend on the day game (on the streets, at a coffee shop, shopping mall) but theres the WORSE problem. i see them busy like going somewhere or busy in buying or doing something and also that im not loitering around like a jackass on the streets, i have my own life too, so i gotta be beside her or near her to say comment on something or start up a small talk but as u know that happens very less often. and again, it is not a society where girls and boys are supposed to start dating at the age of 13. so it is really some problem for me. how do i go about the day game? any ideas? on how to start up a convo? advice regarding situations? the way to start up?
2) regarding hot approaches, not much prob because i get hit on most of the time (that is a main cause that i havent been so worried about approaching) and most of the time, the girls start a convo with me. but again shy girls here, but still i think i am wiring myself up to make teh move when i get a sign, that also quite a work for me. now, when a girl shows some interest from the first, do u open straight with flirting or just start a natural convo?
guys, i need ur help here and this is a major block in my path to being a DJ.
ok, approaches are basically of two kinds... cold approach (where she didnt notice you and has no idea about you) and hot approach (when u got her attention and she wants u to approach her)
my questions and problems are as follow but before that i would like to describe myself, my inner self and my outer self too. my inner self is I am a quite a shy boy kind and an introvert to start with and dont open easily until i get comfortable in the environment adn since i am brought up in a conservative society, dating is not so much popular and as i m 21 yrs old, dating naturally means getting into a relationship if i am looking for a quality girl or since it is a conservative society, girls that are mostly sluts are more open to a guy's approach and maybe more adventurous and very much outgoing! and outer self is I am rated >7 by most girls to be modest, as i said in some other thread and i look the soft cute romantic boy kind.
now here are the following questions:
1) regarding cold approaches, i really fear approaching this outgoing kind of girls who wears low revealing tops and low jeans or like that. u know what i mean. if she is very beautiful or with a guyfriend, then it is like out of question. i have seen negging and ****y funny comment as an opener are not quite good, rather if u just start up normally in a different way, that works in opening the girl a bit. man, since i dont go to clubs and all because i return from work by night like 10.00pm so after that i dnt get enough energy to rock in a bar or club. so i basically, i have to depend on the day game (on the streets, at a coffee shop, shopping mall) but theres the WORSE problem. i see them busy like going somewhere or busy in buying or doing something and also that im not loitering around like a jackass on the streets, i have my own life too, so i gotta be beside her or near her to say comment on something or start up a small talk but as u know that happens very less often. and again, it is not a society where girls and boys are supposed to start dating at the age of 13. so it is really some problem for me. how do i go about the day game? any ideas? on how to start up a convo? advice regarding situations? the way to start up?
2) regarding hot approaches, not much prob because i get hit on most of the time (that is a main cause that i havent been so worried about approaching) and most of the time, the girls start a convo with me. but again shy girls here, but still i think i am wiring myself up to make teh move when i get a sign, that also quite a work for me. now, when a girl shows some interest from the first, do u open straight with flirting or just start a natural convo?
guys, i need ur help here and this is a major block in my path to being a DJ.