help me

[CapedCrusader08]

I am feeling more and more desperate and depressed each day. I seemingly cannot put together something to get out of this,other than doing whatever activity fills my emptiness. They're are 17,18 year old guys out there able to pull they're **** better together than me, and here I sit constantly thinking and not doing. I don't if it's a lack of looks,personality,self confidence,talents,or negative traits. What can I do? Please,help me.

 

[Metaphysical]

so what's the problem if it's not your looks, personality or confidence?

 

[WC2]

I pity the nice people who waste a lot of time replying to you.

You've asked the same questions time and time again. We've given you advice (mind you advice is GOLDEN, it doesn't come everyday) and you won't even follow it.

The only thing that will get you out of your pathetic existence is a kick in the nuts.

You're pathetic, stop posting on here and go talk to people in real life. A computer and keyboard will not help you.

 

[CapedCrusader08]

that's the thing, I talk to people all day, yet I come home,and I am miserable.

My problem is this constant sense of emptiness/loneliness, and a lack of sex, and the general companionship in life. Plus,not really having a hobbie,other than work,and some other things. It's this sense of isolation and inferiority and anxiety,and still being a bit socially awkward and not the person I want to be, or maybe I am overexagerting simple things.

 

[Stéphane]

Only goals, and ambitions will set you free. Life is about creating your own purpose, and taking control of your destiny.

Girls will neither bring you happiness, or set you free.

 

[CapedCrusader08]

yeah,but they can give you the sex you want. What skill did I not pick up on while I was growing up? I know I was weird at times,and saw,and still do,see people as followers all trying to fit in and be like any and everyone else,or it's something else even.

Plus,I had/have goals,but they are seemingly stifled more and more,alot of it is to do with either a lack of planning or my educational setbacks,and I guess social ones as well.

Plus,maybe I am misunderstanding alot of what's on this site,for instance,pretty girl with big tits,I think damn! You guy's say afc,giving her too much attention,etc. Well,where is the line drawn so to say? Or she is avg looking,don;t bang her,don't get involved in relationships,too much baggage/drama,don't get married,ultimate one-itis,she will screw,you will be chump guy she settles for etc,all of which is true,but what about when and if it's not?

Also, I am readin this plentyoffish.com profiles,in hopes to maybe meet someone, and alot of them say the same,personality is important,needs to be spark/chemistry etc,well how do you do that? What if you lack something that causes that,maybe due to depression? Or maybe I just need to start hitting the bars and dealing with rejection....

 

[horaholic]

Cut out the negativity.

Either see a shrink, and get on some meds, or go to church and find Jesus. Those really seem like your only options. Noone here has any "magic" words to pull you out of your cloud, yet you keep asking. I also suggest watching The Secret. It might make you look at life a little differently. Quit posting about your depression on here, as you will get flamed, and it will add to your negativity.

You know what? I dont wanna see one more post out of you, unless its a field report of some kind of progress in your life, even if it is small. And every post thereafter, should contain one more positive thought, or action than the last. If you fail to do this, I will personally bash you. There is PLENTY of shyt on the internet to help you look at yourself differently, and even more in real life.

GO DO, READ, OR AT LEAST THINK SOMETHING POSITIVE, EITHER FOR YOU, OR SOMEONE ELSE.

Also, I want you to make a list of everything you are grateful for, and read it aloud ten times a day. Every day, add something to the list. If you're not grateful for what you have, you dont deserve SHYT more!!!!!!! Think you can handle that, or is it too much effort???

Hell, I've been on serious dryspells sexually, and I'll tell you what: IM REALLY FVCKING GRATEFUL I HAVE A FVCKING RIGHT HAND!!!!!!!

 

[CapedCrusader08]

I have been in what seems like a dry spell my whole life,aside from the few times it did happen. I mean, I went,and still do,through years of virtually no female contact/interaction,sexually,it makes you think will I even get married and have a family? The whole passing on of the genes,am I attractive? worthy,etc,and with this hanging over you're head,it's hard to see otherwise. I know you are thinkinh cry me a river,but this has become a major concern for me, no dates,relationshipis,hookups,etc, and yet everyone else is having it fall right into they're lap. It's extremely lonely.

 

[horaholic]

So you ignored everything I just said.

 

[CapedCrusader08]

No, I didn't ignore it, more like, no matter what, I can't do anything to make myself feel better.

 

[Irs88]

capedcrusador wow man. so pathetic. Im sure if i can do this, anyone can. I was ****inn suicidal man. Drove my car past 100 MPH on some street..only 17 years old!! I LOVED the feeling of being depressed. I purposely screwed myself over with my crushes and friends because the feeling of depression is what I lived off.

The first thing i did to get out of it was to stop being so PESSIMISTIC. have some faith. FAITH man. it helps. SCREW girls for now. do what YOU WANT TO DO. gym? sports? bowling? WHATEVER you want so you can brag about it to girls. The key thing I learned(one of the most important things) was in order to get girls, I didnt have to work on girls first, but MYSELF. By working on yourself you will get more self-esteem and confidence. This will make you not a push-over, and will help you grow some balls.

Oh so you don't get puss*y if you work on urself. Yea, thats right, I didnt get Puss**y yet. NO PUSS8Y. But guess what man?? Iv never been happier about my life. Im so PROUD of how much I changed. Im so PROUD of myself for being able to talk to a cute girl. I am so PROUD of my new self. Everyone notices. They ALL mention it too. I look at all the people from home. Still unhealthy, self-centered losers who play videogames all day. I broke free man. And I owe it all up to believing in myself

You got to change your attitude man.

 

[horaholic]

No, I didn't ignore it, more like, no matter what, I can't do anything to make myself feel better.

Yes, you can. Anyone can.

What exactly have you tried? My guess is nothing at all. Have you got on meds? Been to church? Made a list of what you're grateful for? Set goals, and embedded them in your mind with self affirmations? Ever read a spiritual or self help book? Or better yet, followed any of the advice? Have you ever, in your life woken up and said to yourself "Today, my attitude will be great"?

Are you some kind of masochist who jerks off whenever someone on here bashes you?

 

[Kerpal]

Start lifting weights. I used to be a lot like you. I didn't whine as much, but I was probably just as depressed. Training is the best thing I've ever done for myself. Come to the Health and Fitness forum if you need help getting started.

 

[CapedCrusader08]

That's just it, I have felt this way for so long, it's like I just want to hear advice,not actually help myself. So much time,19,20,21,22,23,has gone by,people finishing school,starting families,maybe I am thinking too ahead of myself. I can't see past it to anything else. There is something holding me back.

I haven't even gotten up,gone out,.tried,and tried again and acomplished something,it's inside me,but something is lacking. Maybe it's equating success in the wrong ways/places. Maybe I like feeling this way too much. All I can think about is this lack of things in my life,and how that's all I have ever really wanted. Women being one of them. I mean, one thing is,I have looked at so much porn, I am now starting to worry that that's all that can turn me on. I can't even get up,go out,and even try talking to women, and it keeps growing as a problem. I am approaching mid twenties,and this is still a problem. This is where I need help the most.

 

[Dedication]

You have been doubting yourself the moment you got in this community. Did you ever study any pickup material or the DJ bible and stick with it?

I sirriously doubt you have because i see you making threads all over the place asking questions which would solve themselfs out if you just went out and kept pushing forward.

Don't ask random questions because the answer isn't going to help. Accapt what you do and don't know and move on. You can't just come in here and resist all the advice we give you. Thats waisting time man. Do something or stay AFC. Its your choice.

 

[horaholic]

I just want to hear advice,not actually help myself.

When you read this, please start banging your head against the wall...Harder..... HARDER. Aim for the Morrisey or Robert Smith poster I know you have hanging on your wall. If I was a mod, I would start locking every thread you start. I swear you remind me of a chick I used to date. No, wait. She actually went to a doctor to try to help herself. I dumped her anyway, cuz she was a downer, but at least she tried.

Come on, man. I want ONE positive thought, action or goal. Write some poetry or something. You'd probably be good at it. Lets hear it.

Or, why dont you get pissed and tell me how much of a dyck I am, and how you'd kick my ass if you ever saw me. At least then I'd think you actually have a penis.

 

[Jaggs]

He should be banned.

 

[Aragon034]

I've avoided posting in your threads, but i feel the need to hit your head with the falcon punch of captain obvious.

If you won't help yourself, no one will.

I'm almost hoping you're just a troll, trying to get the "don juans" to show their true colors. well here are mine. Go to the garage, grab that hefty looking tool there, go back to your computer, don't stop hitting said computer until nothing remains but broken pieces of unrecognizable electronics.

After all this, go out and do something with your life. Get a better job, join a social group, reconnect with old friends, I don't give a rats ass what you do. Just get off the internet and into your life.

Otherwise you're going to end up being that 42 year old obese guy who chats on IRC as a '17 year old swedish lesbian" while eating a bucket of kfc with one hand, and your penis in the other.

 

[CapedCrusader08]

Actually,I hate Morrisey/The smiths,haha. Not too much of a cure fan either.

And at one point in time, I was sort of the guy you described with the bucket of chicken,and yeah....


No, I have not studied any pick up material,it seems like this unreachable concept to me. I mean, I can see the idea,but can't make the action, so I guess it's been lazyness all this time,and some bout of depression,of course I can't say officially,only a doctor can. I guess I have some serious self doubt issues,I mean I can drive a car,I can do my job,I can spend countless hours on here,doing nothing,but can't shift the energy. I guess I can't push forward,could be a learning problem as well.

I was at a bookstore earlier today,and saw this, http://www.amazon.com/When-Things-C...5719/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1231009734&sr=1-3, and it talked about two things that caught my attention,the affect of pornography one someone,something of concern to me,and how isolation/lack of social circle can affect one even into adulthood,something I think may be a problem. I read these self help books,only to find myself relating to the problems,rather than solving them. And it's not like I am like this around people,although I probably do come off a bit shy,or maybe I am making the problem(s) more than what they are.

 

[oakraiderz2]

Youre just like elstud, a stubborn dumbass. Stop posting the same **** over and over and over without even ATTEMPTING to better your life. Sit at your computer and waste away until you pull your head out of your ass.