help me please..... for a date

[Grunt]

Ok, I am 23, and been full-time college and work... So I have never really had the time to explore the dating scene. I used to work at a place, and after about 3 tries, this girls finally said yes, and gave me her phone number... I was in the friend zone at first, but havent seen her for like 3-4 months, and just called her. She has had bad luck with guys, some not calling her, and her old long-time boyfriend went to jail. She has always known I liked her, and I have flirted with her before, but I have never really been on a date... So here are a few questions, as I am truly wading into some deep mysterious water here.

1) Do I take the initiative, and choose the dinner place and the movie or do i let her...

2) Do I go balls to the wall, and go for a kiss on the first date, or is it *****ish to ask for it? And should it be a big kiss, or a little peck?

3) If I asked her on thursday, should I call her on friday, saturday. I dont want to look like im desperate, but I dont want her to lose interest either...

4) Does a true duan jaun make reservations, or not?

5) I read in an article that a real duan juan gets the movie tickets beforehand, but it seems to me that is kind of loserish? Someone please clarify.

6) Also I am not hugely talkative, so any pointers on good convo starters might be good. I already know a load about her, so that might be hard...

7)Should I walk her to the door or what?

anyways, I am a nooblet when it comes to dating, so please god give me some pointers and some courage....

 

[animal crackers]

You should realize now instead of later that this won't work out. You're too inexperienced.

Aproach 500 girls right now. I'm not even joking.

 

[BrotherAP]

1) ALWAYS take the initiative. You choose where, when, and how, and have a secondary option if she objects for whatever reason to the first plan. Women love men who are bold and dominant.

2) You go for a kiss whenever there is an oppurtunity to do so. You never ask for it, you just go when intuition tells you to do so. When you hear the little voice in your head say "kiss her", do not ignore it. Make it on the lips, and make it last, don't be afraid. It's weak and submissive not to take the kiss when the moment arrives, so go balls to wall.

3) Call her when you feel like it. It's good not to call her immeadiately, but it sounds like you already talked to her, so I don't know. I'm not going to encourage nit-pickiness on this point

4) A true Don Juan is always prepared. The only excuse for not having reservations is if you are so well liked at this particular restaraunt that you don't need them.

5) If there is any risk of the movie selling out, then having the tickets ahead of time will be a very good move. Like I said, a true Don Juan is always prepared.

6) Talk about experiences, tell stories, and focus on positives. No whining, no ex bf talk, no death, taxes, financial troubles, job insecurities. Talk about things that feel good and are fun, interject humor.

7) Walk her to the door, open doors for her, pull out her chair, and treat her well. Don't supplicate, however. Your small acts of kindness demonstrate that you are a smooth gentleman.


You have much reading to do. I suggest "Weapons of Mass Seduction" by Senor Fingers, "Kill that desperation!" by Pook, "Be a man!!" by Pook, and then whatever else you find relevant.

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Weapons of Mass Destruction E-Book by Senor Fingers (large file, adobe acrobat required)

Pook - Kill that desperation!

Pook - Be a man!

 

[Funkopotamus]

When you pick her up to go out tonight walk right up to her and give her a kiss on the cheek!

DO NOT shake her hand! This is a very bad move. Just walk up and lean over and kiss her right below her cheek bone this does two things.

A)Makes you look like you are experienced in the dating field.

B)Lets her know right up front that she is not on a business meeting and that you are interested in her.



I would spend some time reading up on body language today and get a few basics down. This lady might be throwing buying signals all night long and if you do not pick up on them she may think you are not into her in this way.

 

[Kaparski]

First dates you can take her to the park....the times ive done it i was very successful.

Im really all-over-theplace kind of guy, so maybe if you want, take her to a beach and just dive in there (no hesitation) shell join ya. Or, have her join on one of your graffiti attacks ahahahahahah

 

[themanwithnoname]

you ask too many questions, shut up.