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[phoreus1911]

I'm new to this site. I've posted something on here that has made me think about myself, and what I've truly done. Long story short, I must learn to and endure forgetting about a girl I have grown feelings for. I have found the DJ bible, and I plan to disappear for a week or two with little to no contact from people that I know and truly concentrate on myself. (I realize that this takes time, but I figure this can do me some good)

I feel like this can't begin unless I eliminate these feelings I have for this girl. I have an idea of what to do. I think I should keep myself busy with school work, and other activities, but the part that I get hung up on is when those thoughts of her come up. I use to just acknowledge the thought and try to move on, but lately it just persists. I'm sure that some of you may have had this happen to you, I'm asking for tips or something for when this happens. I want to be able to go up to her, talk to her and feel nothing if this is possible.

PS (if it's not too much trouble): (I bumped into her today, and she said that we should work out together, and that I should call her, how should I not workout with her yet not be a jerk about it?)

 

[d!ckmojo]

Visualise an energy cord coming out from your navel, and constantly sending the energy of attraction towards her. No matter where she is, she is being a drain on your energy, because you are so hopelessly attracted to her.

Visualise that energy cord and then cut it! Use all your emotion to slice through that mothafvcking hot red jet of energy, feel with all you power the release and freedom of no longer having the energy of attraction leaving you and going into her.

Then just get on with your life. Every time from then on when you think of her again, be mindful of the energy cord coming out of your navel, and consciously cut it. Think "I don't need to be a slave to my emotions, I can feel the way I choose. I don't need any one else, I especially don't need her".

This strategy helped me once, although it was a time long ago.

 

[sinnerman]

PS (if it's not too much trouble): (I bumped into her today, and she said that we should work out together, and that I should call her, how should I not workout with her yet not be a jerk about it?)

being a jerk is not that bad..especially if you're dealing with rejection or bad behaviour..let her initiate all contacts...dont be available..be aloof..and most important hang out with other gals and make sure your female friend knows about it.

it might seem counterintuitive to be a jerk to someone you love and are attached to...But you've gotta do it...there are only two possible outcomes :
1. she starts getting attracted to you and you win
2. she is indifferent in which case you win as well as you dont invest yourself further by being nice to her, listening to her problems, etc.