Okay well anyways, this girl whom i use to kind of be friends with started talking to me again today, and talked to me about how she's going to a psychiatrist. STRIKE 1. Anyways, i tried to kill the subject by telling her "How does you going to the psychiatrist do anything to improve my day? Get over your petty problems....." So i make her cry...... I felt like the biggest ******* ever so i apologized. THEN she started telling me her problems.... FVCK strike 2. Which includes how her dad use to beat her mom, etc. and how she cuts herself WTF! Now she won't quit talking to me. **** **** **** **** ****
Help me get out of this situation! I ****ed up bad!
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MY GOODNESS DUDE!!! Man,you wasn't playin around when you said how bad you screwed this situation up. Wow,I don't remember the last time I've seen one interaction with so many mistakes and errors. And you want to get out of this. Hmmm. You said that this is a girl you used to be friends with,right? Well,if you're not interested in dating her,I don't see the harm in listening to her every now and then. That thing you said about how does her going to a psychiatrist do anything to improve your day,why in the world did you say that to her?Jokerlsk said:
I understand you wanting to change the subject,but why that? That was kinda cold man. This isn't the same girl you made a thread about yesterday,is it? The one who you said was "mesmerizing" and has your friends hung up on her.
Wow,and now she's telling you about her family issues (dad beating mom)? And her cutting herself? You got yourself in a good one this time man.:crackup:
Alright,let me get serious. This happened because you have a weak frame Jokerisk. It's like this:You and this girl approached each other. Either you're going to control the conversation,or she is. This convo will go towards your life,your friends,your interests,your family issues,or she'll control the convo,and the talk will go towards her life,herfriends,interests,her family issues. If you want to fix this,then the next time you two talk to each other,don't even give her a chance to get started. You say hi,she says hi,then if she says something like,"I'm going to the therapist on Friday",remember,if you start talking about that,then she's drawing you into her mixed up/screwed up world. Don't let that happen man. If she says that to you,you respond with something like,'That's cool. I'm sure he'll be able to help you out. Hey,that reminds me out something. Have you ever...". Then go off into another direction. Draw her into your fun-filled life. Don't get dragged into her cutting/abusive filled world.
Yeah man,you slipped up here,but so what. I like the fact that you clearly identified the mistakes in your interaction with her. You got all of them,didn't miss a one. You know what? I'm going to give you a rep. point.
You've grown. You deserve it.
Thank you. Hell to the no this isn't that girl i mentioned earlier. I"ve never mentioned this girl on ss ever. I said that so she would leave me alone because she's kinda odd, but i messed up instead. Thank you for the advice bro.
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Cuts herself eh?
BPD alert.
You shouldn't of apologized.
She would've fvcked you later that day.
Oh well move on no friendship or casual talking with this walking cancer.
BPD alert.
You shouldn't of apologized.
She would've fvcked you later that day.
Oh well move on no friendship or casual talking with this walking cancer.
Yeah I agree. Bipolar.KontrollerX said:
Again. Spot on. You can bang this chick behind the dumpster at the movie theater and maybe chuck her in after. You've already got her crying. You're 98% of the way there. The rest 2% is the ride to the movie theater.
Now who's crazy? This chick will eagerly polish your knob (she probably thought about it plenty of times) like no one ever has. Just play it cool. When she begins talking about her problems, take her to her house. Use plenty of touch! This is a practice chick.Jokerlsk said:
Aw man. I wish I knew a hot bipolar chick. The fun you can have with her, and then chuck her after.
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"Yeah I agree. Bipolar."
No.
BPD stands for Borderline Personality Disorder.
Thats what I meant dude. :yes:
No.
BPD stands for Borderline Personality Disorder.
Thats what I meant dude. :yes:
Wait. So THIS is BPD?! I always thought this was bipolar behavior. Do they go hand in hand?KontrollerX said:
It doesn't work like that. She will find or construct problems by herself anyways. She doesn't even like herself.Jokerlsk said:
You would probably be doing her a favour. You're the least threatening of her worries.
You've got alot to learn. Its not a weakness its who and what she is. Hang around her and you'll see who the weak one is. She will wear you down and get inside your head. Or at least try. Depends how strong you are, how good she is, and how well she can read you.Jokerlsk said:
BTW. Having sex with a chick is not taking advantage. If she willingly consents to it (exceptions: retardation or intoxication). Sex is mutual.
IT's a moral issue with me, and i'm not stooping to that level. Personally, I'm not ready for sex, and I've got a lot of expectations for myself. I don't want to hang around her, i don't wnat to get to know her, I know how to handle myself. You sound like an immoral person
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Oh snap!!! I had to log back in for that one. Good one Jokerisk. This reply even impressed me. I like that you stand by your values and won't take down,even for a roll in the hay with some mentally unstable chick. But listen. Kontroller X is right with that thing he said about how you shouldn't have apologized. I caught that one too,but I didn't mention it because I didn't know if you were interested in dating her or not. If you were,then you apologizing was a mistake. If not,then it doesn't matter. Alle_Gory was right when he said that you still have a lot to learn. You've learned a lot here on the forum Jokerisk,but this thing that Alle_Gory is talking about,I'm 100% sure you don't understand what he means. And it's hard to explain. This may be something you'll just have to go through in order to understand what he was saying. And yes,it WILL BE PAINFUL. You'll have to experience it in order to "get" what he's saying.Jokerlsk said:
I know you disagree with Alle_Gory,but what he said about you hanging around this girl in order to find out who the weak one is is right on man.
Unfortunately,there are some things that only experience can teach you.
I have been around BPDs before so I understand they're not regular people. What is it you believe I am immoral about?Jokerlsk said:
If you really want to get this girl to leave you alone, be nice to her. All the time. She can't stand it at all. Notice how you insulted her she clings to you and begins telling you all this crap? Exactly. Do the opposite and she will run.
You can say something like:
I really like you. You're such a nice girl. You're funny and friendly and I really want to be friends. I can't believe you cut yourself because you're really special and... yadda yadda.
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I love the fact how you've been around BPD chicks before, even though you didn't know what BPD meant until Kontroller X, stepped in. Nice one man.
I have values that differ from yours. I'm not into fvcking hoes, and getting laid as much as possible. Being a DJ isn't about that, even though it's mutated into that by some people. Being a DJ is about being a man, and like Igetit said in his new thread, you don't have to be an a**hole to be a man. Screwing this girl would just be wrong, and I don't think nailing girls when they're weak is being a man. My definition of a man wouldn't do that.
I have values that differ from yours. I'm not into fvcking hoes, and getting laid as much as possible. Being a DJ isn't about that, even though it's mutated into that by some people. Being a DJ is about being a man, and like Igetit said in his new thread, you don't have to be an a**hole to be a man. Screwing this girl would just be wrong, and I don't think nailing girls when they're weak is being a man. My definition of a man wouldn't do that.
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"Wait. So THIS is BPD?! I always thought this was bipolar behavior. Do they go hand in hand?"
Yeah unfortunately a lot of borderlines also have bipolar disorder on top of their horrific personality disorder which makes the overrall package of them even worse for whoever gets to be the current momentary star of their soap opera.
Yeah unfortunately a lot of borderlines also have bipolar disorder on top of their horrific personality disorder which makes the overrall package of them even worse for whoever gets to be the current momentary star of their soap opera.
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BPD, bipolar, same sh*t to me. Both unstable.Jokerlsk said:
You want to see who the weak one is? Go hang around with her. She will try to get into your head. One of my former BPD 'friends', we had such a great connection. We both liked the same things, similar opinions about things it was awesome at the time. Then the drama started, then the waves of emotion. Sometimes she was happy, sometimes sad. Then she started to change her appearance. The hair (style and color), makeup, clothes. Sometimes she wore goth-style clothes, sometimes what regular girls wear. Then she professed how she was in love with me from when she met me years ago... and etc.
I didn't know she was BPD at the time. She told me she was bi-polar and that she's been going to a shrink for years. Apparently all the shrink ever does for her is pump her full of meds.
Anyways, this all got really annoying so I stopped paying attention to her. She tried, and did hook up with other guys, who apparently went crazy on her ass, and would tell me about it. Maybe to make me jealous?? Anyways, still didn't give a ****. She eventually got the message and left me alone.
Oh yeah, and she cut herself regularly.
She looked and acted like any other girl when I first met her.
You're right. You don't have to be an a*hole. You have different values than mine and that's great.
I explained to you before, its not a weakness. It can't be fixed, so its not weak or strong. It just is. She is messed up inside because this is how she grew up.
