To cut things short I dated a BPD girl for 3 years and almost lost myself. I finally got the courage to break it off and put her in NC. After been here I started to read up on BPD and everything started to makes sense , this ***** almost sucks the life out of me... I stopped enjoying things I used to love doing , became beta and people pleaser.
Today I made a commitment to take EVERYTHING I lost back. She started dating 3 weeks after a 3 year relationship and I'm pretty sure they are in a relationship now. I can't lie it hurt me for a while even though I was surrounded by girls. But now I want to CHANGE everything. The key part is I'm doing this NOT to get back with her but to benefit my self as a man.
Currently -
21 years old
Got into Electrician Apprentice this year ( Good pay now which increases in the future) So career is check.
I go to the gym for soccer and basketball about 3 days of the week.
I deleted my instagram , snap chat and currently only using Facebook and Twitter but I rarely post anything ...this was because I stayed up looking through my tweets/post since been with this girl and ALMOST EVERYTHING became beta posts and attention seeking posts.
I cut contacts with friends that brought nothing to the table , my close friends are not 3 old times friends and work crew members.
My goal : To become a MAN not another ball with money.
I need all the tips and experiences you guys have for me and I will updated thus thread as I apply them to real life.
Anything from self esteem boosters , books , how to speak and become a MAN.
I have set a goal of buying a house in the next 2-3 years , most of my paycheck when I start work in January will be going to my saving as I live with a single mother and she is not forcing me out. I figured to save and buy a house rather than rent my own place right off the bat.
As for girls , right now it's not my biggest priority , I want to build my self as a MAN first ...and I must admit I don't know my father and never had a father figure to guide me.
I think I got by in life by playing a lot of sports , I managed to create bonds and become team captain since I was in elementary school through to high shool.
Body type -
Tall - 6'4
Weight - Around 230
I'm committed and ready to learn and read everything you guys have me with. Help me become a MAN guys !
Today I made a commitment to take EVERYTHING I lost back. She started dating 3 weeks after a 3 year relationship and I'm pretty sure they are in a relationship now. I can't lie it hurt me for a while even though I was surrounded by girls. But now I want to CHANGE everything. The key part is I'm doing this NOT to get back with her but to benefit my self as a man.
Currently -
21 years old
Got into Electrician Apprentice this year ( Good pay now which increases in the future) So career is check.
I go to the gym for soccer and basketball about 3 days of the week.
I deleted my instagram , snap chat and currently only using Facebook and Twitter but I rarely post anything ...this was because I stayed up looking through my tweets/post since been with this girl and ALMOST EVERYTHING became beta posts and attention seeking posts.
I cut contacts with friends that brought nothing to the table , my close friends are not 3 old times friends and work crew members.
My goal : To become a MAN not another ball with money.
I need all the tips and experiences you guys have for me and I will updated thus thread as I apply them to real life.
Anything from self esteem boosters , books , how to speak and become a MAN.
I have set a goal of buying a house in the next 2-3 years , most of my paycheck when I start work in January will be going to my saving as I live with a single mother and she is not forcing me out. I figured to save and buy a house rather than rent my own place right off the bat.
As for girls , right now it's not my biggest priority , I want to build my self as a MAN first ...and I must admit I don't know my father and never had a father figure to guide me.
I think I got by in life by playing a lot of sports , I managed to create bonds and become team captain since I was in elementary school through to high shool.
Body type -
Tall - 6'4
Weight - Around 230
I'm committed and ready to learn and read everything you guys have me with. Help me become a MAN guys !