help for a veteran

[Someone Much cooler]

So after a slump I have decided to try and improve a few simple areas in my life. I just moved to NJ, on the out skirts of NYC, and am trying to do a few things to improve my life overall on a day to day basis. I have decided to focus primarily on education, employment, and Social life, in secondarily getting back into fitness (boxing and lifting) and my hobbies, drag racing and auto restoration.

Employment-Looking for work but am having a lot of trouble due to my mid day school schedule, 2 days a week. Does anyone know any places or have any sources that could help me find employment? I’m not extremely selective, jus don’t want to be treated poorly and be able to make enough to cover rent.

Education-I turned words into action and enrolled at a local Community College, a lot of my credits transfer so I have continued going to school for physical therapy, this semester I have anatomy 2 days a week for four hrs.

Social: Here is an area I’m lacking, Since I’m new and go to a community college a lot of the students are considerable younger than me, and in a different place in life, while not a bad thing on anyone’s part, I really can’t relate to a lot of things their into. I’ve learned from my mistakes so I’m trying to surround myself with people who can positively contribute to my life as a whole. This summer I recently got out of a 3yr LTR and since us getting back together isn’t written in stone, I’m trying to return to the game and improve my skills as a PUA. If you look at my older posts (before I got w/ my ex) I was actually on point with my G. The 1st thing I’m trying to work on is, id like date hotter women, I know its shallow but it’s me being real. I pound out a lot of HB7s, occasional meet a few hb8 but never dig out any HB9s or HB10s. While I date women of all races, colors and creeds, I get a lot of play from Black, then Spanish and lastly white girls in that order. Here is where it gets interesting, the HB7 black women will approach and flirt with me, usually like 4 per wk. I take em but I’d rather hotter ones (HB8+) but I never seem to get an opportunity to meet any. Spanish mamis, my age (25), usually never approach me, but the ones I pursue and get to smash are usually (HB7-). I’m near a 4yr university and so I have met a lot of white girls, and while im meeting a lot, im not a student there so I’m not really part of their social cliques or on the “inside” of the circle. The white girls are usually (HB7+/-) but on the plain side. Occasionally ill meet a few average Asian chicks but that’s a rarity. Now I know culture and family influence comes into play when dating outside your race but my homeboy out in Brooklyn bags shawtis of various races. Hopefully someone can give me some insight. Ive considered it being me but usually i get great feed back form women overall. I'll give details or post a pic if needed.I think if I can improve upon these things ill be a happier and more positive person. I’ll be a better BF when I meet someone and a better human being overall

 

[Someone Much cooler]

damn no one has any feed back?

 

[Serg897]

Hey man,

Im like you when it comes to pulling lots of HB7's, occasionally HB8's, but the 9s are difficult. Im not sure I have anything to say about this besides the obvious fact that its a number game, and that the more women you meet and the more opportunities to meet them you put yourself in the higher the chances you will meet one you like (and likes you back).

Also, good job going to school. The economy is in the sh!tter and the more competitive you are the better.

 

[semperfkemall]

Hey im in similiar shoes. Vet as well, about the same age and returned to school this spring. Socially Im struggling.

I have about jack shlt in common with the rest of the college crowd, and they are younger. The people i graduated high school with in 04' are already gone and graduated from college.

I've managed to run into other vets in the school crowd, but have befriended 0 of them, seems that when i get around to telling them my occupational speciality it turns into a who has the biggest dlck/ whos the hardest/most alphaish. This is a common demeanor in the vet crowd. and its really annoying as I dont care for it. Anyway maybe im just a fvckin loner.

As far as gaming the younger college girls go (not sure if this is what you mean is an issue), I have had some success,but not tons. None the less, from the success I have had, here's what I've learned.

Dont try to immerse yourself in their world too much(I.E. college parties and cliques). In the mind of a 18-21 year old college chick, social proof= how many friends you got and associated parties you have access too. you need to seperate yourself from such a reality. for me, I dont go to too many college parties (some), and dont jive (though i would like to) super well with their cliques, as i dont have much in common with them.

So, i aim to bring the girl into my world. I got my own apartment, not a stupid dorm. I live downtown ,walking distance from the bars and clubs (can be an issue if they're not 21). I live near the beach, and hiking trails. I have a couple friends my age. I bring the girl into my life, which i like to think of as a little more adult. And they will too. If I hang around their crowd too much doing things with their peers, I seem to not do as well.

------------
On the other hand, within their college context, on a note of success: (ill give a brief lay report from this saturday, dont mean to hijack the thread though. )

I picked this girl up this girl from a halloween college party. For my costume, I simply wore my dress blue uniform top, and aviator sun glasses. Of course people are going to ask if I am in the military or marines, and my response was "lol no, I got this from a surplus store, your crazy". This worked well to tool girls if i later decided to tell them I was actually in the military.

So I met this 18 year old freshmen there, worked in me tooling her about my costume's true nature. In a conversation i casually worked in the " i just dont feel like I have a lot in common with this college crowd", after making her guess my age. (*key point, dont come off condescending about being older. no one likes that shlt). anyway, cut to her dormroom 5 blocks away.

I HAVE TO HIDE UNDER HER BED FROM HER R.A.'s CAUSE ITS LOUD IN HER ROOM. Im 24, a vet, and hiding from some toolbag RA's in a dormroom and her and her friends are scared! i dont have a damn thing to loose. HAHAH. well again, i dont say what im thinking, as it wont serve me to be too consdescending.

But I want to break her reality of this high schoolish dormroom aura a bit, and integrate some of my reality into the situation. I am nonchalant about the whole situation, and am just like "hey this is all kind of funny. Im just going to go out there and talk to them (the RA's), ill take care of it". they stop me of course, as that would not help. But I just continually show that while I am concerned for her situation, I personally am unaffected.

anyway, her and her roomie manage to lock themselves out of their room, while we flee from her RA's. We have nowhere to be alone , and i failed to get her to come back to my place... We just are just groping eachother and making out in the hallway. We sit down on a couch by the elevator (lot of foot traffic here) and she starts feeling me up and such.

I see a poster about outdoor excursions and wordly indiana jones themes on the wall and ask what thats about. she says the theme for her dorm floor is adventure. I say "thats cute, we got a bunch of little adventurers in here" slightly condescending, but i try to make it sound funny as opposed to derogatory, just letting her know my reality isnt this dormroom stuff. anyway, shes getting all hot and bothered. I end up just pulling her into the elevator and fvcking her. haha.
-----------

ANYWAY. my point is reguarding lessons learned, work your adult, non-college kid life into her reality, not working yourself into hers. all without coming across condescending, i find this helpful. not sure if this is the type of feed back you were looking for.

none the less, I still have a lot of the same issues as you.

and since not all college girls are 21 or have an ID, whos got some tips to work them into my world if they cant par-take in a big part of my none-college party nightlife? (thats a big chunk of my social proof)

 

[blueline]

OK, I'm in your same boat. I've dated a few of these college b1tches, and it's honestly getting embarrassing as a 24 y/o graduate student to be going to college frat parties (although I have a friend who's almost 26 doing this same exact nonsense and he has a semester left of undergrad, lol). Even worse off, I live at my parent's house (my parents let me bring girls back home, but it's still awkward for the girl), so it's like I'm doing worse than the kids who live in dorm rooms. Regardless, I slept with a bangin' 19 y/o for the tail end of last spring and the entire summer. She didn't care and would bang me in a house full of cat dander which she was extremely allergic to.

Word of caution: I did NOT party in undergrad at all. My grades were nearly perfect and I graduated with a 3.7 GPA in Cognitive Neuroscience. I started doing the party thing almost every weekend in grad school, and holy hell, has it hurt me. Last Monday I actually dropped a class for the first time in my life. We need to find some way to meet the cuties without going to their parties (pot, alcohol, and other drugs are AWFUL for my memory recall). I'm involved in a student organization, but there are really no cuties in these things. As for my classes, there oddly enough are not many attractive girls in Speech-Language Pathology courses.

 

[Someone Much cooler]

blueline unfortunatly the courses we take, Science majors do carry alot of women but the hot ones arent smart enought to really float. To pass u gotta be focused and not really have a life. I'm goin for PT but i do cover neuro-science in the curiculum, B/Bl barrier, PNS ect. Frat parties but unless ur in the frat ur playin on someone elses turf and usually the freshmen there are groupies.
semperfkemall
No thread jack, im glad to see im not completely alone. I do meet alot of girls but alot of em are still young and need time to grow and mature to my level, nothing against them cause i was there when i was their age but i cant deal with them in the present, maybe future when they have been seasoned. I'm glad your having some success, i do get lays regularly but my basic stance is, "If your new girl isnt better/hotter/smarter than your current/last chick, why make the jump? in other wards always imporve never stagnate."
Serg897 thanx brother for the feedback, your right it is a #'s game but im really not meeting any older hot ones.

I'm considering stepping up my swagg a lttle. Usually i dress well, but not im trying to tighten it up. Jcrew, Express, R.L.Polo and bostonian clark seem to cater to the well rounded pick up artists well.

 

[SandHawk]

I always wondered: Why are you putting so much emphasis on the "veteran" part? It's not like you're anything more special than the rest of the world because you've done army time, and possibly even been abroad. Sure, it means you're 'behind' in life in certain areas and ahead in other areas, but why show it around like a status symbol?

 

[Someone Much cooler]

lol @ Sandhawk in the title of my thread, where i wrote vet, i meant a vet to "The Game", Ack, as in Mackin females? Ur drawlin over something so miniscule,relax a lil fam. Soooooo anything useful to contribute? I see your 27, do you have any advice for us?

 

[semperfkemall]

@ sandhawk, im not implying it means anything. simply that i can relate to the poster in the whole coming back to the college scene after being gone abroad for years living a different lifestyle. its a different mindset, and one i get. and apparently he meant something else, lol.

 

[Someone Much cooler]

lol guess were sol

 

[Someone Much cooler]

put a few pics for insight on how i come off

 

[BigJimbo]

lol @ Sandhawk in the title of my thread, where i wrote vet, i meant a vet to "The Game", Ack, as in Mackin females? Ur drawlin over something so miniscule,relax a lil fam. Soooooo anything useful to contribute? I see your 27, do you have any advice for us?

What does "drawlin" mean? "Fam"? "Ack"?

 

[Someone Much cooler]

lol "Drawlin" is Phili slang. The root word is drawing (unwanted) attention. you know kinda acting out. Fam is short for family, philly slang too. Its like calling someone bro or son. Ack is also philly slang and is short for Acki, which means brother in arabic.

 

[Solomon]

SMC

as a fellow "brother" I suggest you tone the "slang" down, a lot of these guys who posts are suburban white cats, or white European nationalists i.e. Big Jimbo. In terms of your post, first respect on going back to college, if I had the will/direction I would be there too, I know i will be eventually but the sooner the better

Secondly, with the job I can't call it, my cousin just moved out to NY (the Bronx) and he is struggling as well, matter fact he is doing night school, the only thing I can suggest is keep looking and keep the faith.

In terms of how you doing, your already doing better then 90% of the board, there is nothing wrong with slaying 7's (or even 6's) you wanna go up in the upper echelon, I think your doing the right thing as cultivating yourself as a better man. Right now I'm struggling to get 7's cause i put on some weight bruh and its hurt my game.

Just keep doing you, you doing fine playa

Too add on

If you approaching another race, you may have tone down your directness, for instance you can't always be as direct with a white chick as with a black. However I digress, it's all about peeping the vibe and body language etc.

Come correct and race isn't an issue at all

1

 

[Someone Much cooler]

oh its cool if ppl r white suburban cats, regardless of race everyone uses slang-ie "dude" so ill just have to put em on to my phili slang. lol I def started a movement called "phillies fitteds in the bronx". the nyc guys def were not feeling that.

Job ok ok well if you know anyone who knows anyone keep me in mind. after your cuz of course.

thanx on the motivtion tip, i mean its weird tho-the 6-7.5s think im a god, they flirt unmecifully with me. The 8's tho its like idk like a glass ceiling, they might think im alright but its not like the 7.5s who practically eat out my hands. I mean they practically salivate for me, but the 8s really dont notice me. I just wanna jump over that threshold. Then again i have a real loose social circle and i know friend base is what gets you in with the security blanket type of girls.

Actually i am pretty toned down with girls, in general. I mean the choach isnt goin anywhere so i dont really go hard anymore, but i think the biggest factor is maybe girls dont feasiblely see being able to integrate me into their culture with out neg feed back from fam, soc circle ect. An while they might think im attractive maybe it simply isnt enough to make them willing to take the risk of feeling heat an ostricism from their family.

 

[j0n24]

I think your doing well....you seem to have a thing in your head that older guys shouldnt talk to young girls even though its legal.

I'm in almost the same exact boat hahah....I'm older then alot of people at the college I go to but it doesnt seem to really matter.

Last semester I was in a summer class and apparently noone told me it was going to be infested with HS kids trying to get ahead...needless to say I was the oldest guy in there besides the teacher...think 21yr old swimming in a class of 16-17 yr olds. Hahah I thought it was fun but if you have the age advantage it should be easier.....these kids barely got out of the nest all they know is packing in a car 6 at a time and going drinking in the middle of nowhere.

I agree though that our major does have lots of girls which you should take advantage of , setting up a study group with your target is a good way to isolate without going direct then if it doesnt workout just get a new study group.

Oh also since we are doing the same thing I thought you should know...go to the lending library and tell them you are a minority in your major (Our major is basicaly dominated by women sooo we get free stuff) then you can get free books for the class.

 

[Someone Much cooler]

jon24 its not that i think its wrong its just that i would like to date and mingle with women, not children. idk maybe im having a moment of clarity of some drawlin ****? its kinda easy but the girls @ my school still like the "bad boys". They want a guy that looks like a rockstar or lil wayne. and if u checked my pic u will see that def isnt my look!!!

 

[Someone Much cooler]

My new years resolutions/ life goals

Bringing in the new years:
How to achieve happiness on a day to day basis
I.Stabilize life

​

A.Find/Keep reliable job

​

B.Acquire all my transcripts & stay @ on College

​

C.Get my own humble apartment where I know I can stay peacefully

​

D.Maintain Reliable transportation to & from work.(have back up)

II.Enjoy life

​

A.Have interesting leisurely life

​

B.Spend time doing things I enjoy w/ others (car clubs, cruises, boxing, chess, +shows)

​

C.Spend time doing things I enjoy alone (day trips to new places/cities, foods, racing)

​

D.Reward myself w/small treats(desserts +foods that please me)

III.Improve Relationship with god

​

A.Go to masque on jumuah

​

B.Make salat

​

C.Cut back sins I can help(cursing, negativity, clubbing, drinking)

​

D.Gain more Muslim peers & people who can contribute to my life in a positive way

​

E.Read the holy Quran

​

F.Visit Mecca once

IV.Successful relationship

​

A.Avoid females who are attention slores/time wasters

​

B.Avoid female friends who are fitnah/xena(trouble)

​

C.Respect the woman I’m with like id want her to do me

​

D.Give her myself completely 100%

​

E.Be understanding, supportive & compromise with her.

V.Secure better health

​

A.Keep inner peace by avoiding bad karma +negative ppl

​

B.Build an exercise schedule that I can keep & will produce results

​

C.Build a better sleep schedule

​

D.4 balanced meals a day

​

E.Vitamins

VI.Increase Productivity

​

A.Block out more time 4 studying

​

B.Try and invest in myself & not spend pointlessly

​

C.Work hard for my Entertainment company

​

D.Save money.

​

E.Stay out of trouble and make better choices

 

[ARrocket]

lol "Drawlin" is Phili slang. The root word is drawing (unwanted) attention. you know kinda acting out. Fam is short for family, philly slang too. Its like calling someone bro or son. Ack is also philly slang and is short for Acki, which means brother in arabic.

Fam isn't Philly slang, heard it all the time back in Milwaukee too. People all over the country use it I'm sure.

 

[Someone Much cooler]

yea Ack neva said "Fam" was an exclusively philly word. We dont own the rights to it.