Hi all. I have a question that I need answered. I recently got the number of an HB9 in one of my classes at school. I think she has a decent IL in me since she gave me her # even though she has a b/f. I first broke the ice with her when we were sitting in class listening to the teacher drone on about English grammar. She was sitting next to me and I noticed that she was looking kind of bored. She must have thought I looked bored too because she asked me something along the lines of "This guy doesn't know what he's doing." I responded back with "Yeah, he makes this a lot harder than it is. I've been teaching myself since class started." I decided to try to strike up a conversation with her, but I wanted to do something that was a little more interesting than "So, what's your name?"
I drew a tic-tac-toe board on my notebook and put an X in the center. Then I tapped her on the arm, pointed at the board with my pen and said "I'm bored" with a grin. She smiled back and started to play. Then after that game was done she started to make a couple other games on a piece of paper she had and we played those until class ended. Then as we were leaving class I was talking to her a bit. I found out her name and I told her mine. She stuck her hand out for me to shake, which I did. I was about to # close her at this point, but her cell phone went off so I bailed out and told her I'd see her later. I didn't want to be following her around while she yacked on her cell phone.
Let's fast forward to this past Thursday. She sits next to me in class again. We make a little small talk about class, but I don't want to talk too much during class this time because I want to listen to the teacher. We have a quiz at the end of class and we both finish around the same time. She tells me bye as she gets up to leave to hand in her quiz to the teacher. I walk up to her as she is leaving the class room and tell her to wait up for me outside of class. She says "Ok. I"ll wait in the hall." So I turn my quiz in and go out in the hall determined to get her # this time. I make some small talk about the quiz and we start walking towards the end of the hall. I wait until just before we are about to part ways and I say "I've gotta run, but could I have your phone # so I can call you sometime?"
She says "Well, I have a b/f or else I would give you my #"
I kind of smirked when she said this so she must have thought I didn't believe her because she said "No, I really do have a b/f." I wasn't totally prepared for this response from her so I'm thinking fast now and I say something like "Give me your # anyway and we can just go out as friends." She gave me her # after that and told me not to call her on the weekends because she works in a town that is about 45 minutes away from the school and also that she and her sister share a cellphone. Now, I think instead of working she is probably visiting her b/f on the weekend and doesn't want to get in trouble with him if I call on the weekend.
I was thinking about calling her late-ish on Sunday night and asking her out for Monday night or I could call her up on Monday afternoon and see if she wants to do something on Monday night. I was planning on taking her to shoot some pool because I want to keep building rapport with her and I also want a chance to apply some kino. My roommate also suggested we go out for coffee, which is something I've read quite a bit about on the boards. The only problem I have with the coffee date is that there isn't really a good opportunity to apply kino and it seems kind of boring.
If anyone has read this far, what do you make of her IL? Is there anything you think I should do that I haven't done already? My main concern is building rapport with her so if anyone could offer some advice there that would be good. I know about c/f and I'm going to review the DJ bible over the weekend for some ideas. Thanks for reading and I appreciate any help anyone can give me.
I drew a tic-tac-toe board on my notebook and put an X in the center. Then I tapped her on the arm, pointed at the board with my pen and said "I'm bored" with a grin. She smiled back and started to play. Then after that game was done she started to make a couple other games on a piece of paper she had and we played those until class ended. Then as we were leaving class I was talking to her a bit. I found out her name and I told her mine. She stuck her hand out for me to shake, which I did. I was about to # close her at this point, but her cell phone went off so I bailed out and told her I'd see her later. I didn't want to be following her around while she yacked on her cell phone.
Let's fast forward to this past Thursday. She sits next to me in class again. We make a little small talk about class, but I don't want to talk too much during class this time because I want to listen to the teacher. We have a quiz at the end of class and we both finish around the same time. She tells me bye as she gets up to leave to hand in her quiz to the teacher. I walk up to her as she is leaving the class room and tell her to wait up for me outside of class. She says "Ok. I"ll wait in the hall." So I turn my quiz in and go out in the hall determined to get her # this time. I make some small talk about the quiz and we start walking towards the end of the hall. I wait until just before we are about to part ways and I say "I've gotta run, but could I have your phone # so I can call you sometime?"
She says "Well, I have a b/f or else I would give you my #"
I kind of smirked when she said this so she must have thought I didn't believe her because she said "No, I really do have a b/f." I wasn't totally prepared for this response from her so I'm thinking fast now and I say something like "Give me your # anyway and we can just go out as friends." She gave me her # after that and told me not to call her on the weekends because she works in a town that is about 45 minutes away from the school and also that she and her sister share a cellphone. Now, I think instead of working she is probably visiting her b/f on the weekend and doesn't want to get in trouble with him if I call on the weekend.
I was thinking about calling her late-ish on Sunday night and asking her out for Monday night or I could call her up on Monday afternoon and see if she wants to do something on Monday night. I was planning on taking her to shoot some pool because I want to keep building rapport with her and I also want a chance to apply some kino. My roommate also suggested we go out for coffee, which is something I've read quite a bit about on the boards. The only problem I have with the coffee date is that there isn't really a good opportunity to apply kino and it seems kind of boring.
If anyone has read this far, what do you make of her IL? Is there anything you think I should do that I haven't done already? My main concern is building rapport with her so if anyone could offer some advice there that would be good. I know about c/f and I'm going to review the DJ bible over the weekend for some ideas. Thanks for reading and I appreciate any help anyone can give me.