HB who auto LJBF's you..

[drift king]

ok some girls are just flakey but most are just flakey cos their not interested.

i met this HB last week, and she is a pain in the a$$.. she doesn't save my number (which is not necessarily a bad thing cos she therefore doesn't screen the call and always picks up) we were suppose to meet last saturday she cancels on me so i rearranged for the next day.. but she forgets when i call but we manage to meet up only cos i said i already left the house when she tried to cancel 2 mins later..

i met her off facebook so i have to make allowances cos im just a stranger.. she gave me grief 9 months ago when i first got her number about how she can't make plans..

this p1ssed me off.. but i have to accept that she doesn't put a bf before her friends.. if anything she puts her friends 1st.

 

[drift king]

i call her after our date last week and she still hasn't saved my number (the last thing i said to her was for her to call me when she's free.. how on earth she going to do that if she hasn't saved my number??)

if she auto LJBFs you how do u get around this? i call her today she didn't pick up she calls back but only cos she didn't recognise my number and i say let's meet up mon or tues.. she says maybe tues.. b1tch doesn't give me straight answers..

does this definitely equal low interest?

she's always like this with everyone. but you'd think she'd be happy to speak to me if she was interested from last week.. is that too much to ask and i'm reading it right?

 

[wjh]

Yes, this is low interest. 9 months later bro? She's not interested in you. You're also not her boyfriend. And don't let this piss you off! Be cool! There's no need to get mad and it sure as hell won't do you any good. So relax and find other girls (approach, approach, approach).

Maybe you didn't show her how awesome you are (without being so blatant). In other words, maybe she didn't get a chance to see how cool you were (her loss).

Whatever the case I would not give a girl any attention if she can't even manage to save my number. I don't care if she does this to everyone, that's not an excuse.

 

[SharinganUser]

Next her, and don't ever act like a chicks BF

 

[drift king]

Yes, this is low interest. 9 months later bro? She's not interested in you. You're also not her boyfriend. And don't let this piss you off! Be cool! There's no need to get mad and it sure as hell won't do you any good. So relax and find other girls (approach, approach, approach).

Maybe you didn't show her how awesome you are (without being so blatant). In other words, maybe she didn't get a chance to see how cool you were (her loss).

Whatever the case I would not give a girl any attention if she can't even manage to save my number. I don't care if she does this to everyone, that's not an excuse.

let me fill you in on the whole story.. it's 9 months cos when i previously tried to make arrangements with her she told me off the bat she can't give people straight answers or definite times.. (i thought BS..) i asked her about it and she got angry about it saying how she gets enough grief from her friends and didn't want to hear it from someone she hasn't even met..

so i left it and forgot about her.. 9 months later i called randomly i was deleting numbers in my phone book.

this time round today when i made that call.. she gave me the answer 'maybe tuesday' i should have followed up with well give me a definite day and i'll reserve that night for you..

knowing how she reacted 9 months ago i reckon she'd have got p1ssed with me.. maybe i should have risked it?

i need to have a sit down with her and explain that this behaviour isn't acceptable or respectful.. cos i dont think she realises how rude she is..

 

[Prod]

She realises, but she doesn't want to give you a straight no because she doesn't want the discomfort and awkwardness that would bring about.

I've posted this before, but think about your behaviour when someone who you don't really like tries to make plans with you. Not just a girl, but even people from work/college. Most people automatically go into the whole "Maybe, blah blah" mode and never say a straight "No, I don't want to hang out with you"

She is not interested at all, if she was, you would know it. You will not brute force a girl into being interested by persisting in a situation where she doesn't even want to contact you back.

 

[shaunuk]

Don't bother with this one any longer mate, she's not really interested.

 

[A-Unit]

let me fill you in on the whole story.. it's 9 months cos when i previously tried to make arrangements with her she told me off the bat she can't give people straight answers or definite times.. (i thought BS..) i asked her about it and she got angry about it saying how she gets enough grief from her friends and didn't want to hear it from someone she hasn't even met..

so i left it and forgot about her.. 9 months later i called randomly i was deleting numbers in my phone book.

this time round today when i made that call.. she gave me the answer 'maybe tuesday' i should have followed up with well give me a definite day and i'll reserve that night for you..

knowing how she reacted 9 months ago i reckon she'd have got p1ssed with me.. maybe i should have risked it?

i need to have a sit down with her and explain that this behaviour isn't acceptable or respectful.. cos i dont think she realises how rude she is..

Dude, sit downs RARELY work, and definately not on a girl who's NOT your GF. Even for guy's with a gf, the route of a "sitdown" is like scolding a woman, and if she's not emotionally invested equal to or beyond our IL, then it's a losing proposition. It demonstrates beta behavior and ultra low status. A guy of value would just walk, knowing that he can find better elsewhere.

The back story doesn't matter. Time doesn't matter, unless it's time spent TOGETHER. Not bull**** texting, internet, facebook, or drinking buddies, but F-ing, romantic, involved, emotional TIME. Connection. And it has to be OBVIOUS to everyone, not something built on faith by the guy.

Alot of guys chasing women, whether they believe or not, build this connection up in their heads or misinterpret her actions, PARTICULARLY girls in their 20's, which is a time women are quite "out there."

Drop her. Move on. If you don't have girls begging to chill, to go out, and do "whatever", when they have low interest. If they "tag along" or rarely call but do things, then they're probably bored or waiting for the bigger better deal.

Know that guys have women who CHASE them. Who set up dates and buy langerie. And no, they aren't fat, ugly, or desperate women chasing them. They are women who know the man is different. It's not rocket science. But you have to be INTO life first and be content ALONE, to make it happen with women.

A-Unit

 

[wjh]

it's 9 months cos when i previously tried to make arrangements with her she told me off the bat she can't give people straight answers or definite times.. (i thought BS..) i asked her about it and she got angry about it saying how she gets enough grief from her friends and didn't want to hear it from someone she hasn't even met..

You shouldn't have asked her about it you should have laughed and negged her. This is pure immaturity on her part. She has some sort of princess attitude.

so i left it and forgot about her.. 9 months later i called randomly i was deleting numbers in my phone book.

lol did she even remember you?

this time round today when i made that call.. she gave me the answer 'maybe tuesday' i should have followed up with well give me a definite day and i'll reserve that night for you..

Dude, this girl doesn't deserve a date. She's some girl you just write off. If a girl can't make plans for her own life how do you plan on making anything happen with her?

knowing how she reacted 9 months ago i reckon she'd have got p1ssed with me.. maybe i should have risked it?

Of course you should have risked it, or at least negged her. Call her a bratty child who probably forgets to brush her teeth in the morning.

i need to have a sit down with her and explain that this behaviour isn't acceptable or respectful.. cos i dont think she realises how rude she is..

NO. Next her. You can try asking her out on another date, but anything other than a definitive YES to a date, time, and place you've thought of is a NO and a rejection. Get used to it, it happens.

She's not your daughter or LTR, sitting her down with her little bratty attitude is pointless. Treat her the way she deserves to be treated, like crap, until she proves to you she's worth more than that.

 

[drift king]

You shouldn't have asked her about it you should have laughed and negged her. This is pure immaturity on her part. She has some sort of princess attitude.



lol did she even remember you?



Dude, this girl doesn't deserve a date. She's some girl you just write off. If a girl can't make plans for her own life how do you plan on making anything happen with her?



Of course you should have risked it, or at least negged her. Call her a bratty child who probably forgets to brush her teeth in the morning.



NO. Next her. You can try asking her out on another date, but anything other than a definitive YES to a date, time, and place you've thought of is a NO and a rejection. Get used to it, it happens.

She's not your daughter or LTR, sitting her down with her little bratty attitude is pointless. Treat her the way she deserves to be treated, like crap, until she proves to you she's worth more than that.

i hear what you're saying..

regardless if she's busy eating or whatever should i at least expect her to talk to me for 2 mins or at least offer to phone me back sincerely later to discuss our next date matter rather than act as if she can't take the call cos she's out?

here's the rest of the scenario.. i called later that evening she didn't pick up nor call me back (so i assume she's saved my number now.. given she always calls back a number she doesn't recognise)

by 1pm yesterday i still hadn't had a call back (i prob should have waited longer but i didn't care anymore so i just gambled and tried to set up another date)

i didn't want to call her so i just sent this long text message (which was really an email long...) and i mean long! but it was structured more creatively as directions of where to meet dress code not saying exactly what i had planned but gave hints..

it went along the jists of:

i tried calling to say this but u didn't pick up yesterday, im going to be busy next 3 days so wont have time to call so i'm texting instead,it's long so bear with me: for our next outing i got something just as fun as tennis planned (but not as tiring) its a surprise so i won't spoil it by saying exactly what it is. it consists of 2 parts: 1st part is active 2nd part is chilled. intrigued what it is? you should be. dress code: dress nice for part 2, part 1 dress code isn't necessary. give me a day u can definitely do so u don't cancel last minute and i'll book u in. so no 'maybe wednesday' or 'i'll let u know' please, just give me a day and time i.e. friday 9pm. i'll reserve that night for u if u reserve it for me. so be ready. dress nice. and i'll pick u up.

see this is email length.. but i couldn't guarantee when she'd see it so i risked texting.. this was LONG!! and my impressions were she's either a)going to think it was quite creative or b)more likely - what a psycho.

but cos everyone's told me to next her i thought i'd gamble and just punt..

8 hours later i get a reply surprise surprise but she's still not done what i asked for..

her response was 'hey.sorry for the late reply. im at a casting monday then i am off to thailand. so hope to see you when i get back. cos it really did sound very interesting.'

my 1st reaction was WTF? you didn't answer my question or answer what i asked for!!

then i thought ok fine she's going away for god knows how long so she can't give me a straight answer yet but it still sounds flakey.

i don't know when she's getting back.. but i was thinking of negging her or saying something along the lines of

'tut tut. you're losing points with me now.. you didn't give me an exact day and time i specifically asked for! i expect u to give one as soon as you're back. have a good hol.'

any ideas of something else i can say that be better that negs her for being dumb and not giving me a straight answer?

i imagine this above is risky cos she could throw back in my face 'well too late you've already lost me.'

i understand why she can't give me a straight time cos she's not back for a while but i still see it as a sign of her annoying flakiness not committing to a time and im trying to drawing attention to it.

then leave it and wait for her to see if she gets back to me.. otherwise next her

is it even worth following it up in like 2 weeks?

 

[drift king]

You shouldn't have asked her about it you should have laughed and negged her. This is pure immaturity on her part. She has some sort of princess attitude.



lol did she even remember you?



Dude, this girl doesn't deserve a date. She's some girl you just write off. If a girl can't make plans for her own life how do you plan on making anything happen with her?



Of course you should have risked it, or at least negged her. Call her a bratty child who probably forgets to brush her teeth in the morning.



NO. Next her. You can try asking her out on another date, but anything other than a definitive YES to a date, time, and place you've thought of is a NO and a rejection. Get used to it, it happens.

She's not your daughter or LTR, sitting her down with her little bratty attitude is pointless. Treat her the way she deserves to be treated, like crap, until she proves to you she's worth more than that.

i hear what you're saying..

regardless if she's busy eating or whatever should i at least expect her to talk to me for 2 mins or at least offer to phone me back sincerely later to discuss our next date matter rather than act as if she can't take the call cos she's out?

here's the rest of the scenario.. i called later that evening she didn't pick up nor call me back (so i assume she's saved my number now.. given she always calls back a number she doesn't recognise)

by 1pm yesterday i still hadn't had a call back (i prob should have waited longer but i didn't care anymore so i just gambled and tried to set up another date)

i didn't want to call her so i just sent this long text message (which was really an email long...) and i mean long! but it was structured more creatively as directions of where to meet dress code not saying exactly what i had planned but gave hints..

it went along the jists of:

i tried calling to say this but u didn't pick up yesterday, im going to be busy next 3 days so wont have time to call so i'm texting instead,it's long so bear with me: for our next outing i got something just as fun as tennis planned (but not as tiring) its a surprise so i won't spoil it by saying exactly what it is. it consists of 2 parts: 1st part is active 2nd part is chilled. intrigued what it is? you should be. dress code: dress nice for part 2, part 1 dress code isn't necessary. give me a day u can definitely do so u don't cancel last minute and i'll book u in. so no 'maybe wednesday' or 'i'll let u know' please, just give me a day and time i.e. friday 9pm. i'll reserve that night for u if u reserve it for me. so be ready. dress nice. and i'll pick u up.

see this is email length.. but i couldn't guarantee when she'd see it so i risked texting.. this was LONG!! and my impressions were she's either a)going to think it was quite creative or b)more likely - what a psycho.

i really should have said 'date' instead of 'outing' but given our 1st 'date' was just playing tennis didn't really seem like one..

but cos everyone's told me to next her i thought i'd gamble and just punt..

8 hours later i get a reply surprise surprise but she's still not done what i asked for..

her response was 'hey.sorry for the late reply. im at a casting monday then i am off to thailand. so hope to see you when i get back. cos it really did sound very interesting.'

my 1st reaction was WTF? you didn't answer my question or answer what i asked for!!

then i thought ok fine she's going away for god knows how long so she can't give me a straight answer yet but it still sounds flakey.

i don't know when she's getting back.. but i was thinking of negging her or saying something along the lines of

'tut tut. you're losing points with me now.. you didn't give me an exact day and time i specifically asked for! i expect u to give one as soon as you're back. have a good hol.'

any ideas of something else i can say that be better that negs her for being dumb and not giving me a straight answer?

i imagine this above is risky cos she could throw back in my face 'well too late you've already lost me.'

i understand why she can't give me a straight time cos she's not back for a while but i still see it as a sign of her annoying flakiness not committing to a time and im trying to drawing attention to it.

then leave it and wait for her to see if she gets back to me.. otherwise next her

is it even worth following it up in like 2 weeks?

 

[drift king]

does it sound like she's still just stringing me along?

 

[Warrior74]

Everyone gave you good advice. Now here is some tough advice to swallow,

YOU ARE THE CREEP DUDE SHE MET ON THE INTERNET WHO WILL NOT GO AWAY!

SHE WILL NEVER MEET UP WITH YOU, YOU CREEP HER OUT.

This is you buddy. You have become that guy. She's not stringing you along, she's not wishy washy on time, SHE DOESN'T LIKE YOU! Not interested. Don't wanna know ya. Wishes she had the balls to tell you to stop calling but because she's a woman she doesn't. STOP CALLING THIS GIRL.

She's going to thailand? LOL probably not...just feeding your dumb ass some BS so you'll stop calling for a while. Wise up, learn to take an hint. Sorry for the dent to your ego man, but seriously...let it go bro, you lost this one. Move on and keep playing the game.


Here is some hope for you....wait and see if she texts or calls after she "gets back" If she does...she's interested. If she doesn't she's not. Now go out and meet 10 women this week and see if you still remember her when she "gets back"

 

[drift king]

i've already met up with her once.. it's not like i haven't met her.. it changes the scenario now. do you see the difference?

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Which, is why you don't meet girls off the internet. Get some confidence and approach women in real life. Get off gaybook, hor space, and any other b.s. dating site.

 

[KingBeef]

Here is some hope for you....wait and see if she texts or calls after she "gets back" If she does...she's interested. If she doesn't she's not. Now go out and meet 10 women this week and see if you still remember her when she "gets back"

Well said

 

[drift king]

ok well i sent her a text i intended after and she 'seems' to be interested but i'm still a little unsure cos she's still not given me a time and is back from thailand in 1 week.

i literally said as i did in my previous that she didn't do what i said and offer me a time like i specifically asked for and that i expect one when she comes back..

annoyingly she seems to keep giving me half yes's to make me think she's interested.. i get back 'i am back in one week, so if i still have a chance i would like to fulfill our mission.'

ok that isn't an exact time like i asked her so i'm not holding my breath.. i guess i'm going to have to set a time now a week in advance but cos she's so flakey and generally a bit airheady with her commitment to plans i feel as if i have to say 'so don't forget' at the end of my text.

'ok let's say next monday 9pm. reserve that night for me.'

because i know what she's like she'll probably forget, if i add the 'so don't forget' so it reads
'ok let's say next monday 9pm. reserve that night for me and don't forget.' does that appear too clingy or needy like i'm assuming she will forget (which she probably will)?

i tried twice now to get her to offer me an exact time she won't flake yet i get back these answers.. is it my responsibility to state a time and day?

i just imagine the scenario with her when i call next week 'oh i just came back from thailand i'm really sick... can we do it another time?'

i think in this case she may actually offer another time but i expect her to cancel

 

[drift king]

well i got an ok from her for next week, no more games just straight answers.. am i fooling myself and it's just that she's intrigued to see what it is that i want to take her to is so special?

i feel like it's being touted like im just trying to impress her so therefore chasing therefore not the prize.

i guess it does not have to be that way if i change the way i act, maybe it seems like it's more a 2nd chance for me to demonstrate my authority cos ever since i pulled no punches and was firm she seems to be acting accordingly.