HB flakes tonight and is now blowing up my phone

[sylvester the cat]

Date 2 was set up for next Monday as I am working tonight/weekend. After she sends me sexy pics I tell her to meet me tonight after I finish work at 21:30.

18:45:

HB: I cant make tonight work lot have dragged me out and won't be home till late tried getting out of it but i can't. do u drive? (Translation - I've got a better offer but just in case it doesn't work out i want to know if you will be at my beck and call later)

Me: lol. no problem. have a good one.

HB: Wish u was here. (Translation - do i still have your attention?)
ME: no answer.
HB: so do u drive?
Me (an hour later): lol. not at the moment.

21:36 - HB rings my phone. I don't answer. no message left.
21:50 - HB rings again. i don't answer. again no message.
22:23 - HB rings again. i dont answer

Clearly her better offer didn't materialise and as I don't need anyone to be happy I'm in no hurry to service her needs right now. she can wait.

 

[Bingo-Player]

so let me get this straight

1) she's gone out with work and gotten herself drunk ( no cost to you)

2) you don't have too spend ANY effort just do whatever you where gonna do and then go pick her up

3) your almost guaranteed the best type of sex in the best possible position you could imagine where you are sober and she is drunk = (fllth)

it seems to me that you are upset she blew your date off to go out with work

my question is why do you even care ?

you don't want this girls hand in marriage you want her hands around your c0ck ?

you clearly know what your doing but i don't understand the end product of this situation

 

[sylvester the cat]

so let me get this straight

1) she's gone out with work and gotten herself drunk ( no cost to you)

2) you don't have too spend ANY effort just do whatever you where gonna do and then go pick her up

3) your almost guaranteed the best type of sex in the best possible position you could imagine where you are sober and she is drunk = (fllth)

it seems to me that you are upset she blew your date off to go out with work

my question is why do you even care ?

you don't want this girls hand in marriage you want her hands around your c0ck ?

you clearly know what your doing but i don't understand the end product of this situation

The end product here is to show her that I am not someone she can blow off and pick up as and when she feels like it. Although the temptation to answer her call in the hope that she is going to give me hot sex is strong the reality is she is probably just checking to see how much of a chump I am that will drop everything to pander to her needs. i am in control of this situation, not her.

 

[LMFAO]

There is a chance you are her backup plan, and she went out with another guy and found him boring. I've had that with one girl, she even admitted it a few weeks later.

Rejecting a girl is not always a bad strategy, she could well be begging for it even more so. It can definitely set the right frame.

Personally I would have not responded for a couple of hours, they sent her a "?" text at 11:30. Gone to her house and banged her. I think she was going to put it on a plate for you.

 

[AttackFormation]

I see Bingo's point but I agree with sylvester. Getting to the point where you have enough pvssy/self-control to drop girls who do this is what you want to do. I'd agree with Bingo if she messaged sylvester much later and offered to come to you, but she told him she couldn't come to the date they scheduled and then barely an hour later she now wants to see him after her other option didn't work out. And she says she "couldn't" get out of it and wants HIM to drive to see her after she flaked. Wow!

 

[Bingo-Player]

unfortunately if she already has that mentality hardcoded into her you will do well to ever be able to change it

i go for win - win situations whilst they present themselves and this sir definitely is one

in this scenario you aren't pandering to her your looking for a lay , she is drunk and is looking for c0ck

answer her call if she starts playing stupid put it down

no skin off your nose

 

[sylvester the cat]

Ok. Just to put any doubt to rest - I texted her:

Me: You okay babes. What's up?
HB: I was goin to come see u. In bed now. Night xx (Translation - you could have got laid tonight despite me flaking on you but because you didn't pander to my needs when I wanted you blew it muthafvcker)
Me: Lol. Night. (Translation - big fvcking deal)

For some reason she's sh1t testing the hell out of me. No doubt because I'm 15 years her senior.

 

[sylvester the cat]

i go for win - win situations whilst they present themselves and this sir definitely is one

i don't buy it. she could have left a message or texted her intention to come and see me but she didn't. had i answered she would have been validated. this one can wait.

 

[skinnyguy]

This is the problem with dating these days.

If you text a girl back, you're pandering and she loses interest.

It's like you can't win either way.

 

[Between_The_Lines]

Ok. Just to put any doubt to rest - I texted her:

Me: You okay babes. What's up?
HB: I was goin to come see u. In bed now. Night xx (Translation - you could have got laid tonight despite me flaking on you but because you didn't pander to my needs when I wanted you blew it muthafvcker)
Me: Lol. Night. (Translation - big fvcking deal)

For some reason she's sh1t testing the hell out of me. No doubt because I'm 15 years her senior.

Who created the signs of attention wh0ring thread recently? This belongs in there as textbook attention wh0re dialect - ("I meant to come see you, but you know how my friend is..." "I had in my phone in my hand in case you called, but I passed out", "I've been meaning to call you, but my Mom really needed me today...", "I've been thinking about you all day, but you know how work is..." ) Ughhh. OP, if you get this girl, nail her as if you're trying to dig a hole through her to the other end of the globe.

 

[sylvester the cat]

Who created the signs of attention wh0ring thread recently? This belongs in there as textbook attention wh0re dialect - ("I meant to come see you, but you know how my friend is..." "I had in my phone in my hand in case you called, but I passed out", "I've been meaning to call you, but my Mom really needed me today...", "I've been thinking about you all day, but you know how work is..." ) Ughhh. OP, if you get this girl, nail her as if you're trying to dig a hole through her to the other end of the globe.

exactly.

 

[sylvester the cat]

This is the problem with dating these days.

If you text a girl back, you're pandering and she loses interest.

It's like you can't win either way.

its a game. she's trying to see how much control she can gain over me. where my boundaries are and if i have any. how much self respect i have and how desperate for poosy i am.

you win the game by maintaining your frame and not pandering to a woman's needs which is eventually rewarded by your c0ck a doodle do being balls deep in her warm tunnel of love if played correctly. its actually quite fun when you get the hang of it.