Having trouble ending serious relationship with girlfriend.

T-Mack

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Here is the run down. This is the longest and first serious relationship I’ve had in my life of 5 months. The relationship has been awesome for the most part and the sex was righteous.

The problem is she was a foreign exchange student and she recently left a few weeks ago to go back to her home country which is all the way across the world from me (19 hour flight) I’ve been trying the long-distance relationship with her but I’m starting to grasp the reality that with our circumstances right now we aren’t going to be able to stay committed to this relationship. I was trying to work out some kind of way of being able to see each other permanently but it doesn’t seem likely to happen anytime soon even if she did decide she would like to move here in the U.S. If we stay together we are likely to only see each other once a year.

I try to keep myself busy like currently taking summer classes, outdoor hobby, and started working out again, but I still feel myself drifting into this hole of depression. I am unhappy with the decision I have to make and angry that the relationship has to end like this. She meant a lot to me and the day she left it was like I went to my first funeral. I’m not ready to let her go and break it off, but I know it’s the best choice for me and probably her too.

Well, I’d like some insight from the mature people who have gone through similar situations like this and how you got back up on your feet again after you ended the relationship. I don’t want to continue falling into this void of depression and I want to find ways to escape from it.
 

KontrollerX

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The only way out of the depression hole in situations like this is literally forcing yourself to do things and get out there again.

Fvck new chicks, hang out with friends, work out, bury yourself in hobbies, allow yourself a few days or hours to grieve the loss in between and gradually your mind recovers.

Sometimes depression over a loss gets so bad medication is needed but its only a short term fix.

The other stuff I mentioned is crucial to your recovery from this.

Also let this experience be a lesson to yourself to never again get involved in a serious relationship with a chick who will eventually have to go back to her home halfway across the world. Hook up with those type of chicks only and do not under pain of death get attached to them in the future.

If you are the type of guy that only feels whole in a relationship or simply craves one in general make sure that whatever chick you choose is going to live near you or close enough to you to see her regularly in person.

No long distance relationships for Sosuave soldiers!
 

NewMan

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You know the answer to your question:

long distance relationships are extemely diffcult - and ususally result in failure - that is what you have to come to grasp's with.


You knew this going into it.

now, you have to dealk with the fall out.

lesson learned?
 
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