Having a low moment, need an outside opinion

Yuurei

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I'll try keep the length to a minimum.

I'm a bit down lately so I don't think I'm thinking clearly. You guys always give good advice and are able to see things from a different perspective.

...re wrote it in dot points because I can't help but turn **** into novels.
The more info you have the better I suppose!

- Met 2 weeks ago at a party
- Hung around each other all night(of course I ventured off often to talk to other girls)
- Initiated kino early, escalated to heavy kino on both ends. High interest level.
- Had a jealous female there who kept **** blocking me(during party and on the walk home), so I never got the kiss. Regret this of course.
- Did get her number.
- Texted her mid week to keep her interest level up.
- Texted her on the weekend while I was out, but she was up in the city and seemed apologetic.
- Fast forward to last Friday, she texts me to ask if I was out, seemed keen to meet up(she was sober). It was late and I was home so I didn't go, told her I'd contact her on the Saturday to sort something out.
- Contact her on the Saturday, I was drinking with my friends, she was drinking with hers and I mentioned we all meet up at the local clubs.
- She ended up going into the city instead, seemed apologetic.

Now I'm thinking to myself, I actually like this girl. I could see myself potentially dating her. So my instinct is to wait a few days then just grow a pair and ask her out straight up.

On the other hand I'm thinking, I've expressed interest in wanting to meet up twice, I told her I was going to the local clubs, she went up to the city anyway. She had the option to see me and chose to go to the city with friends. So I'm thinking maybe I should go no contact and if she talks to me then fine, if not...next.

Having a bit of an AFC moment here mentally, definitely not thinking clearly.

I know it seems trivial, but any advice is appreciated.
 

Hotsauce

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I might think you're becoming infatuated. In my opinion, two weeks is a short amount of time when it comes to liking someone. I'm assuming from all of the tips and articles in the bible, they teach you to spark interest, but not actually get the chance to actually know what she's like.

All I can offer you is my logical opinion, so I can't give you credible advice on what to do next.
 

Yuurei

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Cheers for your input. I would say I am, probably before I should before. I think in the long run if you want a LTR you're going to need to know what she's like though! I'm okay with having feelings, I think I just need to make sure I control them and not the other way around.

I'm perking up a bit and have been reading some articles. I'm thinking I'll go about doing something in town and tell her she is welcome to join me. If she flakes on that or doesn't show interest then I'll next her completely.

Thoughts?
 
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perseverance

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I think you need to calm down and put your feet back on the ground. At the moment you're up in the clouds and remember what goes up must inevitably come down. If you don't believe me, read the works of Sir Isaac Newton.

I want you to re-read your post.

You haven't even gone out on a date yet and yet you can see yourself dating this girl? This girl has done nothing but blow you out and you seem to be developing feelings for her. Does this make logical sense to you?

You've invited her to join you twice and each time she has said no and doesn't offer a counter offer and you're thinking of asking her out for a third time? I can tell that this girl has a low interest level in you and so should you.

If I was you, I wouldn't be asking her out for a third time, I'd be focusing my attentions elsewhere on people who want to socialise with me, not some girl you've just met who doesn't seem that interested in you.
 
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