Having 2 girlfriends at the same time.

[major.league]

To you DJers out there, I'm currently going out with two girls, one I met early in the summer and another early last month.. My general question to you is, how woukl you manage having two girlfriends at the same time without getting caught ? what do you guys do on holidays such as thanksgiving- do you bring one home to your family, and the other you leave out?? what good excuses you have when you're out with one girl on a Saturday night and the other girl might be wondering where you are? I went out with one girlfriend yesterday afternoon (Saturday) and she was over at my place afterwards, got to kiss and grope her a bit.. Today I went with the second girl to have lunch then go to the mall. She was asking me what I was doing yesterday, I had to tell her I just went to the gym and did shopping.. In the past, I only had one girlfriend at a time, now I have two beautiful girls I'm seeing, I'm afraid I might have to say adios to one for fear of getting caught..

 

[SandHawk]

You just be honest with them and say that you're not interested in a relationship, only casual sex. Spinning plates is incredibly difficult if you're not being open and honest about it. It's pretty difficult to keep track of what/whom you've told and you are in a constant lie. Lying costs a metric f*ckton of energy, energy you should be spending on something else.

While I personally believe that honesty and being open are key values in life, you might disagree with me there. However, lying is bad, not for their sake, but for yours. You're constantly devising up weird schemes and stories to make sure you got all your tracks covered. In the long term, it will break you up.

Spinning plates is great, don't ruin your experience due to sh*tty lies.

As for the family holidays and sh*t: I just don't bring them. Since we're f*ckbuddies, they have no business with my family, and therefore get to spend their time with their own family, without my company.

 

[Tesl]

I wouldn't ever get exclusive with two girls at the same time, its dishonest and will ultimately only lead to pain. Dating multiple women at the same time is completely fine and I do that all the time - but I never lead them on to think they are in an exclusive relationship. That's spineless.

I know I can have a girlfriend whenever I want (in the last 2 months I've hooked up with a new girl practically every week) which is why I don't feel like I have to lie to any of them to keep them around. Clearly this is a new experience for you and you aren't used to having women interested in you - which is why you are going to screw this up.

My advice: Tell both of them you don't want an exclusive relationship but would like to continue seeing them anyway.

I know you won't do that of course since you would be too scared of losing them