Have I ruined all chances?

CaptainGeorge

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I've had the awkward pleasure of meeting a girl who manages to agree with me on many things. I say it is awkward because she quite a handful....

First she shows an interest in being my friend, with openness toward something more. We were discussing psychology, which is what I am majoring in. I explained to her my views and she says they are opinion and nothing more. Of course coming from a familiar source this catches me off guard--hitting me square in my point of view--and elicits an angry response. Although I manage to patch up the relationship, she informs me that I am now no longer on her "potential boyfriend" list.

On the one hand, I'm confounded that a person who shares so much empathy with me is daring to doubt views. I expect it from my critics, but they are unable to empathize with me anyway. I would expect those close to me to respect my views and not wave them aside as though they were nothing.

Being unable to consciously assert the state of her feelings, I become quite confused. She has become a symbol of my own inability to find a mate, a person who expresses interest in me but chooses not because of distaste but completely of her own volition to reject me. Still, I have continued to try to pursue a relationship after this blow-up. She neither pushes me forward nor back, but lets me do the pushing of my own person myself!

I feel very deeply conflicted. I've experienced this trend once before, but it was with a person who I highly disagreed with. She consumed my conscious energy quickly, but was repelled by the explosion of my unconscious energy when she had done so. With this person who I am mostly agreeing with though, it's different. My conscious energy is untouched--I am going about my activities as normal and can put her existence aside easily--but my unconscious feelings seem drained away to the point of emotional numbness.

I'm not sure what to do. Is this a relationship that is not meant to last by some measure, or...?
 

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CaptainGeorge said:
I've had the awkward pleasure of meeting a girl who manages to agree with me on many things. I say it is awkward because she quite a handful....

First she shows an interest in being my friend, with openness toward something more. We were discussing psychology, which is what I am majoring in. I explained to her my views and she says they are opinion and nothing more. Of course coming from a familiar source this catches me off guard--hitting me square in my point of view--and elicits an angry response. Although I manage to patch up the relationship, she informs me that I am now no longer on her "potential boyfriend" list.

On the one hand, I'm confounded that a person who shares so much empathy with me is daring to doubt views. I expect it from my critics, but they are unable to empathize with me anyway. I would expect those close to me to respect my views and not wave them aside as though they were nothing.

Being unable to consciously assert the state of her feelings, I become quite confused. She has become a symbol of my own inability to find a mate, a person who expresses interest in me but chooses not because of distaste but completely of her own volition to reject me. Still, I have continued to try to pursue a relationship after this blow-up. She neither pushes me forward nor back, but lets me do the pushing of my own person myself!

I feel very deeply conflicted. I've experienced this trend once before, but it was with a person who I highly disagreed with. She consumed my conscious energy quickly, but was repelled by the explosion of my unconscious energy when she had done so. With this person who I am mostly agreeing with though, it's different. My conscious energy is untouched--I am going about my activities as normal and can put her existence aside easily--but my unconscious feelings seem drained away to the point of emotional numbness.

I'm not sure what to do. Is this a relationship that is not meant to last by some measure, or...?

First off, this is not class and your situation is not a science. Through all of those big words and the william shatner like paragraphs, you could have summed it up a lot faster than that.

Next, you're gonna find people who'll straight sh*t on your views just to tick you off or not give a damn at all about them, even though they have similar views. Women are unpredictable in what they say and do. Take everything as a grain of salt.

Just because she says that you're out doesn't mean that you are. Put it this way, if you were in a tournament and the winner wins this girl, but she says that she'll only go for the strongest, biggest, meanest man, because she believes that this is what the winner will be. Now let say a skinny weak looking man comes and beats all of them, thanks to his wit and speed. In the end, what she thought would be smashed and she'll find this skinny guy suitable to be hers.

Point is, sometimes people say things to eliminate the weak from the competition, those who listen will have lost. Just like in "Fight Club" when they were taking in new recruits, brad pitt would go outside to those waiting on his stoop and try to crush them mentally and make them think they had no chance, but due to persistance and not giving a sh*t about what was said to them, they ended up getting in.
 

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You're interactions are far to serious. You're mistake is taking her criticism of your views as a direct hit at the very center of you.

You've defintely showed how uncool you are by being so uncollected in a normal conversation. This is how she see's it:

Why do I want to be intimate with this guy, when he loses his cool over me expressing my opinions.

Lighten up.
 

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Please....

'you're off my bf list' = "show a more caring side and i'll fvck you 2moro"


-Cod3r
 

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Thanks, it helps hearing it put into perspective by others. I tend to become suspicious when those who I've developed a positive relationship with disagree with me. I question their motives, wondering if they are testing me in some way. I am left with a feeling of distrust. I will try to put that aside for now until there is further cause that reinforces it.I will continue to attempt to obtain this girl.
 

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BxPrince24

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CaptainGeorge said:
Thanks, it helps hearing it put into perspective by others. I tend to become suspicious when those who I've developed a positive relationship with disagree with me. I question their motives, wondering if they are testing me in some way. I am left with a feeling of distrust. I will try to put that aside for now until there is further cause that reinforces it.I will continue to attempt to obtain this girl.
If anything, you're assuming too much of people. Interact with people for your enjoyment. If your not having fun talking or hanging out with that person, find someone else that you do have fun with. Makes no sense fo you to waste time getting miserable over how someone's reacting or behaving towards you.
 
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