Has she become interested again?

Enigma412

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There is a chick I met down her when I first come down here. I know she was attracted to me at first because I overheard her say so to my roomate. I also liked her. However, after hanging out a few times in groups (never for more than 45 mins) we grew apart as our personalities didn't seem to gel.We basically stopped talking to each other after that. This wasn't because of a concious choice but because of circumstances. The only concious part of this was that we didn't go out of our way to talk to each other. We have class together and live in the building. She doesn't have a car, I do, so midway through the semester I offered to drive her home with me. I didn't do this as a means to "get" her but simply because I wanted some company on the drive home. The first time I did it she was surprised and virtually everyone had left by that point so we went alone. However, the next two times she found someone else to come with us, the first time it was her roomate, the next time it was some guy she kind of knew who also lives in our building. Yesterday, though, she didn't try to find anyone else, even her roomate. This suggests that she may have wanted to be alone. She is usually very talkative, especially about herself. However, yesterday she was unusually quiet. She basically only spoke when I said something that prompted a reply. The other unusual thing that happened on the ride home was that when the Weezer song "Perfect Situation" came on, specifically the lyrics "What's the deal with my brain? Why am I so obviously insane?
In a perfect situation, I let love down the drain" she looked at me and kept looking at me for a few seconds. Could she have been thinking of me at that moment?

In class she would always look at me, often for an extend time. That kind of stopped in the middle of all this but yesterday she was at it again. She probably did it more yesterday than any other day, and did it while I was looking at her. One time she kept looking at me for what seemed like 5 or 6 seconds. I made a mistake and didn't lock eyes with her. I looked at her, away, repeat three times. Each time she was still looking at me.

Has her interest in me been revived? Or was her odd behavior just another one of those weird things girls do? Of course, the only way to surely find out is to make a move and I will do that. I just like to know as much as possible about the situation before doing anything. The only sticking point is that nothing happened for three months and it will be odd if I suddenly do this, but if she is interested it won't matter.

What could have made yesterday different than other days? 1) we are here in DC for a semester and will be leaving soon. If something is going to happen, it has to happen ASAP. 2) She knows that I tried to get with a chick that she knows. Perhaps this created some jealousy in her. 3) This is probably the weakest possibility, but I got a haircut for the first time in three months lol. I also had been slacking in recent weeks and didn't gel up my hair and even showed up last week without having shaved for 4-5 days, so I had a significant beard. I was looking my best in quite a while yesterday.

Just give me your 2 cents. Any reply will certainly be interesting.
 

three12

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Enigma412,

You my friend are MAJORLY over-analysing things. You scream of one-itus. Whats worse is you scream of one-itus with this girl BECAUSE she has interest in you. Not because you 'gel' with her personality.

In my experiences I've been out with a variety of hair cuts, good and bad. Clothes, good and bad. etc. etc. None of which has stopped girls having interest in me. There is ALOT more interest created when your a man who handles his business then when your a child who thinks "I shaved my beard, she likes me again."

Come on MAN.

Most likely, you've still got a chance with this girl. You don't gel with her though, perhaps find someone you do gel with.

You know that she at some stage, was attracted to you. You should have been a man, stepped up to the plate, and smashed her for a home run. You wasted time, and as such look like another chump.

Its time to grab your bat and jam it up her.

Be forward. Make it happen.

No regrets.

three12.
 

The Juan and only

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I can't count the number of times I've read a post asking whether or not a girl likes someone.

You'll never know for sure unless you make that leap of faith, and take it to the next level. Sitting around trying to figure out what she thinks of you is POINTLESS and won't help the situation. Actually, I think one of the most useful quotes from the DJ bible is:

"Assume she likes you and act accordingly". No more worrying, no more sitting up trying to figure everything out. Enough. Just act for fvck sake.

Even if she likes you now then it's not gonna stay that way forever, the longer you wait, the worse it is for you.

Look, from the sound of it, she might like you..but then she might not. In fact you're easily the most qualified person to make that determination. Look deep inside, past the hope-inspired bull**** and ask yourself what YOU think. Does she like you or not?

You're the GUY. If you want any sort of relationship then YOU have to DO SOMETHING. Chances are, she won't be the one to take the risk.


Edit: I just saw what three12 posted and it seems pretty on the money. Over-analysing is a big, but common mistake.
 

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Wow... that was painful to even glance at. No chance in hell I'm going to read that babble. Listen - establish some rapport with her and ask her out.

Its the only way to know if she is interested.
 
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