Has anyone here.... ?

[Charm2K]

Imagine that you are driving your car, as you drive you see a beautiful girl waiting for a bus, walking, pumping gas etc. Has anyone here, stopped / parked the car and tried to pick up a girl in that kind of situation ?

Just to be clear, she havent seen you, so no IOI whatsoever , just ice cold approach.

Anyone ?

 

[9-3enthusiast]

No - but I've made eye contact while waiting at the lights... Got a smile from her then pointed across the road to a parking spot and pulled over when the lights changed.

Got a coffee date out of it - but nothing further ...

 

[Charm2K]

No - but I've made eye contact while waiting at the lights... Got a smile from her then pointed across the road to a parking spot and pulled over when the lights changed.

Got a coffee date out of it - but nothing further ...

I dont care about the outcome, i care if guys here have the balls like you have, to act in the moment.

 

[Guy69JackBlue]

I dont care about the outcome, i care if guys here have the balls like you have, to act in the moment.

You think it's a good thing to be so desperate for a coffee date that you rearrange your entire personality to do that?

 

[Charm2K]

So in your world, a man can never go from shy to brave? Cause that would rearrange the entire personality.

Are you kidding me ?

 

[Sam_J]

So in your world, a man can never go from shy to brave? Cause that would rearrange the entire personality.

Are you kidding me ?

He admittedly doesn't ever try to go on dates with women. He only sees prostitutes and thinks it's not worth spending time trying to approach women. I'm not even joking, he will confirm this. To each his own I guess, that's just his preference.

 

[9-3enthusiast]

I don't care about the outcome, i care if guys here have the balls like you have, to act in the moment.

It's just the way I am - I've become generally very sociable as I've got older, with everyone, not just women.
I have no problem speaking to people I don't know, women included.
And you've mentioned there, what I think is the key.
For me, the trick is not to be anxious about the outcome - If things go well..... great! - If not, then I just go about my day.... no harm done.

When speaking to women, I've become good at picking up on whether or not she's interested - and if I think she is, I'll try to steer the conversation so I can get an idea of her availability.
When all goes well - She seems interested AND probably available - then I'll ask for some form of contact method (phone no./social media/etc.) - or even straight out ask for a low-commitment date such as coffee/drinks/etc.


I've mentioned this a few times already on SS - but the woman I'm currently seeing semi-regularly... Our paths crossed while parking our cars in town - some positive-looking eye contact so I spoke to her, just small-talk (you don't have to be dazzlingly witty or clever) - she seemed interested so I just straight-up asked her to meet up for a coffee.... A week later we had dinner, followed by a beach walk, and ended up back at my place.

 

[Guy69JackBlue]

He admittedly doesn't ever try to go on dates with women. He only sees prostitutes and thinks it's not worth spending time trying to approach women. I'm not even joking, he will confirm this. To each his own I guess, that's just his preference.

It's not efficient enough. And the juice is never worth the squeeze.

Plus, and perhaps most importantly... With escorts, you don't have to invest any of your actual life.

 

[Guy69JackBlue]

So in your world, a man can never go from shy to brave? Cause that would rearrange the entire personality.

Are you kidding me ?

I think you're overestimating the importance of having fruitless conversations with females. Are they really that special that even talking to them is something to feel lucky if you're doing.

The surface level of society is very false.

I don't need anything from them other than sex, and no one particular girl is all that special. So since I can afford it, and since I know where to find attractive escorts that don't cost too much... That pretty much stopped any desire I have to go out to bars and clubs and all that. I'm busy and have a business to run 24/7.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

If I'm at a cross walk I'll pick a random broad up, like if she's in front of my vehicle crossing I'll wave her over but she's gotta be bad

 

[9-3enthusiast]

So in your world, a man can never go from shy to brave? Cause that would rearrange the entire personality.

I was very shy when I was younger.
Then during my 30s I had to do a presentation at a hobby 'club' - I've always been interested in astronomy and know a LOT about the subject - and around that time I co-founded my local Astronomical Society with a friend. We were let down by a speaker for a monthly meeting, so I reluctantly stepped up.
The fact that I knew the subject, and the people there knew that I was knowledgeable, was a massive help and it went really well.
Other local clubs and societies asked me to do the same presentation... and it just kinda snowballed into me doing more presentations, at more and more clubs/societies... After the presentations, people would come up to talk to me and/or ask questions. Sometime I would even be the subject of some woman's flirting.
Being married at the time, I never tried to escalate - but several years of practice talking to a room full of people really does bring a shy guy out of his shell.
Plus tons of practice at spotting a woman's signs of interest - has stood me in good stead for when I eventually got divorced.
I've had way more experience with women in the 6 years since my divorce, than I got during the 12 years between turning 16 and getting married.

 

[Sam_J]

It's not efficient enough. And the juice is never worth the squeeze.

Plus, and perhaps most importantly... With escorts, you don't have to invest any of your actual life.

I'm not saying I'd never see escorts but I feel like having some emotional connection can be worth it sometimes to pursue an actual relationship. Also approaching women has helped me eliminate some of my general social anxiety I had as a result of a bad childhood.

But if you can afford it, yeah I can see the appeal. I just think it doesn't sound very fulfilling long term. Btw sorry about sh1t talking you so hard last weekend on here, was drunk.

 

[Sam_J]

If I'm at a cross walk I'll pick a random broad up, like if she's in front of my vehicle crossing I'll wave her over but she's gotta be bad

I've never done it in the car. On the street walking in crosswalks I have tried to pick up hot women but haven't succeeded yet.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

I've never done it in the car. On the street walking in crosswalks I have tried to pick up hot women but haven't succeeded yet.

If you don't have a vehicle I don't think it's a good idea

 

[Guy69JackBlue]

I'm not saying I'd never see escorts but I feel like having some emotional connection can be worth it sometimes to pursue an actual relationship. Also approaching women has helped me eliminate some of my general social anxiety I had as a result of a bad childhood.

But if you can afford it, yeah I can see the appeal. I just think it doesn't sound very fulfilling long term. Btw sorry about sh1t talking you so hard last weekend on here, was drunk.

I just end up arguing with them most of the time. And I can't stand their pretentious personalities.

 

[RickTheToad]

Imagine that you are driving your car, as you drive you see a beautiful girl waiting for a bus, walking, pumping gas etc. Has anyone here, stopped / parked the car and tried to pick up a girl in that kind of situation ?

Just to be clear, she havent seen you, so no IOI whatsoever , just ice cold approach.

Anyone ?

Sure, but not in a car. Did it at a bowling alley once. Also did it at meetups and other social gatherings. 100% chance that you will miss every shot not taken.

 

[SW15]

Imagine that you are driving your car, as you drive you see a beautiful girl waiting for a bus, walking, pumping gas etc. Has anyone here, stopped / parked the car and tried to pick up a girl in that kind of situation ?

Just to be clear, she havent seen you, so no IOI whatsoever , just ice cold approach.

Anyone ?

I have not done that but have thought about it.

If I were getting gas and saw an attractive woman getting gas, I would make the approach.

 

[Charm2K]

It's not efficient enough. And the juice is never worth the squeeze.

Plus, and perhaps most importantly... With escorts, you don't have to invest any of your actual life.

Wow, just wow. I really dont know what to say man.

How does it feel when you know, deep inside, that the only reason she is with you is cause you are paying her ?

 

[Guy69JackBlue]

Wow, just wow. I really dont know what to say man.

How does it feel when you know, deep inside, that the only reason she is with you is cause you are paying her ?

It feels like a lot of fun.

You're trying to talk down to me, but in fact you are just far less experienced.

There's no point trying to form relationships with females. It's going to end up costing a lot more to do a "real" relationship and be mostly headaches after a brief honeymoon phase.

 

[bat soup]

Imagine that you are driving your car, as you drive you see a beautiful girl waiting for a bus, walking, pumping gas etc. Has anyone here, stopped / parked the car and tried to pick up a girl in that kind of situation ?

Just to be clear, she havent seen you, so no IOI whatsoever , just ice cold approach.

Anyone ?

I've approached women in the street. Normally I'd approach those that looked friendly, though. As I'm not in the USA we don't have this thing of driving everywhere. When you do drive, you can't easily just stop anywhere (at least not in London). If you tried to slow down and talk to a girl you'd have a bunch of cars honking at you and a 150$ fine.

What I do think is that it probably is easier to open with some kind of pretext. Like, for example, at a bus stop you could ask a girl how long she's been waiting and continue the conversation if she seems friendly. Then you have to quickly transition into asking her something about herself so that the conversation doesn't just stall out and then you can go for her number.