@European-DJ
Don take this as the absolute truth but these are just my thoughts and realisations after reading, writing, observing and contemplating on this topic of happiness. Again I don’t claim to have all the answers but hopefully this can provide you with some insight and add another layer of perspective to your thinking and enhance your viewpoints.
I have come to realise that fundamentally at our core most people want to be happy whether it’s at their jobs, with their families, friends and just their overall position in life. The problem is the way society is designed and structured is for you to always think and feel that you are lacking something in order to get to that place of happiness. It’s human nature to always want more of something. If you got a house you will want a bigger house. If you make a certain amount of money you want to make even more. You have sex with 20 women in a year the next year you try to have sex with 40 women and the cycle continues until your chasing these types of things and experiences to fill a void or some deep childhood wounds that you never dealt with or maybe you just have something to prove again it all depends on the individual and how they are wired.
If you look at the entirety of society we as people don’t need that much to live but when you are constantly being bombarded with TV shows and commercials about why you need to buy this new car, have some new furniture, go on a cruise to an exotic land, Black Friday sale, Labor Day sale, sale on clothes and shoes, get some plastic surgery, implants, bbl’s (Brazilian butt lifts for those that don’t know) and the multitude of commercials and advertisements designed to make you feel incomplete…you are bound to feel unhappy with your life or think something is missing.
With the advent of social media and the internet people are getting lazier, have short attention spans, always glued to their phones, constantly distracted and look for
instant-gratification rather than have to discipline themselves for
delayed-gratification. Everyone wants to be famous, go viral, make billions, be a boss, and basically be “successful” without doing nothing. When you have
delusions of grandeur
of becoming an anomaly without putting in the work, sacrificing, and most of all paying the price you are bound to be unhappy and miserable. Now I’m not saying that a person shouldn’t strive for more but the most important things like your health, peace of mind, cultivating relationships with friends, and family members, shelter, good food, transportation, companionship and the basic necessities should be taken care of before you decide to go for loftier goals and even then you should have the self-awareness to know why you need to accomplish such goals. It’s good to challenge and push yourself but then what’s next?
Now I’m also not saying that you need to go on top of a mountain, meditate 20 hours a day, live like a recluse and give up worldly ambitions but a person needs to have some balance. Everything in moderation. Anything in excess is bound to make a person unhappy because than you get to the point of diminishing returns. At the same time extreme results require extreme effort so you have to pick your poison. Anything worth achieving even happiness takes time. So what is a person to do you ask? …very simple…take the time to appreciate and be grateful for everything and everyone you have in your life. Hopefully this gives you some food for thought.
