Happiness

[VIVAlasVEGASBaby]

People have said over and over again that confidence is the #1 thing you need to get women. Confidence is very important, but most people fake it. Most people don’t have it, and don’t know why. I am not afraid of approaching a girl, but I don’t do it like it’s nothing it all. I am on the road to being a Don Jaun. I have been trying to get an awesome attitude towards life. Women come to you when you finally achieve this thing called happiness.

I disagree with confidence being the #1 factor in attracting women. I believe happiness is #1 and confidence is #2. How could someone be truly confident when they aren’t happy? Without happiness why do women even matter? Why does anything matter? If you think you’ll all of a sudden be happy when you have met that perfect one in a million girl who you love, you are crazy.

I GUARENTEE every single true Don Juan has everlasting and infinite happiness. No matter what kind of crap they go through, they can still bust out the biggest smile of anyone. Confidence, charm, charisma, and all of that stuff comes with happiness. When you achieve happiness, you stop caring and stop fearing talking to women/girls. What happens when you do that? You become confident, and even if you don’t have great charisma, you’ll achieve it with the practice you put forward.

Stop being depressed. We all have our problems. What separates the men from the boys, no, I meant to say the *****es of society, is how we deal with our problems. Your happiness should be your #1 priority, because without it, nothing matters, and you truly can’t enjoy anything.

I won’t lie. I haven’t achieved ultimate happiness, but whenever I’m around people, I always have a smile on. Even when I’m alone, anytime I feel like ****, I put my biggest smile on and I say to myself “nothing can hurt you”. I am working on becoming the absolute best person I can be. I am not even focused on girls right now.

I have never kissed a girl, I don’t mind either. I don’t even really care. Those pathetic fools who go around bragging about how they make out and screw every damn woman/girl they see aren’t really happy. They do it because they have nothing else to do. They have women and only women. We call these guys not Don Juans, not nice guys, not jerks, but womanizers.

Your life should be your highest priority. Woman come second to everything else. You have to work to be a Don Juan and you have to work to live a great life. Nothing in this life is just given to you because of time. If don’t make an effort, you’ll never get anywhere.

Be happy. Girls aren’t your life. Be the person you want to be. Work to achieve that position. Go out into the world with a smile on your face and your chin high no matter how dark or gloomy the day is. I am working, just as all Don Juans are. It doesn’t matter if you’re a newbie like me, or a master like pook. We are all working to be better. So get off your ass, smile, and get out into that world with a GREAT attitude.

 

[Joe Schmoe]

In my opinion everything comes together at once. By that i mean you become happy and confident at the same time. Once you start to develop these traits everything else just falls into place

 

[mahon83050]

Good post! Yea, I hate guys who think their purpose in life is to bang as many chicks as possible or brag about who they hooked up with. The problem is, lust and desire are a never-ending cycle and one can truly never be fulfilled.

Some of the stuff the Bible and Christianity teach make alot of sense. Bad habit such as drinking, smoking, sex....we all become enslaved by it. I know it is a daily struggle, but one cannot look to the things of this world..(.money, women, material possession, your own good-looks) for their true happiness, because you will never feel satisfied and it can all be taken away from you in a second. Did not mean to get religious, but it does make sense...it is a daily struggle.

 

[Matt Rogers]

Yup, optimism and happiness is a killer. If you can raise her mood no matter what she is feeling then you raise your value tenfold. Confidence does not translate into happiness though. Confidence just implies that you have performed an activity(such as womanising) so often that you are convinced you will succeed in future.

What is important in happiness is derived from:
1) High self esteem-liking and accepting yourself and not criticising yourself
2) Focusing and striving towards worthy goals
3) Contributing to the well being of others
4) Keeping your thoughts on what is good in your life rather than what is lacking
5) Being as cheerful as you can no matter what, because being anything else will not improve the situation

 

[cynetix]

Excellent outlook, VLVB! I agree and approve .

cynetix

 

[VIVAlasVEGASBaby]

Confidence does not translate into happiness though. Confidence just implies that you have performed an activity(such as womanising) so often that you are convinced you will succeed in future.

True, i agree completely. But how can someone truly be confident when they are feeling like ****. You have to at least pretend to be happy around other people to be confident. If you go moping around all the time, you can't be confident, it's nearly impossible.