Handling thugs in front of your girl

[Teddybear216]

Hi all,

First of all I want to say that I think this stuff is great!! I've been into various "creating attraction", "how to play the game" sites and a lot of it is great. There is one piece of the puzzle missing though...

In these DJ sites, it seems's like a bunch of guys get together and share their thoughts about how to be more successful with women. That's great, however, in the real world men are also in competition with each other too. I think I'm a fairly good looking guy, I admit I have a bit of a baby face. Women find me cute but I don't have an intimidating look. When I'm alone with a female, I don't usually have a problem with attracting them. I understand the concept of not being a wuss. The problem comes when I'm out with a cute girl in certain social situations where there are other men. Most men will respect the fact that this girl is with me. But there are some guys that will try to pull some kind of a male domination stunt with me in front of the girl. Maybe it's triggered by jealousy or the fact that I have something that they want. It usually comes in the form of a small comment intended to embarrass me, or body language intended to intimidate me. If a guy doesn't know how to respond to those kinds of confrontations in the right way, he's lost the game! The woman will see a guy as weak and it's over. I think that's a big reason that girls like the ruff and tough bad boy.

My mother is an attractive woman and I remember my dad getting into physical fights with other guys out at pubs etc. I just thought it was just his nature or ego. But as I think about it now, other men were probably trying to make him look bad in front of my mom.

I'm thinking, there must be an effective way to solve this problem without confrontations escalating into physical fights. It has to be snipped off and shut down fast in a way that makes a guy look good in front of his woman.

I would love to hear anyones thought on this.

Respectfully yours,

G.W.

P.S. I know of certain couples where the female goes out dancing and the guy stays at home. She says that he just doesn't like to dance but doesn't mind if she goes out without him. Perhaps in a way the guy is just trying to avoid confrontations with other men and sees staying at home, trusting her, as a more secure choice.

 

[drixsa]

there will always be those type of guy

but its really just being comfortable with yourself

and a girl will see that right away

when a guy will say somethin to me or the girl im with, im completely cool with it.

i understand that hes just trying to find a girl. im not jumping with joy that he chose my girl to approach but it doesnt get to me

if the guy is talking to your girl, just say "excuse us for a second, but we wont be back"

and jus take your girl to the dance floor or somewhere that he isnt

if you have a close enough relationship jus grab her chin gently and just kiss her. im not a big fan of PDA but desperate times calls for desperate measures

if you arent so close with her let her talk to others, BC you should be doing the same

your stock rises when a girl sees you with another girl, no question.

 

[Teddybear216]

Thanks drixsa,

I'm in a bit of a delema. Right now I have a girlfriend that I get along with alright, and don't have any problems with other men. Anywhere. I'm just not sure if my interest level with her is high enough for marriage etc. On the other hand, theres this waitress at the nearby pub that has been driving me nuts. And I know she is attracted to me. Probably bad news but man, what a lay she would be. I think me and her would do great, but I would be a little concerned with taking her out to the night clubs and places like that. Something I figured out, is that when I go to the pub, I have developed a dominant pecking order with her. The problem is that in the real battleground, other men will try to lower that pecking order. I guess it's a trade off, if ya want a sexy girl, you gotta be willing to fight. A fact of life.

 

[drixsa]

whats a pecking order?

BTW, dont settle on marrige

if your gonna be spendin the rest of your life with 1 woman she better be damn special

and it doesnt seem like you really think so...

 

[squirrels]

Man...just let it roll off your back. If they start getting on your nerves, just smile and walk away.

THe only time I can reasonably see getting into a physical confrontation is if they lay a hand on you, or if they're accosting your girl mercilessly even after she tells them to get lost.

Anything else...seriously, just smile and do whatever you were doing before them.

 

[Teddybear216]

A pecking order is like ranks in the military, or when one person is more dominant over the other. I think a lot of the dating game is where a girl will try to make you a "nice guy" who's below her. By being coky and a bit arragant, and not letting her little "tests" get to you, is telling her that you are at her level or higher. As far as being romantic, women love that, but a guy has to be strong and confident when he gives her that attention. I don't think women want jerks or nice guys. They want the bad boy with a sweetness that comes through as Olivia Newton John in Grease put it. 007 is also a great DJ. The calm confident, slightly arragant, ****y funny gentlmen that occationally shows a little romace in a classy way.

As far as the chick I'm with now. She's a nice looking girl and a perfect mother model. She treats me great and we both enjoy the same things and have similar outlooks on life. The chick at the pub is a sweet heart, a flirt and naturally knows how to bring on the body language. I find her more sexually appealing but I'm not sure if I would trust her completely. Shes single now but I know she cheated on her last boyfriend. I don't think she's a bad person, just highly sexual. The girl I'm with now would never cheat on me but she's also not as sexually driven. I feel a tempation to follow the lust, but another part of me thinks that relationship wouldn't last and that I'd regret giving up what I have now. It's a tough call. A buddy of mine suggested I do the sneak around thing but just get in and get the hell out. Another problem is that my girlfriend knows her too, yikes!!

Anyway, wasn't this disscussion supposed to be about how to handle thugs that come near your girl? How'd I manage to be getting into all my my personal bussiness?