Zig-zag-man
Don Juan
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So summer school started this week, and I meet this chick in one of my classes, who I'd say is around an HB 8.5-9, quite attractive to say the least. The first day, nothing major, got into a group with her and an acquaintance for a class project. Didn't really talk to her or anything. The second day, after class was over, we were walking down the same path towards our cars so I strolled up next to her, asked for her name, and introduced myself. The obligatory small talk ensued and I got her number at the end. The third day, no class, but she texts me asking about some textbook. I give her a couple replies and end it there.
Ok, now here's where the downward spiral begins lol. So today, the fourth day, class ends way early. We're walking towards our cars and I decide 'Hey, I'm gonna ask her out for coffee.' I have to buy a book for a class, she has to return a book, so I suggest we go to the bookstore together and grab some coffee afterward. She readily agrees to my plan. "Big Pimpin" blares from my car as I make my way to the bookstore
Everything's been cool up to this point, I wasn't nervous or anything during any of our interactions. She follows me to two bookstores since the first one didn't have what I was looking for. At this point I'm thinking, 'Great, she seems pretty interested.'
Now, I'll admit, I'm not an experienced "dater". Never been on a "coffee date" before, but it seemed like a good, casual way to get to know each other and set up a real date, considering we are gonna be seeing each other everyday in class. If I came on too strong right off the bat she might have been put off and things could have gotten awkward in class. Besides, if anything, I wanna be able to use her textbook so I don't have to buy one.
We end up at the coffee shop, I grab and pay for our drinks, and we sit down. One major thing I forgot to mention: I'm almost dead tired. I had a crappy sleep the night before so I'm feeling a half-step behind on everything, including social interactions. So I sit down on a loveseat with space right next to me, but she opts to sit in a single size chair right next to the couch I'm on. In hindsight, I should have at least tried to cajole her to sit next to me, but my sleep-deprived mindstate wasn't thinking like that.
So we chit chat. I ask her a lot of questions about herself, what she likes to do for fun, where's she from, yadda yadda yadda. My body language is relaxed, no worries, and I'm giving her strong eye contact during our conversation. This is where I realize...coffee dates are boring. We're talking and I'm making her laugh, sure, but I don't really have a chance to kino her or play around with her or anything like that. It feels more like an informal interview than anything else.
So it's been about 30 minutes of sitting and talking, and this coffee date is starting to drag. I'm tired and that dominant, sexual vibe you give off from having high testosterone (I've been working out) has completely abandoned me. I'm not coming off as a total supplicating AFC tool, but I'm not as dominant and sexual as I could be. Not to mention she's been texting almost the whole time, and not really asking questions about me. I'm thinking her interest level is dipping at this point.
There was one instance I got to play around with her. She told me last month she received/sent out around 12,000 text messages. She said her friends call her the 'Text Queen'. I said she sounds more like the 'Text Addict', so I took her phone to see how long she could go without texting before she got all jittery and needy like a crack addict lol. After a few minutes, lo and behold, she wants to see if she got any new text messages. I put the phone behind my back as she tries to grab it and tell her to say, ' Zig-zag-man, can I please have my phone back?' in the sweetest voice she can muster. It takes her a couple tries but she does it haha.
After a while she asks what time it is and I get the hint she wants to leave. She negs me about staying at the coffee shop by myself with nothing to do, and arrrgghhh my low energy levels can't produce a comeback. We end up at our cars and I put my arm around her waist to give her a hug. She gives back no response. *sound of whistling bomb dropping from the air*
So what now? I'm not really sweating it or down about it because to me it was more of a learning experience and I was tiiirreeed. But I am gonna be seeing this chick pretty often so maybe I have a chance to regain that dominant, smooth frame I had in the beginning. I'm planning to play it cool when I see her in class and ask her out on an ACTION date next time once things have simmered down a bit. If I get rejected fukk it. But how long should I wait? Do I try ignoring her in class for a bit? Do I start talking to other girls in class to show she's not my only option? What now guys?
Ok, now here's where the downward spiral begins lol. So today, the fourth day, class ends way early. We're walking towards our cars and I decide 'Hey, I'm gonna ask her out for coffee.' I have to buy a book for a class, she has to return a book, so I suggest we go to the bookstore together and grab some coffee afterward. She readily agrees to my plan. "Big Pimpin" blares from my car as I make my way to the bookstore
Everything's been cool up to this point, I wasn't nervous or anything during any of our interactions. She follows me to two bookstores since the first one didn't have what I was looking for. At this point I'm thinking, 'Great, she seems pretty interested.'
Now, I'll admit, I'm not an experienced "dater". Never been on a "coffee date" before, but it seemed like a good, casual way to get to know each other and set up a real date, considering we are gonna be seeing each other everyday in class. If I came on too strong right off the bat she might have been put off and things could have gotten awkward in class. Besides, if anything, I wanna be able to use her textbook so I don't have to buy one
. We end up at the coffee shop, I grab and pay for our drinks, and we sit down. One major thing I forgot to mention: I'm almost dead tired. I had a crappy sleep the night before so I'm feeling a half-step behind on everything, including social interactions. So I sit down on a loveseat with space right next to me, but she opts to sit in a single size chair right next to the couch I'm on. In hindsight, I should have at least tried to cajole her to sit next to me, but my sleep-deprived mindstate wasn't thinking like that.
So we chit chat. I ask her a lot of questions about herself, what she likes to do for fun, where's she from, yadda yadda yadda. My body language is relaxed, no worries, and I'm giving her strong eye contact during our conversation. This is where I realize...coffee dates are boring. We're talking and I'm making her laugh, sure, but I don't really have a chance to kino her or play around with her or anything like that. It feels more like an informal interview than anything else.
So it's been about 30 minutes of sitting and talking, and this coffee date is starting to drag. I'm tired and that dominant, sexual vibe you give off from having high testosterone (I've been working out) has completely abandoned me. I'm not coming off as a total supplicating AFC tool, but I'm not as dominant and sexual as I could be. Not to mention she's been texting almost the whole time, and not really asking questions about me. I'm thinking her interest level is dipping at this point.
There was one instance I got to play around with her. She told me last month she received/sent out around 12,000 text messages. She said her friends call her the 'Text Queen'. I said she sounds more like the 'Text Addict', so I took her phone to see how long she could go without texting before she got all jittery and needy like a crack addict lol. After a few minutes, lo and behold, she wants to see if she got any new text messages. I put the phone behind my back as she tries to grab it and tell her to say, ' Zig-zag-man, can I please have my phone back?' in the sweetest voice she can muster. It takes her a couple tries but she does it haha.
After a while she asks what time it is and I get the hint she wants to leave. She negs me about staying at the coffee shop by myself with nothing to do, and arrrgghhh my low energy levels can't produce a comeback. We end up at our cars and I put my arm around her waist to give her a hug. She gives back no response. *sound of whistling bomb dropping from the air*
So what now? I'm not really sweating it or down about it because to me it was more of a learning experience and I was tiiirreeed. But I am gonna be seeing this chick pretty often so maybe I have a chance to regain that dominant, smooth frame I had in the beginning. I'm planning to play it cool when I see her in class and ask her out on an ACTION date next time once things have simmered down a bit. If I get rejected fukk it. But how long should I wait? Do I try ignoring her in class for a bit? Do I start talking to other girls in class to show she's not my only option? What now guys?