Since most of the posts are focused on "what girls do if they're interested...etc...etc..." I figured I touch on the issue of respect from guys. No you won't date them (unless you're gay) but respect with guys and success with girls go hand in hand. Simply put, if guys arent respecting you then you can sure as hell believe that girls wont respect and want you.
I noticed the behaviors of the guys who showed a general respect for me vs. the guys who show signs of not respecting me.
Guys who respect you...
1. Laugh at your jokes
2. Carry on the conversation
3. Give more eye contact when talking to you
4. Pat you on the back or say "whad up pimp!" "whats crackin money!"
5. They will come up to you and talk about how drunk they got last weekend and who they hooked up with. (ie buying approval)
6. If you're jacked they'll call you fat or weak (when they are really jealous that you look good)
7. Invite you to hang out wit them at the clubs/bars/parties. You end up being "one of their boyz"
8. They will act and say stupid sh*t (like Dave Chappelle quotes) to impress you
Guys who don't respect you...
1. They give you short polite answers when you ask them whats up
2. They never carry on the conversation.
3. They generally avoid eye contact
4. If you make a joke at them, they usually do a smirk or a nervous laugh to brush you off, or not laugh at all.
5. They don't care what you are doing this weekend, and they will always find excuses to not hang out with you
6. They won't call you.
7. They are condescending towards you in one way or another.
8. The only time they actually show respect is when they want a favor from you.
9. They use dark humor or sarcasm towards you. They are joking, but the jokes at your expense. This is especially embarrassing when its made around other people.
10. They do one or all of the above towards you, but when you see them around their friends its a complete reversal in behaviors.
Now you may be thinking, "why the f*ck should I care what GUYS think about me?!" Which is correct, you should not give a f*ck.
The problem is a lot of guys (like me) are putting up with disrespect from guys they call "friends" or "aquaintance" Drop the muthaf*ucker if you start seeing the signs of disrespect. Don't talk to him and don't be polite to him. Im not saying start a fight but just show indifference towards him the same way he shows towards you. You may gain his respect back or not, but that's not the idea. You ought to have enough pride and self-respect to step away from people like that. Otherwise you end up being a supplicant, in the way that you are looking for his approval.
Physical dominance is an important aspect as well. I know a 250 lb dude at the boxing gym that looks like a cut up version of Kane from WWE. He gets mad respect on that aspect itself. So if you're skinny or overweight or out of shape then strengthening your body, martial arts/boxing training, will make you more confident of yourself. When you know you can kick the asses of 80 percent of the guys you are around, then you will be respected.
This is based on observations and personal experiences so feel free to add on or critique.
I noticed the behaviors of the guys who showed a general respect for me vs. the guys who show signs of not respecting me.
Guys who respect you...
1. Laugh at your jokes
2. Carry on the conversation
3. Give more eye contact when talking to you
4. Pat you on the back or say "whad up pimp!" "whats crackin money!"
5. They will come up to you and talk about how drunk they got last weekend and who they hooked up with. (ie buying approval)
6. If you're jacked they'll call you fat or weak (when they are really jealous that you look good)
7. Invite you to hang out wit them at the clubs/bars/parties. You end up being "one of their boyz"
8. They will act and say stupid sh*t (like Dave Chappelle quotes) to impress you
Guys who don't respect you...
1. They give you short polite answers when you ask them whats up
2. They never carry on the conversation.
3. They generally avoid eye contact
4. If you make a joke at them, they usually do a smirk or a nervous laugh to brush you off, or not laugh at all.
5. They don't care what you are doing this weekend, and they will always find excuses to not hang out with you
6. They won't call you.
7. They are condescending towards you in one way or another.
8. The only time they actually show respect is when they want a favor from you.
9. They use dark humor or sarcasm towards you. They are joking, but the jokes at your expense. This is especially embarrassing when its made around other people.
10. They do one or all of the above towards you, but when you see them around their friends its a complete reversal in behaviors.
Now you may be thinking, "why the f*ck should I care what GUYS think about me?!" Which is correct, you should not give a f*ck.
The problem is a lot of guys (like me) are putting up with disrespect from guys they call "friends" or "aquaintance" Drop the muthaf*ucker if you start seeing the signs of disrespect. Don't talk to him and don't be polite to him. Im not saying start a fight but just show indifference towards him the same way he shows towards you. You may gain his respect back or not, but that's not the idea. You ought to have enough pride and self-respect to step away from people like that. Otherwise you end up being a supplicant, in the way that you are looking for his approval.
Physical dominance is an important aspect as well. I know a 250 lb dude at the boxing gym that looks like a cut up version of Kane from WWE. He gets mad respect on that aspect itself. So if you're skinny or overweight or out of shape then strengthening your body, martial arts/boxing training, will make you more confident of yourself. When you know you can kick the asses of 80 percent of the guys you are around, then you will be respected.
This is based on observations and personal experiences so feel free to add on or critique.
