Guy and his friends always trying to treat me like ****.I just can't react...

[R00kieDJ]

Yeah this happens a lot, these guys i know from a friend of mine, try to treat me like ****, like making fun of me in public, trying to extort money and sometimes saying things like " you have a funny face, some years ago you would have your face full of scars, you would have been beaten so much that you wouldn't be the clown you are now." They think they are the hardest around, just because they smoke cocaine, acids and stuff like, makes them like they are really import when they are just a bunch of no lifes. But they don't mess with my friends, they just peek on me for some strange reason, and his friends who don't know me and don't have any confidence with me don't respect me either, i'm ****i'n tired of this. A friend of mine told me they want me to react just to have an excuse to beat my ass up, he advised me to ignore them, but they start to get on my nerves and if i don't take an attitude anyone who i meet up with will lose their respect on me. Is it the way we portray ourselves, the way we dress, the way we walk, we talk that tells other people that they can make fun of us and lose their respect. If i don't react i will lose girls respect to, i think they notice it to. So do i need to use violence to fight violence and disrespect?

Thanks

 

[Boricua_33015]

hey man I had the same problems like u. They would keep messin with me until I would just BLOW up and I would end up fighting them. Nowadays I try to ignore it but they might keep on. Or try to come back at them.

To this day I still dont know the right way to handle these situations, I always think its fighting them. But sometimes fighting aint the right way to go. I fear that if it happens again Ill have to fight again but hey THEM MUTHERFVCKERS FORCED MY HAND. THEY KNEW IT GOT ME PISSED SO I HAD TO STOP IT SOMEHOW!

I talked to my boy in new york and he tells me I should whoop they ass or stab them whoever gives me sh1t. He told me to take sh1t from no one. If anyone ever fvcks wit me to pull out a knife and show them wussup. he says that after people see that u dont take sh1t from no one people will start giving you respect and sooner or later you will have a crew and then you will be un-f*ck-with-able because that crew always backs u up. If you don't do sh1t like that then people will call you pvssy for the longest time and say that your soft. He told me you have to stand up for yourself AND THEN you get respect. Thats how you earn respect.

But there has to be another way to stand up for yourself and take sh1t from no one without violence.

I dont know mang but thats New York, spefically the bronx. I dont know, Im having thoughts that now if anyone messes wit me I dont give a f*ck, they hurtin my pride my reputation man, I dont give a flying f*ck if they have a crew man, Ill f*ckin smash they head on a wall till their teeth come out.

 

[Boricua_33015]

i have talked to my dad about this alot. He told me if I think fighting or some physical agression is the way I earn respect then by all means do what you want to. He told me that he doesnt think its the rite way to do it but then again in the old days teenagers didnt do the same stuff they do today. He told me its just todays generation so do what you have to.

He also told that me that to prevent this you HAVE to change the way you present yourself. If you get alot of sh*t then that means you have a reason why people do it. It could be subliminal, and it could be by how you talk and other sh*t. If you look like a geek or talk like one, then you will get picked on. If you look like you are always in a bad mood then youll get picked on. If you always look depressed youll be sure to get picked on. If you are clumsy, you are sure to get picked on. If you act stupid or like an idiot, youll get picked on. If you look insecure, or act insecure, YOULL GET PICKED ON! If you act immature or like a little kid you will get picked on. They do this because they think you are pathetic, they pity you, they think you are not worth having a life. Trust me, I know this. Even if you think you dont have anything wrong you still have might have something wrong with you but just don't know it.

SOOO..... youll have to change your appearance. Do some self analyzation, maybe change your style, the way you talk, throw in some confidence the way you talk. Walk around with your head held up high, take out all insecurity, not all but most of them, because some is good but any insecurity you have left, try as hard as you can to cover it up with something that shows you are secure. Talk secure, talk like you know what you are talking about. Talk like you don't give a f*ck if people will react bad to what you say, don't act afraid, don't have a shaky little voice, speak LOUD AND PROUD! Gain some intelligence, get smart, but be cool at the same time. Be witty and clever.

You also gain lots of respect by being a DJ and getting the finest girls. Though you will get haters. But at least they dont think you are pathetic or a loser. They ENVY you because they can't be like you and they wish they could so they secretly hate you. Hell they might even respect you because you ARE a respectable person. You are a fvcking badass. Don't go around loking for fights, don't give anyone a reason to not like you.

Another way is to go to the gym and get big. If you are muscular and look like you can whoop anyone's ass then no one will f*ck with you.

I gave some pretty useful advice..... sh1t I might want to use some of them.

Thats all the advice I can give you on how to avoid these situations, but I still don't know how to handle them without some agression if it does come up so Im counting on other replies for help.

 

[123guy]

I'm surprised that these cases of bullying and **** still come up in high school. My advice to you is to get to know some friends that have a lot of back, then just mind your own business. If those guys fvuk with you, then you've got your back. For now, lay low. Make sure you garner enough back before you start ****, then go in for the kill.

 

[Oxide]

dont care. have friends who arent afriad to fight with you. they say something to you, look back , squirt your eyes, and say
"trust me, you dont want none".

 

[El brujo]

Hey man, I've been in the same situation a few years ago (but it wasn't that bad), and for me this helped:

Guys like these always have a "leader", so you could go to him when he's alone, and try to talk to him, in a serious way. When guys like these are alone, they seem to be more mature, and you would be able to explain to him that you don 't like what they're doing. I don't mean a conversation like this:


Hhhhh hh h h hey, mmm mm m mman! *trembling legs*, will you pleaaase stop laughing at me... etc

But something like this:

"Hey man, I know that you don't like me, but I'd really like to know the reason why you keep on picking on me, and I don't like it what you guys are doing to me, you know what I'm saying?"

It could be possible that he still doesnt stop it, but hey, you have to take some risks in life, and if he doesn't stop, show him who your friends are and how your fists and their fists look like... No, that this one is a joke, but I must admit, when mature stuff like talking doesn't help with boneheads like these guys, you CAN get respect from them with your fists. Peace activists can say what they want, but you can reach through in stupid people's minds when you do it the hard way.

just try to reach through to him (or you could start talking to one of the "lower in rank" guys who doesn't tease you that much. become friends with insiders. I don't know there are many ways to solve this problem, just have to use the one that suits you the best.

Good luck

 

[Boricua_33015]

Hhhhh hh h h hey, mmm mm m mman! *trembling legs*, will you pleaaase stop laughing at me... etc

LOL!

Yea get some back.

I made a group of freinds one time but I had made the mistake of making them my only freinds. Them freinds then saw that I dont have other ones and that I was solo and starts making fun of me. I ended up fighting one of them. And I stood up to 2 of them and slapped another one.

The one I fought was making fun of me one day on the bus after school. So later I called him up and said "yo u got beef?" hes like "what are you talking about", I said "yea you do come to my crib rite now". I waited for him, with a bowl of chronic in my hand because I thought maybe we could settle this over a bowl ( i was such a dumbass, I made a choice to first fight him then I didnt want to). He came and ran up to me and he started the fight, I didnt have a chance to talk to him because I had already initiated it through the phone. So since he swung first I said f*ck this and started swinging to. He whooped my ass though, he was 2 years older than me, I was 16 he was 18, and plus he started swingin first. He whooped my ass but he fought me in a way that he couldnt really leave any marks on me because you see, he didnt hate me. I would expect a person who whooped my ass like him to leave me bleeding and sh*t but he left NOTHING, not even a bump.

The next day I went up to him and talked to him. He told me that he didnt really want to fight me. I almost cried like a little ***** and so he said sorry. After he said that I said we cool? He said we cool. After that he told everyone that if anyone mentions the fight, that there will be problems. He denies that we fought. He has my back and he never talks sh*t to me again.

The other 2 guys I had try to fight them but since there were other people around they broke it up and demanded that we solve the problem without fists.....(pvssies!). One of them I stopped talkin to all together, but one day I made it clear to him that if he talks sh*t to me again there will be problems. Ever since that day he has never talked sh*t to me.

The last one I slapped him and he got up and slapped me back. I didn't fight him I just said "you know what f*ck you, I dont think its worth wastin my time fighting you" and I just left.

Later I told one of them that was cool wit me that Im not gonna chill with anyone in the group no more because I have or at least had beef with 4 people in the group and all of you chill together.

Now Im back to being solo, now I have no back. I still want to fight the guy who I slapped but I have a feeling that if I do his brother and everyone else I know from the group will jump in and defend. Right now my boys from New York said they will come down to Miami and bring they knives and gats to get revenge on him. So right now Im waiting for them to come so we can all have a brawl.

When school starts again Im going to get alot of freinds and Im not gonna let anyone give me sh*t. Now that I know that there is really nothing wrong with demanding respect with fists. Well of course Ill try to "mature" way first. Some people do need a good whoopin. They can't go around disrespetcing people just for the hell of it. Its wrong!

 

[Boricua_33015]

I bet some of those peace activists you mention live in good communities or dont go to bad school. Sh*t they dont know what it is to go to a school with gangs and thugs and sh*t where you have to fight for respect.

 

[El brujo]

solve the problem without fists.....(pvssies!).

Hey, I think you should solve problems with words, and use the fists only when there is no other option. You aren't a pµssie if you don't want to fight.

Right now my boys from New York said they will come down to Miami and bring they knives and gats to get revenge on him. So right now Im waiting for them to come so we can all have a brawl.

Aren't you exagerating? And if this is true: Maybe it feels good if you "have" boys and stuff, but knives and gats...? I don't think that that is something to be proud of.

Well of course Ill try to "mature" way first. Some people do need a good whoopin. They can't go around disrespetcing people just for the hell of it. Its wrong!

You're right with that one, but don't punch a dude or stab a dude just because he laughs at you... :

"Hey you, your hair looks gay today!"
"What motherfùcker???? *stab stab stab*! Problem solved!"

 

[El brujo]

I bet some of those peace activists you mention live in good communities or dont go to bad school. Sh*t they dont know what it is to go to a school with gangs and thugs and sh*t where you have to fight for respect

Hmmm... So you're not exagerating... Man, I only see this stuff on television. The place I live there are nog gangs and thugs. I'm glad I live here, where the birds sing and where knives are only used to carve heartshaped love symbols into trees...

 

[drixsa]

i hate to sound like a parent, but what are you doing hanging around guys that smoke crack??

there is no upside to that stuff

 

[El brujo]

And I hate to sound stupid, but what kind of drug is crack actually? From what is it derivated? Is it a streetname for a more known drugname?

 

[Boricua_33015]

no, crack is crack. Its a rock that people smoke. The topic starter said "people that smoke cocaine" well people dont smoke cocaine by itself, its a powder, it can be used to lace with weed and smoke but cocaine by itself is usually sniffed.

And about the guns and knives. I dont know, thats what my boy in New York says hell use. In my school people don't usually fight with weapons though unless they need to. There actually was a person who got killed in my school some years ago. But thats when it was REALLY bad. Now it isnt even close to being as bad as before. Because they kicked out all the bad influences. Now its just a bunch of crews who have each others back and if there is any conflict they settle it with fists and if it gets far enough, then theyll use weapons.

I think Ill tell my boy to not use the weapons unless it is necessary. Everyone knows where I live so if they use any weapons they theyll all come to my crib with knives and bats and pipes and sh1t and all my boys from New York will probably be gone back to NY.

I dont know man, sh*t is getting too complicated. The ones who started this were the people who made fun of me man. If they didnt make fun of me none of this had to happen. Whatever happens happens.

 

[bud_2005]

Originally posted by Boricua_33015
I talked to my boy in new york and he tells me I should whoop they ass or stab them whoever gives me sh1t. He told me to take sh1t from no one. If anyone ever fvcks wit me to pull out a knife and show them wussup. he says that after people see that u dont take sh1t from no one people will start giving you respect and sooner or later you will have a crew and then you will be un-f*ck-with-able because that crew always backs u up. If you don't do sh1t like that then people will call you pvssy for the longest time and say that your soft. He told me you have to stand up for yourself AND THEN you get respect. Thats how you earn respect.

Pvssys use knifes. ANYBODY(including 110 lb. wimps) can pull out a knife so no one should get any respect for pulling out one. Go lift some weights and fight like a man instead of this pvssy knife ****.

 

[Boricua_33015]

true, but then again, this is not me, its my freind. Id rather fight with fists. And I do lift weights, Im already pretty big.

 

[bud_2005]

Originally posted by Boricua_33015
LOL!

Yea get some back.

I made a group of freinds one time but I had made the mistake of making them my only freinds. Them freinds then saw that I dont have other ones and that I was solo and starts making fun of me. I ended up fighting one of them. And I stood up to 2 of them and slapped another one.

You slapped him? LOL WHAT A LOSER.

 

[Zelemont]

Originally posted by Oxide
squirt your eyes

Boricua style

 

[Zelemont]

If you want to learn about crack or any other mind altering substance, go to www.erowid.org <-- I love that site. Crack is under "cocaine"

 

[Da Irishman]

Originally posted by bud_2005
Pvssys use knifes. ANYBODY(including 110 lb. wimps) can pull out a knife so no one should get any respect for pulling out one. Go lift some weights and fight like a man instead of this pvssy knife ****.

Thats the shìt!

 

[J-Man]

now this is gonna get carried over to the health and fitness forum lol.

"whats a good diet for me and my crew? we use knives, so we dont wanna be that big, but we also use bats. like in new york."

i live in a pretty good neighborhood and really dont get into any fights. im 5'6. i would lose even to people younger than me. i work out a little but its useless. fighting is just NOT an option for me.

luckily, im a witty little smartass, so i argue everything out. thankfully i havent met anyone so stupid that just wants a fight and no compramise..... yet. i really dont hang out with boneheads or any violent people, so i really have no "security."

maybe i should carry a knife with me?