David D gives a good framework, and you then find what works for you. Tea or Coffee is the way to go. It requires less commitment, is a good way to spend little time/money to find out if you'd like to spend more time/money (lol, later down the road of course) with a girl.
David D has helped me complete that final puzzle that would've taken me years. Get the programs (just a handful) you think you need to work on the most, check them out, forget them, and live your life.
Good luck.