guess its due time for another complaint thread eh

[Afc-Dj Divide]

guess a short intro is in order
im a first year in uni
been lurking here a while
i guess u could call me a true afc (as for my username...heck i did it ages ago. was conceited. knowledge means nothing without experience.)
i agree with a lot of the premises u guys put forward in these boards (although those affirmations, and "live for the day" threads just slide)
i waste time frequently
and ah...i think too much

my main complaint? i am unsatisfied with my life
i c no point in putting effort into my studies (dont like the course. id change, but to wat, i dont no)
in the ah...dj sense, 18yr old virgin whos never had a relationship. hows that?
im also a chronic net and ps2 junkie, not becoz i enjoy them. it passes the time. (and yes i no i could do work. i dont. call it loose priorities)

will i accept it? id rather not, but over the past few months, im afraid that i probably already have.
wat can i do about it?
i just dont no nemore

(now here come the rationalisations)
now dont get me wrong. im not completely pathetic
ive beaten a shyness/tact thing thats been bugging me for most of my life (not completely of course)
and i workout frequently at home, for the sake of the confidence boost (this started about 2 months ago. i dont expect fast results. im piss weak and im easily impressed by my improvements)

and as for the "trying to be a DJ" thing
sometimes i can hold eye contact till they break
other times i break
and sometimes i break, quickly

and ive...talked to strangers, and gotten some laughs (getting the laughs is not much trouble for me. its getting the nerve to sit next to them and initiate convo that kills me)

although they may not seem like much, but to me they r developments none the less. keeps me from accepting the afc path. (not to mention the fact that about 95%+ of the ppl from my uni seem like afcs.)

but still
its not good enough
an untapped goldmine and im gnawing at it with a toothpick


hit me ppl
advice
criticism
physical blows (if u can...)

lets c wat u got

 

[sojolly]

Get a life .. seriously

Dude;

I wish that i could be back at 18 with the knowledge that i have now at 40 such fun times to be had. I have learned a lot in the past 22 years that can be used to advantage.

My suggestion to you and all of the younger guys out there is:

- Forget about obsessing about women for a bit .. the 'one' will come along and the 'many' will come along too if you dont obsess about it.

- Work on yourself .. get in shape .. learn to dress nice (women dont like a slob) .. learn some skills that are fun and make you interesting .. enjoy all that life has to offer .. get an education (so you dont have to work so damn hard to make a living) .. get some pals to hang out with .. think (a lot) about the future and what you want to do with your life.

- Develop skills in making good friendships with other guys. This is more important than it sounds. Think about it. -if- You spend all your time developing these DJ techniques in attracting women and meeting women -and- then you eventually meet the 'one'. Do you think she is going to tolerate you continuing to use your skills? Will you want to continue to use your skills in making friends/meeting women? Hell no. At 40, unless you have a fairly messed up perception of what life is about .. ie meeting women for short relationships .. then you want a strong relationship with one woman that loves you -and- you want a lot of friends that you can hang out with and do stuff with when the wife is doing her stuff. Granted the DJ stuff is good to use on her .. in small doses to keep her interest up. So develop those skills as well.

- Look at life as an adventure ahead of you. Plan your plan .. then execute your plan.

Good luck bud;

Sojolly

 

[boost]

The first thing you should do is switch your major to ENGLISH...

 

[PANK]

Hi there whatever your name is. Dont worry about being a virgin i am and im 23 i dont care its going to change I WILL MAKE IT. Rejections are definate theres nothing wrong with looking at porn i wish i had this info at 18 but no big deal dont think about the past. The only people who are pathetic are the people who dont give something they want everything. If you wownt try and try hard i promise you wownt get anything EVER.

 

[Oscar Wilde]

I lost it at 20, and didnt score again til I was 21 with a 2/10 ugly fat slapper in Ibiza.... so don't worry about it.

I'm a confident guy except when it comes to women, that's why I'm using this place to help up that.

There's some good sh!t on here.

Osc.

 

[Oxide]

1st. Dont think of yourself as a looser.
2nd. Stop giving a fvuk about what others think of you.
Go find sometimes you will like martial arts/sports something. And having friends is a good perk

 

[Turalyon999]

2 years ago, I was exactly where you used to be, 18/virgin, didn't study, and played computer games all day to pass the time.

Being that way did nothing for my life, it just made me depressed and gave me too much time to think about all the failures in my life, making me even less motivated to change things.

How did I cure it, well it was a slow and arduous process, but I'll give you some of the basics.

First of all, get some friends, friends that you can just hang out with, friends you can call up randomly and go get lunch dinner with.

Second, stop caring about what other people think, it doesn't matter what other people think, it matters what you think.

Third, stop agreeing with the board and go out and do it, knowing a idea and actually putting it into action are two different things. The stuff on this board is not just for getting lots of girls(which it does a good job of) it's about being a better person, it's about being the best man you can be.

Fourth, don't waste your whole day playing video games, get out their and play a sport, any sport, it's good exercise plus you'll meet people. If you suck at all sports, pick one you'd like to play, you can't get better not playing, you only get better by practicing

Fifth and last, stop thinking about all the stuff you haven't done, like had a relationship, etc. These things don't matter, what matters are the positive things in your life, focusing on the negative will only bring you down.


I've got a mission for you, it's simple, and will help you feel better about your life.

This weekend, be it Friday or whatever, go to a party, preferably a party with a lot of people at it. You're mission is to have the greatest time you've ever had in your life. Don't worry if you "look cool" it doesn't matter if you look coll or not, just have fun. Go to the party and dance with all the hot girls, talk to them, meet everyone at the party for that matter. Drink until you throw up, it doesn't matter what you do, just have fun.

P.s.-don't drink until you throw up, your head will thank you in the morning