anyway, been seeing this girl for about 2 months. Usually she's the one to initiate contact with me about everyday so far. And interest lvl was sky high to begin with.
but anyway...here's the problem... so far this week she hasnt been contacting me much. Usually it's me that does it 1x every 2 days...and with that we have 2x as much to talk about. however, she is eager to talk to me when i do contact her...but eventually sometimes we just run out of stuff to talk about. And we end up talking about each other's day and that's it. today was silly of me, i shouldve waited for the 3rd day but i broke it and just spoke to her online. last week she was eager to contact me to meet up last minute. This week it was me, but she is still eager to meet me, even if she is tired.
Im thinking there's something a week ago i may have done to cause this, altho im not really sure. I do have an interesting social life going on. But perhaps the part that's predictable is the fact that im not a player and in fact a 1 woman man that she's able to see.
So im not even sure. maybe she feels she doesnt want to scare me off by contacting me all the time....that she's given me the job to contact her. or worse her IL is slowly dropping.
Yes, you guys may say "give her the gift of missing you." ...which i do believe in. But i also do know, soemtimes "out of sight, out of mind." and by not contacting, you slowly lose interest/attraction in one another.
honestly i dont know what to do, i want this to get better before it gets worse. But truth is, if her IL has dropped, i must admit mine has dropped also. Perhaps a double effect? i drop IL in you and it gets reciprocated? A part of me feels that if i pick up the ball and do the contacting everyday (which shows more interest), her IL will rise again....but again not sure. Anyway ill be gone for a week vacation this month, when i get back...things could be worse or better off than now.
A lot of times, i do my best to keep the convo going...but i run out of steam eventually.
Is there anything i can do to make this better?
but anyway...here's the problem... so far this week she hasnt been contacting me much. Usually it's me that does it 1x every 2 days...and with that we have 2x as much to talk about. however, she is eager to talk to me when i do contact her...but eventually sometimes we just run out of stuff to talk about. And we end up talking about each other's day and that's it. today was silly of me, i shouldve waited for the 3rd day but i broke it and just spoke to her online. last week she was eager to contact me to meet up last minute. This week it was me, but she is still eager to meet me, even if she is tired.
Im thinking there's something a week ago i may have done to cause this, altho im not really sure. I do have an interesting social life going on. But perhaps the part that's predictable is the fact that im not a player and in fact a 1 woman man that she's able to see.
So im not even sure. maybe she feels she doesnt want to scare me off by contacting me all the time....that she's given me the job to contact her. or worse her IL is slowly dropping.
Yes, you guys may say "give her the gift of missing you." ...which i do believe in. But i also do know, soemtimes "out of sight, out of mind." and by not contacting, you slowly lose interest/attraction in one another.
honestly i dont know what to do, i want this to get better before it gets worse. But truth is, if her IL has dropped, i must admit mine has dropped also. Perhaps a double effect? i drop IL in you and it gets reciprocated? A part of me feels that if i pick up the ball and do the contacting everyday (which shows more interest), her IL will rise again....but again not sure. Anyway ill be gone for a week vacation this month, when i get back...things could be worse or better off than now.
A lot of times, i do my best to keep the convo going...but i run out of steam eventually.
Is there anything i can do to make this better?
