Locster said:
I had an weird experience yesterday at grad night. When I was on the dance floor I asked 3 different girls to dance (grind) but I was rejected every time. After that I started just dancing alone slowly moving toward girls I wanted to grind with and this time I actually manage to grind with a girl without asking
So my question is when grinding is it better to ask or just take action?
Seeing that you are only 17, I would assume that you don't have a lot of "experience" in grinding in club/party settings...
Actually, there's no clear cut answer to your question. It depends on the setting, the girl, your attitude, and more importantly what
you are looking for.
- There are "slvtty" girls who enjoy grinding for the sake of having you have a hard on and feeling her sexual prowess over you, basically having her ego stroked. Usually these girls would grind with virtually
any guy. But they won't grind for more than 10 minutes. After that they will just join their girlfriends and have a laugh at you before moving to the next chump.
A simple way to spot these girls: they will NEVER let you grind them front-on, and they won't let you touch her, the only thing you "are allowed" to do is rubbing your crotch on their azz.
And when they are grinding with other guys, you can see this "whateverish" b*tchy and bored look on their face. "So... who's next?"
If you are interested in grinding with these girls, well just go up to them caveman style without saying a word and enjoy your 10 minutes of cheap thrill...
- There are girls who are very "open minded" so to speak, if they find you attractive enough, they will let you grind whether you've been "gentlemanly" or not in your approach. As long as you are not rude, it's ok. But with these chicks, you are more into it than they are. So don't expect them to be "passionate"...
- And finally there are chicks who are really into you. Some might even "not like grinding with guys", but they will make the exception for you. They will hover "randomly" close to you so you would eventually dance and grind with them. They might be more into it than you are...
During my two three years of clubbing life, I had this case once. She was so attracted that she was grinding so "passionately" with her eyes closed, and her two hands pulling on my thighs. I was SO embarrassed since it was only 23pm and there were almost no one on the dance floor. We were like having sex on the dance floor and EVERYBODY in the club was watching us...
Very very embarrassing
, but since the girl was pretty good-looking, that was some major social proof...
And my ego was feeling good too, since she's the typical "good girl" kind. Dressed casually, and she turned down many guys before hovering randomly around me when I was breakdancing... Too bad "things" didn't work out because she had some fattie friend with her and she's from another town and needed to catch the last bus around midnight to get back and that I didn't have a car and some other sh*t
As you can see, I prefer the last kind. Because you really enjoy it when there's this intense chemistry. It's not just rubbing it left right up and down. Unfortunately this kind of case is very very rare...
And finally my advice: ask them to dance/grind, but not with words, use your gestures, body language and dance moves.