I have not really gotten into Tony Robbins or any other advisors like that, but I do have one of his books from wayyyyyyyyyyyy back - I gotta look around. I recommend watching the videos. It's just further describes what a lot of the solid guys on here are talking about.
Once the door is opened to this type of progression, a women will fiend off it like it is crack and it's terrible for everyone, both you and them. Based on my past experience, I don't think they realize it at the time, but they are fast-tracking the relationship into the ground - most times unintentionally. They are whipping around hair pins on Pacific Coast Highway with racing fuel emotion in their tank.
In a short-term situation, a capable chick can establish one or more guys that serve as their emotional dumping ground. They straight unload on a guy(s) and the AFC buys into it thinking he is getting closer. Her attraction for him will deteriorate as she will begin to associate him with working through all the drama. Meanwhile, she will encounter a different type of guy, a DJ who will not let her go there with him. He leads her, rocks her world, and rails her. She would not dare risk the explosive positive high she feels with the DJ for the opp to work through her drama. She respects him and his **** pounding the fvck out of her. And she's got her harem of AFC's standing ready to hear her sh1t, offer a shoulder to cry on, and share their advice.
A LTR or marriage is much more complicated as there is definitely a lot more at risk for the receiving lover/spouse. I guess if I were married, I would do what it takes to make it so she was shaking, racing to get home as much as possible and make damn sure she is doin' things to make me feel the same way.
Allow for a little bit of sharing of what happened/drama, but quickly divert from that to positive, light, and alluring activities, mixing things up and allowing 0.00 routine, creating a definite barrier between your relationship/private life and professional life.
This is one reason why people cheat. They can have their cake and eat it too in whatever manner they can get away with by polarizing relationships. For example, a wife can have their support, money, and stability from a husband. But if he offers little else, she will find what she is missing in quick order elsewhere - pool guy, gardener guy, personal trainer, hot guy at the bar/club. Look at what Shaq's wife did!!
And it is not always a woman doing this to a man, the situation can be reversed, but with a lot of LJBF content on this forum I gotta think women are more prone to being on the dishing end of the drama with guys AFC'ing their way to hell.
I got the notes on the other stuff so I should go back through those videos and find that section.
** This is where the Aces around here gotta step in because of the topics in his set, I think this is where most guys are screwin' it up with their game. **
