got to get rid of her.

[MoonieTX]

Well Guys,

After a LTR, I used some of the ideas on this web site to hook a girl I am at college with. I went back to better myself, apparently. Everything worked like a charm, but now she is so far into me it is crazy. I hardened myself after my last LTR, I was such a soft touch, it makes me so mad looking back. I feel like I am falling back into my old ways, which disgusts me. I am all coldish to her on the phone and take ages to return her calls, but as soon as I see her, I am Mr Nicey Nice again. I am going through a lot of turmoil at the moment, so it is cool to have someone to take my mind of that for an evening. But, yesterday she said I realise what you are going through, that maybe we should start over. And dared me that we couldn't keep our clothes on until later this month sometime. I am being such a soft wanker and need someone to give me a kick up the arse.
On the other side, my ex told me I could do a lot better than her. I thought it was a jealous girlie type thing. But, this girl told me that someone else had said that about her when she was with another guy. I really think that is the case and I am lowering my league just to get some attention.

So any feedback would be appreciated.
Cheers.

 

[Mister Big]

You need to date more than one woman. You have an obvious affliction with one-itis. I still fight the AFC urges you mention, but because several women occupy my time, I have started to face my fear of rejection and stand up for myself. I still don't feel 100% comfortable with the DJ me, but my having more than one woman is a major improvement to my dating environment. You'll lose the fear of being alone and start to focus on what you want out of life which is more than just a relationship with one woman. A woman that qualifies should be something really special. The rest occupy your time and should be fun. I have dated some fairly attractive women lately, but none come close to qualifying.

So, you need to get more women in your life. How are you going to do that?

You and I should start a boot camp this weekend and post our results. That will give you and me a needed kick in the arse.

 

[MoonieTX]

Mr Big,

I think you hit the nail on the head. It is the worry of being alone that makes like this. It is true I need to get out and date more women and just have fun.

I will be up for starting a boot camp this weekend. I am going out on Saturday which will give me a chance to meet lots of new people. So if that day is good for you to start we can start swapping notes.

Cheers
Moonie

 

[Mister Big]

Originally posted by MoonieTX
I will be up for starting a boot camp this weekend.

Consider this an open invitation to any others interested.

Moonie,
Summer festivals provide a lot of opportunities which should make our camp very productive. I'll post something towards the end of this week to start a new thread. The current mature boot camp thread is overly posted. I love to read detailed field reports. It will be awesome to share our own to learn and develop. Builds confidence and gives you a log of progress.

 

[MoonieTX]

This is great boost for me Mister Big. I am starting a new work out regime next Monday, so this will give my confidence a work out too. Then everything will start coming together hopefully.

 

[DrDope]

Originally posted by MoonieTX
my ex told me I could do a lot better than her.

Well, that was very thoughtful of her.

No ulterior motive there, right?

 

[MoonieTX]

Dr Dope, Hell yea there was an ulterior motive. But, when I hear the same thing about her from someone, that she told me about, then it got me thinking.