Got friendzoned. Need some insight

[S.U.R.F.]

Hey guys, let me share my problem.

I met this great girl. Tall, pretty, very intelligent, and quirky too. Shes awesome, but has her isseus (doesnt all women >.> ) We talked to about a month or so, then we decided to go on a date. After the date, she said that she "didnt want to date me". Now, this is basically me getting friendzoned.

However, both her and her friend told me that she has NEVER ever liked a guy enough to go out with for all 16 years of her life. I was her first date. So either she is asexual, or I got played by a really really good liar. Btw this information was shared before we went on the date.

Now, as I'm still very young, and am recovering nicely from this one girl (its day 3, and I'm feeling so much better). I came to realize how much I really do for women, and how little contorl I have over my own actions. Its pretty liberating.

So guys, as I'm still young. Will I meet more women like this? Or EVEN BETTER in the future? Please assure me that I will. Also confirm for me if its actually possible to be "asexual".

Thanks

 

[kingsam]

Hey guys, let me share my problem.

I met this great girl. Tall, pretty, very intelligent, and quirky too. Shes awesome, but has her isseus a red flag but what issues exactly (doesnt all women NO >.> ) We talked to about a month or so, then we decided to go on a date.
1- you talked for a month !! way too long ??!! you need to get the date* going within like a week or so
2- what do you mean "we" did you have to convince her over the month? you should call her up and say "are you free on XX ill take you out XX" (basically anything other than "yes" means not really interested, and if she cant make it she shoudl suggest another time)
After the date, she said that she "didnt want to date me" see you spent a month talking to her and she ended up not really liking you - you should have got her number then had some kind of "date activity" wihtin a week or two (no contact between seeing her to be mysterious). Now, this is basically me getting friendzoned. you could have avioded this wasted time...and possibly met another few chicks!

However, both her and her friend told me that she has NEVER ever liked a guy enough to go out with for all 16 years of her life. I was her first date. So either she is asexual, or I got played by a really really good liar. Btw this information was shared before we went on the date.

Now, as I'm still very young, and am recovering nicely from this one girl (its day 3, and I'm feeling so much better). I came to realize how much I really do for women, and how little contorl I have over my own actions. Its pretty liberating.

So guys, as I'm still young. Will I meet more women like this? Or EVEN BETTER in the future? Please assure me that I will. only if you put in the effort to proactively meet chicks, talk to them etc.... many guys arnt proactive in thier love life and have to accept to one/two low quality women who approach them...you want to have a choice of good women right? be proactive

Also confirm for me if its actually possible to be "asexual". thers nothing asexual , you are just finding excuses why she didnt like you... you need to make sure you are the best person you can be - physically and personality wise, and some people will like you some wont its nothing personal - as you are young you most likely havent developed into your "full potenital" yet so aim for self improvement.

* make sure she knows its not just friends hanging out

Thanks

this shoud be a start SURF...

 

[Real Talk]

I'm not that much older than you I don't think. From my experience, with each new girl you become involved with your taste in women gets better and you become more acutely aware of what a particular girl is about , and the next girl you fall for always seems to be better than the last. thats just me though.

Don't worry dude, as long as you're secure with who you are and do your thing (i.e. not just using canned "seduction" methods but maturing your inner game) you'll be fine.

 

[S.U.R.F.]

I hear both of you. I'm pretty sure that I fked up somehow. I don't think it was much what I said and stuff, but my mindset is definitely as solid as It should be. Perhaps a girl can "feel" that? Maybe...

Weird, I'm not sure that I really wanted to go out with this girl. I told my friend that I didnt want a girlfriend currently because I was too needy and co-dependent before i got news of my being friendzoned. I guess my ego wanted her to like me . Who knows, but I have learnt alot from this.

I dont want to be concerned with this **** anymore. I do not have the time nor energy to deal with women and their games. Most of these girls live to drain the energy out of guys anyways.

I agree kingsam, I do need to be more proactive. I waited along time before I asked her out lol. I have little experience in this matter no doubt. But still I think I have made quite enough mistakes to become amazing. I do not want to go out finding quality women. Quality women do not appear in parties. I only met her at a party and it was her first ever one. (I tried making out with her when I was high , that led to me talking to her on facebook).

ANYWAYS, I don't really plan on partying for the sake of meeting girls. As I'm going to college next year, I do plan on networking alot. Not to meet women, more along the lines of intellectuals and interesting people who care my ideas and my views and my interests. I guess that is better then nothing.

I agree too Real Talk. I'm only 16 right now, almost 17. The girl I liked before was pretty, nice, and kinda dumb. This girl is a big improvement on the last one. I wonder about the next one lool.

I don't want to go around talking to random women for the sake of improving my "pickup" skills. That seems weird-ish (no offence). I just plan on doing my ****, improving myself, picking up new and polishing old hobbies. **** like that. I have "meh-ish" inner game. I want to have rock solid, totally independent inner game. I doubt I even want to have women besides for my ego wanting someone (hot) to like me. But isnt that becuz I have low self esteem. I doubt I want to get laid either, I watch porn never lately. I masterbate once a week (lately). LOL, so guys, experienced guys especially, love to hear more from youuu

 

[GetOveIT]

FriendZone = Run.