Got Dumped But Still Can't Get Over Her

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I was with this girl for 5-6 months. I got her while she was having a relationship with her ex-bf. I was insecure and needy. Eventually I lost her 4 months ago. I lost my self esteem and confidence - the feeling of not worthy of being loved. Now she's with another guy, and it pisses me off seeing that she is with that guy who is her best friends of three years. I am lost. I cannot concentrate on work. I always think of her. I really don't know what to do. I want to get her back but I don't think it is possible.
 

facadegeniality

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find some new girls.

it always helps.

if that doesnt, find a reason to hate her.

ps: ur nick.....looks damn familiar. the movie pirate group right?
 

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She cheated on her boyfriend when she got you. And now your surprised she cheated on you with another guy? Guess what happens with this new guy after a while...he will get cheated too by this b!tch.
It;s harsh to see her with someone else, i agree, especially when it is with a guy who was 'just a friend' while you problably noticed already a long time ago that he wanted much more (and finnaly gets it). You deserve better!

You'r not lost (yet). You'r lost when you keep dragging this girl with you in your mind and stay sentimental. Better move on and cut contact with her. I mean...ALL CONTACT.
Read XControllerX threads, he makes you more wise about such situations.

Good luck
 

axxo

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yeah she cheated on her bf when she got me.. after sometime, she dumped me because i was such an AFC... then 3 months later, she's in relationship with someone else..

LittleBigOne said:
She cheated on her boyfriend when she got you. And now your surprised she cheated on you with another guy? Guess what happens with this new guy after a while...he will get cheated too by this b!tch.
It;s harsh to see her with someone else, i agree, especially when it is with a guy who was 'just a friend' while you problably noticed already a long time ago that he wanted much more (and finnaly gets it). You deserve better!

You'r not lost (yet). You'r lost when you keep dragging this girl with you in your mind and stay sentimental. Better move on and cut contact with her. I mean...ALL CONTACT.
Read XControllerX threads, he makes you more wise about such situations.

Good luck
 

The Bat

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You were the rebound guy. There was no love there. She was simply using you until a better deal came along.

Surround yourself with other girls. Screw other girls. As soon as you hook up with more than 3 girls, you'll forget about your ex.

You are placing your value on someone else's shoulders. Do you realize how much burden you're putting on THEM by saying, "If YOU don't love me, then that means NOBODY loves me and whatever happens to me will be YOUR fault."?

For next time, don't get into relationships with girls who've recently broken up with or are dating their ex-bfs. In fact, don't get into relationships, period. Just go and nail a different girl every week.

P.S. You the same axxo as torrent axxo who uploads tons of new movies every week? :D
 

axxo

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Uhmm.. she dumped her ex-bf for me. I think I got AFC and she started losing interest in me... No I am not the axxo that uploads torrents.

The Bat said:
You were the rebound guy. There was no love there. She was simply using you until a better deal came along.

Surround yourself with other girls. Screw other girls. As soon as you hook up with more than 3 girls, you'll forget about your ex.

You are placing your value on someone else's shoulders. Do you realize how much burden you're putting on THEM by saying, "If YOU don't love me, then that means NOBODY loves me and whatever happens to me will be YOUR fault."?

For next time, don't get into relationships with girls who've recently broken up with or are dating their ex-bfs. In fact, don't get into relationships, period. Just go and nail a different girl every week.

P.S. You the same axxo as torrent axxo who uploads tons of new movies every week? :D
 

Rex Man

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The Bat said:
Just go and nail a different girl every week.
:crackup: Thanks for bringing the comedy, but we all know that's not gonna happen anytime soon.

OP:

Do you have a reason for posting outside of pity party bait? If not, let the party commence. :cry: :cry: :cry:

:cry:
:cry: :cry:
 

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The reason why people always say time is the only thing that works is because you have to get so sick of thinking about it that one morning you wake up and your done. It's like a switch gets flipped. While that is true, meeting another girl, whether or not you end up shagging her, just the new thoughts, posibilities etc. are probably the healthiest thing a guy can do for himself. Even if she isn't a 9 or a 10, by interacting with a different woman, it reminds you that the ex who ended things certainly isn't your only hope. In fact, I've found that even if the new woman only ends up providing a few weeks of flirtting, it's still guaranteed to get the thoughts of the ex out of your head. I know how bad it sucks, been there. After a six month train wreck, it took about two months to feel much better, by the third, completely indifferent. Reading about people who take a really long time to get over an ex leads me to believe they are comfortable with the pain and emotionally unhealthy.
 
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