MightyMike
New Member
Sup all, MM here... I'm new here and came from the MackClub forum which has now been shut down to my knowledge. Anyways, I've got a pretty touchy situation and I'd like yall's advice on it:
I met this girl through my cousin (a girl also), and from the beginning, I did what I have been doing with all women in the past year: carry myself as a confident, care-free, and determined guy. In other words, I carried myself as the PRIZE. Naturally, this worked well with her (we'll call her F from now on), and F had been showing huge signs of interest. When using MSN etc, she would always start conversations with me, and to this day, I still haven't used all the fingers on one hand to count the times I've started conversations with her. Getting insider information on how she feels about me through my cousin is definitely also a helper. Eventually, it got to the point where she wanted to date me (insider info), and so I decided, 'Hey, why not'.
Well, the first date, in my book, was a disaster. This was mainly due to the fact that I had a little bit too much to drink, while she kept herself pretty sober. It did not help by the fact that she kept pouring drinks for me, including dumping alcohol from her cups etc into mine "as a joke". This resulted in me being quite buzzed, so to speak, and she ended up having to help me balance all the way home (a very embarrassing thing for me to admit). The up side is, this broke the ice for me start kino with her, which I kept in check as much as my drunk self could. From what I could remember, she responded very well to the kino, and this excludes the physical contact she had with me to help me stay balanced. So from a kino POV, I'm not worried - there are still plenty signs of interest, and I can conclude that despite me being a huge embarassment to her being drunk publicly, she liked helping me out and liked having lots of contact with me (and yes, I'm very certain about this). What I am worried about (very, in fact) are the things I said. As we all know, alcohol is the truth serum. I honestly like this girl, and in my drunken stupor, I did not reserve this fact to myself. I said many things that I would've never said when sober, including, "I like you", "You're beautiful", and worst of all... "Am I scoring points with you?". You are very welcome to slap me for that last one. Basically, this mishap in judgement has costed me a lot in the advantage that I've built over her in my relationship with her. And now, I'm in need of some advice to recover a lot of lost ground.
Here are some unique circumstances around my situation:
1) This happened a couple days ago in Canada. I am now in the US for summer vacation, and won't be back until mid-August.
2) The only way we would stay in contact (and we are) is through instant messengers online.
3) My cousin is one of F's best friends, and she can still help me out, although to what extent, I do not know.
Not to sound ****y (I am asking for y'alls advice, after all), but I do read signs very well, and I am certain that the interest is still there. However, what I feel is that despite the interest, the PRIZE of the relationship has shifted from being me to her, because of all the things I've told her while drunk. So taking into consideration the long distance and communication limits, what could be done to gain back that ground that I had built with her before all this happened?
Thanks in advance,
MM
I met this girl through my cousin (a girl also), and from the beginning, I did what I have been doing with all women in the past year: carry myself as a confident, care-free, and determined guy. In other words, I carried myself as the PRIZE. Naturally, this worked well with her (we'll call her F from now on), and F had been showing huge signs of interest. When using MSN etc, she would always start conversations with me, and to this day, I still haven't used all the fingers on one hand to count the times I've started conversations with her. Getting insider information on how she feels about me through my cousin is definitely also a helper. Eventually, it got to the point where she wanted to date me (insider info), and so I decided, 'Hey, why not'.
Well, the first date, in my book, was a disaster. This was mainly due to the fact that I had a little bit too much to drink, while she kept herself pretty sober. It did not help by the fact that she kept pouring drinks for me, including dumping alcohol from her cups etc into mine "as a joke". This resulted in me being quite buzzed, so to speak, and she ended up having to help me balance all the way home (a very embarrassing thing for me to admit). The up side is, this broke the ice for me start kino with her, which I kept in check as much as my drunk self could. From what I could remember, she responded very well to the kino, and this excludes the physical contact she had with me to help me stay balanced. So from a kino POV, I'm not worried - there are still plenty signs of interest, and I can conclude that despite me being a huge embarassment to her being drunk publicly, she liked helping me out and liked having lots of contact with me (and yes, I'm very certain about this). What I am worried about (very, in fact) are the things I said. As we all know, alcohol is the truth serum. I honestly like this girl, and in my drunken stupor, I did not reserve this fact to myself. I said many things that I would've never said when sober, including, "I like you", "You're beautiful", and worst of all... "Am I scoring points with you?". You are very welcome to slap me for that last one. Basically, this mishap in judgement has costed me a lot in the advantage that I've built over her in my relationship with her. And now, I'm in need of some advice to recover a lot of lost ground.
Here are some unique circumstances around my situation:
1) This happened a couple days ago in Canada. I am now in the US for summer vacation, and won't be back until mid-August.
2) The only way we would stay in contact (and we are) is through instant messengers online.
3) My cousin is one of F's best friends, and she can still help me out, although to what extent, I do not know.
Not to sound ****y (I am asking for y'alls advice, after all), but I do read signs very well, and I am certain that the interest is still there. However, what I feel is that despite the interest, the PRIZE of the relationship has shifted from being me to her, because of all the things I've told her while drunk. So taking into consideration the long distance and communication limits, what could be done to gain back that ground that I had built with her before all this happened?
Thanks in advance,
MM
