Got cheated on, feel horrible

[Sin Verdad]

Just found out. The relationship was from a few months ago and we went out for like 6 months. I had no idea she was cheating, which to me is the worst part. I never had intentions of it being long term, but the fact that I couldn't tell she was cheating bothers me. How can any of us trust women? Or men too, for that matter?

 

[nightcrawler]

Just found out. The relationship was from a few months ago and we went out for like 6 months. I had no idea she was cheating, which to me is the worst part. I never had intentions of it being long term, but the fact that I couldn't tell she was cheating bothers me. How can any of us trust women? Or men too, for that matter?

how did you find out?

 

[guywhoneedshelp]

I think I was cheated on in my last relationship and it still makes me sick. It was a year long relationship. Sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night imagining her cheating.

Probably the reason why it makes me so sick is because this girl really played the Christian/good girl/innocent card and I was attracted to that. As a guy I'm attracted to a girl who has no life, doesn't go out at night without inviting me, no desire to hit on guys, is shy, and clings like hell, while very attractive. So the thought of her not being that innocent type for one night just really makes me sick.

I used to hate when she'd have a night out with "friends" and I'd find out there were other males that showed up, and she wouldn't invite me. I hate girls with lots of male friends.

 

[jafyk]

I think I was cheated on in my last relationship and it still makes me sick. It was a year long relationship. Sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night imagining her cheating.

Probably the reason why it makes me so sick is because this girl really played the Christian/good girl/innocent card and I was attracted to that. As a guy I'm attracted to a girl who has no life, doesn't go out at night without inviting me, no desire to hit on guys, is shy, and clings like hell, while very attractive. So the thought of her not being that innocent type for one night just really makes me sick.

I used to hate when she'd have a night out with "friends" and I'd find out there were other males that showed up, and she wouldn't invite me. I hate girls with lots of male friends.

How did you find out?

 

[KontrollerX]

"How can any of us trust women? Or men too, for that matter?"

Why do you have to trust women?

Just bed em, spread em and forget em.

Jesus.

 

[In2theGame]

Just found out. The relationship was from a few months ago and we went out for like 6 months. I had no idea she was cheating, which to me is the worst part. I never had intentions of it being long term, but the fact that I couldn't tell she was cheating bothers me. How can any of us trust women? Or men too, for that matter?

I could relate to what you mean here. Its scary how a woman can act so normal that you would never think she was doing anything.

 

[guywhoneedshelp]

How did you find out?

A girl I know told me she was hanging out with a guy who was bragging about banging her while we were together. Then I read her online diary and noticed there was some nights her and the guy hung out that she didn't tell me about. She even wrote that he was going to her house.

I asked her about it. I told her I heard about it and knew it was true. She never admitted to cheating but why would she? Especially because she stills has a small desire to get back with me.

 

[In2theGame]

A girl I know told me she was hanging out with a guy who was bragging about banging her while we were together. Then I read her online diary and noticed there was some nights her and the guy hung out that she didn't tell me about. She even wrote that he was going to her house.

I asked her about it. I told her I heard about it and knew it was true. She never admitted to cheating but why would she? Especially because she stills has a small desire to get back with me.

Damn Guy, that sucks. WTF did she write? "Dear Diary, i am going to get banged tonight" women can be really F'ed up sometimes.

 

[HandyAndy]

Im curious to know how you dumped her?

You did dump her right?

 

[WC2]

There could be many reasons. She could have liked him more. Maybe she just wanted something different. Maybe she was just a slvt who's still in her party stages. Who knows.

Bottom line is that it wasn't the right thing and never would be in the future.

Coming to terms is the best thing for this type of ordeal. Come to terms with what happened and don't lie to yourself. Then start looking forward to dating/laying other quality women (more quality than this chick at least).

Funny this story comes up.. saw my ex from a few years at the bar last night. Coincidentally she was with the same dude that she slept with while we were on a "break". The reason for her actions were obviously just for sex or to spark jealousy. I approached the guy (he was unknowing), talked for 20 minutes and like that this tool bag was my best friend. I was laughing inside at the fact that I actually dated a girl who would talk to this piece of trash. Ha, and the look on my ex's face the whole night was priceless as well as the late night text messages begging for the orgasm this dude probably never gave her.

Take it in stride man. It takes time, but you'll realize it's not really that big of deal. All kinds of women cheat for different reasons. Even on the best of men who have their sh!t together. This is just a risk of a relationship.

 

[thebig]

sad to hear...

 

[In2theGame]

I was laughing inside at the fact that I actually dated a girl who would talk to this piece of trash. Ha, and the look on my ex's face the whole night was priceless as well as the late night text messages begging for the orgasm this dude probably never gave her.

Haha Nice. WC2 FTW

 

[everywomanshero]

Sorry to be unsympathetic but women cheating is one of the nice things about Western laws, there is rarely punishment for it. Thus, we can jump online or visit a few apartment buildings and find a bored chick with relative ease. Yes it sucks if you're the one with the cheating partner, but this emboldens more often that it bruises one's ego. You just have to learn to use this to your advantage and remember that not every chick is sneaking around in the mid of night, so appreciate those who do

 

[guywhoneedshelp]

Damn Guy, that sucks. WTF did she write? "Dear Diary, i am going to get banged tonight" women can be really F'ed up sometimes.

Basically "___ and ___ and __ and Chris came over. then ___ and ___ and ___ left. me and chris walked down to the beach for a little. then hung out til his taxi came."

wtf? taxi? this guy obviously came there in a group and then stayed so he could get laid. When I read that I went nuts. I of course like an idiot asked her if anything happened that night, of course she denied. why would she tell me anyway?

It's tough. When you're both 20 years old and agreeing to be in an exclusive relationship, finding out something like that is devastating. It's instant grounds to never talk to that person again. Although I don't know for sure if she cheated, I may never know. I asked the guy too but he never responded to my MySpace message.

It just kills me because she was this innocent Christian girl who wrote me love letters cooked me food and really showed no signs of doing anything like this.

Days after we broke up I had a 3some with these 2 girls. One of the girls had a boyfriend. I never met him. But the next day when I was "showering it off" I was thinking about it. And man, I really do kinda feel bad for the guy. He missed out big time. Not only was his girl all over my sh!t while I was lickin' her titties and gettin' sucked off by the other girl but the point is not only did she cheat, but she cheated in a way that I was receiving more than her boyfriend probably ever receives. Put yourself in that guys shoes, imagine finding out? I'd die. Not only are you finding out the girl cheated, but she gave the guy an amazing night. Think about it.

They're still together, LTR