Got burned really badly

[bumblebee]

Hey guys. i went to a club last week feeling good and anticipating some grinding with chicks since im pretty decent at getting girls to dance with me. BUT, i totally got burned several times.

situation: i went with a group of friends and we danced as a group...many of them were in a relationship so didnt dance with other guys/girls. therefore, no wingman. i was one of the few single ones so from time to time, i went girl hunting. i was successful only 3 times. they were maybe HB 6.5s, so nothing to brag about especially since i was hoping for some HB 7.5-8s.

I'm a decent looking guy (19 years), although not that tall (5'5), and not super muscular (just slim/fit)..maybe this is a problem? The avg age there seemed to be 22 and HB8 and many seemed to be picky (maybe cus most were also sober). i was thinking the bar was too high for me. At times, when i was getting close, i could hear the cckblocker ugly girls rate me..and they actually gave me pretty low ratings (i think i heard a 4 once...which is...DUDE WTF! i have to be at least a 7)

What i usually do, is dance near some girls I'm interested in, look at them, smile, and get close. but the thing is...a lot of them are in a 3-4 people group and none of them look back at me when i do eye contact (they just dance with their friends and ignore me). thats as far as i got. at times, some guys were able to break the set and get with the girls i wanted so it must have been something i was not doing right. it was so frustrating. im not sure what im doing wrong.

 

[SeldomSeen]

Re:

I usually take command by saying "lets dance!" but rarely do I do this with groups act as groups and seek validation from other members that you're cool or you're ok.
Once I'm dancing with the girl I kino a lot and I always end the dance first.

Never show that you have an agenda. Sometimes if I think the girls are stuck up I will make eye contact and then look away as if they aren't anything to look at. But like I said this works with stuck up types.

 

[Obsidian]

bah, everyone has bad nights. clubs are kinda stupid anyway, imo

 

[KnockoutJM]

clubs are always different,

The way i go is

when approaching to dance, its best with a wing that way the CBF is distracted, and you can just dance

To start put your hand on her waist, be firm but gentle, and press your **** against her ass, dont ***** out, and dance with space between you two, it is supposed to be sexual.

When dancing with 2 girls, with a wing if they move in close together, move in on them and sanwich them with the wing, its a lot of fun to **** around,

Dont take anything seriously, its all about flirting, and teasing.

A Fun game to play with friends is dance with one girl, if she denies you move onto the next, and drift from one end of the club to the other dancing with every girl in the path,

Don't dance with a single girl for more than 20 minutes, 2-3 songs, if you cant get her off the floor by that point, its not worth the time

Dont give a **** what anyone thinks, dance with every girl you see, ugly, hot, big, small, every girl wants some affection, just have fun with it

If you want a #/lay easily, dont show up till 2-3am (last call isnt till 4am in NY), when most people are stating to leave, and are already drunk-- i know it sounds bad, but its true

 

[bumblebee]

maybe its just me but its more intimidating to me if a girl im approaching is in a set. perhaps its cus i think her friends will judge me and pull her away. how do u guys go about this especially if you dont have a wingman?

do you believe that any guy can get a girl to dance with her provided he is avg guy like me? how do you show her that you would be a fun person to dance with? sometimes the girl is really attractive and i feel she might think im not good enough but how do i make her consider me?

 

[SomeKindaHate]

I was in that same position last weekend. Luckily I had a few girls to dance with the whole night. I was chatting up with some guys I met, and they were pretty much dancing by themselves, and I was like WTF?! It looked kinda pathetic, I felt pretty bad for them at that point. Later that night, I seen both dudes leave the club with some HB7s and I ran into them at Denny's afterwards, and I made sure to give them major props.

 

[KnockoutJM]

Dont worry what her friends think.. Just think of it as a type of gambling, with no losing outcomes, you either gain sex, potential, or experience.