Got a job and most of my co-workers are hot girls. How would I go about gaming?

[Bible_Belt]

you not being another over eager leg humper

I was going to say the same thing, but could never have phrased it so well.

 

[Solomon]

Advice from the old lady:

Best thing to do OP is be the "cool guy". That way you do not seem starstruck. You act as though you are accustomed to being around hot women & you treat them normal. Just be chill.

As the girls acclimate to you not being another over eager leg humper you get to know them & build comfort/rapport. The service industry is a small world. Barbacks can become bartenders who become managers who become owners if you are cool, smart and ambitious.

My first husband owned the hottest live music venue in a nightlife city years ago. He worked his way up. I was a girl every guy wanted. Guess how I got to know my first husband? He was cool and acted normal. He was attractive but his relaxed vibe & lack of desperation built rapport. You play long game & enjoy the energy and experience.

After a while you'll be able to hang out after hours & chill with these gals. And the opportunities will happen.

Be chill & enjoy the ride.

I was chuckling at "LEG HUMPER" you also bring up a good point. They use to have "Service Industry Nights" these were nights(usually Mondays or Tuesdays it depends on the area etc) were people at bars/returants got discounts at certain places who worked in the hospitiality industry. If I was OP and they have him in his city/state I would take advantage of that. It's easy to make connections with other barstaff i.e. bartenders, waitresses etc. If they know you're in the industry the benefits are huge. Because now you have access to other bars/clubs and don't have to "shyt" where you eat at your own spot if you catch my drfit. If I was OP I would look for "Service Industry *Input City Name* on facebook and Instagram or just google it.

I didn't work at bars but I made connections going out those nights. Service industry nights (espeically if they were on Monday) tend to be slower and less chaotic but it was a perfect time to network.I saved crap ton of money with free drinks over the years. Being able to skip long wait lines. While bringing girls in tow. VIP access etc.

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[Hamurabimbi]

From what you told me, sounds like they made a move on you first, not the other way around. So you just tried to have a good time, tease, maybe flirt here and there and they'll come to you so you're not known as 'that guy'?

What is ‘that guy’?

 

[BeExcellent]

I was chuckling at "LEG HUMPER" you also bring up a good point. They use to have "Service Industry Nights" these were nights(usually Mondays or Tuesdays it depends on the area etc) were people at bars/returants got discounts at certain places who worked in the hospitiality industry. If I was OP and they have him in his city/state I would take advantage of that. It's easy to make connections with other barstaff i.e. bartenders, waitresses etc. If they know you're in the industry the benefits are huge. Because now you have access to other bars/clubs and don't have to "shyt" where you eat at your own spot if you catch my drfit. If I was OP I would look for "Service Industry *Input City Name* on facebook and Instagram or just google it.

I didn't work at bars but I made connections going out those nights. Service industry nights (espeically if they were on Monday) tend to be slower and less chaotic but it was a perfect time to network.I saved crap ton of money with free drinks over the years. Being able to skip long wait lines. While bringing girls in tow. VIP access etc.

​

Agree about the Service Industry Nights. A certain poster here who is local to me wanted to immerse himself into that world. We met a couple of times to chat. He is a very successful man in a prestigious field. He drives a high end car. He is good looking and fit.

But his style was WAY too uptight, like thick rimmed glasses and tailored suits when all the industry guys are in stylish jeans and a fitted t shirt or untucked dress shirt. I told him lose the suit & wear contacts, and show up hip places on industry nights.

He's getting the results he wants now.

OP would do well to chill at industry night venues. Network. Get to know people. That will get him results in various aspects, not just with women.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

From what you told me, sounds like they made a move on you first, not the other way around. So you just tried to have a good time, tease, maybe flirt here and there and they'll come to you so you're not known as 'that guy'?

Sometimes as you wrote. Sometimes just minding my own business. Sometimes I’d be the initiator.

 

[Prepostereax]

So your options have suddenly exploded, OP?
Make them work for it.

Alright.
Reminds me of this dude at work, in a similar invisible position.
I have no idea how long he was there before I even noticed him. At least six months.
But every so often, I'd hear lunchbreak conversations amongst the female staff about "Little Xxx".
Seems that half the girls want to fk him, and the other half don't know he exists..

So considering him with a critical eye, he is a quiet and pleasant fellow. Good looking, ripped.. if only he were taller, he'd be a Chad.
I casually mention that some girls are keen on him, and he laughs it off.
He's good looking and nice-natured enough to already have a steady gf, but it seems he's available on OLD, which is where the girls at work check him out.
(as a Chadlite, he'd do better on OLD than at work anyway)
I have no idea whether he's banging any of them, but he's not letting on.
This would be part of his appeal.
This is key - keep things mysterious
..and make use of OLD as an adjunct.

I've had my share of workplace relationships
{as a serial monogamist, they lasted anywhere from several months, to a year or more.
I've always been the one to end them, but timed the breakups when either she or I moved on to other employment}
There was never any problem banging someone from work (I haven't worked in any place that had a policy about it).
My focus was on averting awkwardness after.

..but I don't know how you'd go about juggling multiples of them at once.

Keep flirting as private as possible, ideally when no-one else is watching / listening.
It's possible that a woman you are seeing may "claim" you, by flirting more openly, especially in front of other staff.
You want to keep things low-key.
If you find yourself with multiple options simultaneously, you want to start with the most discreet woman, the one who knows the score.

 

[MatureDJ]

Title.

Got a job as a barback/busser and at a popular restuarant that's kind of like a club. Turns out every server there, even the hostesses and some of the bartenders are hot girls. They are literally all attractive. There's not a single average or ugly girl.

How do I go about hooking up with some of them?
There are literally 20+ hot girls, I'm talking.

It's only my 2nd day and I've been flirting with some of the girls after introducing myself. A few were into it, a couple lukewarm. One of them is leaving next week, and she seems into me, but I'm afraid of poisoning the well. I don't want to be known as 'that guy' in a bad way, so I can't just go around and ask them out willy nilly, like I would with daygame.

Do I just play the long game? When do I make a move? When flirting reaches a climax? And then, do I ask them out on a date, or do I say we should hangout (with an ulterior motive)?

I've never worked with this many attractive women in one place. It's been probably 6 before at most, but this is a gold mine, so I don't want to **** it up

And you think that hot chicks will want to get with someone with a low-paying job such as yourself?

 

[MatureDJ]

No, I didn't copy and paste from ChatGPT.

My posts have been all based on 25 years of mating experience and observations.

There's an argument that ChatGPT has greater collective knowledge from online content posted over the years. However, I am a breathing human being that has been out in the real world unlike programmed, artificial intelligence.

I have thought about the idea of being a bouncer before. I have thought about what it would like to be a bouncer. That's where I got those comments.

You seem far too small to be a bouncer.

 

[MatureDJ]

When it became knowledge that I was now single, a number of the girls at work (and client sites) got a lot more friendly and expressed interest. A lot of sexual comments.

For example, a girl whom I was acquainted with at a client site, came up to me while I was working at the site & said: ‘I know you probably don’t care what people think about you, but you’re really good looking.’
Another example, a coworker said to me; ‘I want to sit on daddy’s lap.’ She then realized she said it in front of other coworkers & got embarrassed.

One more; a coworker & I were discussing whiskey, at one point I jokingly told her: ‘I scratch, but I don’t bite.’ She replied: ‘We should go out and get a drink.’

Things like this

And similar events at multiple jobs when I was single.

This has never happened to me at my worksite , but has happened once or twice in my expanded social circle .

 

[SW15]

You seem far too small to be a bouncer.

I realize that. I would have liked to have been bigger and been a bouncer.

 

[Skyline]

Be friendly but don’t flirt and eventually they will start becoming interested in you if you are truly what they consider high value. Remember that they likely have hot friends.

It’s really that simple.

 

[MatureDJ]

I was chuckling at "LEG HUMPER" you also bring up a good point. They use to have "Service Industry Nights" these were nights(usually Mondays or Tuesdays it depends on the area etc) were people at bars/returants got discounts at certain places who worked in the hospitiality industry. If I was OP and they have him in his city/state I would take advantage of that. It's easy to make connections with other barstaff i.e. bartenders, waitresses etc. If they know you're in the industry the benefits are huge. Because now you have access to other bars/clubs and don't have to "shyt" where you eat at your own spot if you catch my drfit. If I was OP I would look for "Service Industry *Input City Name* on facebook and Instagram or just google it.

I didn't work at bars but I made connections going out those nights. Service industry nights (espeically if they were on Monday) tend to be slower and less chaotic but it was a perfect time to network.I saved crap ton of money with free drinks over the years. Being able to skip long wait lines. While bringing girls in tow. VIP access etc.

​

While I started my STEM workday at 7:30 on weekdays.

 

[SW15]

While I started my STEM workday at 7:30 on weekdays.

Most white collar workers aren't able to go hard with nightlife Sunday-Thursday nights if they are responsible. White collar work days often start between 7:30 AM - 9 AM.

Going out late into nights Sunday-Thursday will cause a white collar worker to sleep an insufficient amount. They won't be as mentally sharp for their work the next day. This can have serious consequences in white collar work as a lot of white collar work requires mental clarity and focus. Insufficient sleep can affect job performance.

You also got into white collar work at a time when white collar interview processes were less difficult. I have had most of my white collar career after 2008. Since the mid to late 2000s, white collar employers have been more keen to lay off and less quick to hire. Hiring processing have gotten more demanding and there have been multiple recessions from 2008-present. You were already in your mid-40s and well established in white collar work when 2008 hit.

Job performance means a lot more now than it once did.

Blue collar workers who work during the day may or may not consider late night nightlife as much.

Some white collar workers will go out on Thursday nights a little bit harder.

 

[MatureDJ]

Most white collar workers aren't able to go hard with nightlife Sunday-Thursday nights if they are responsible. White collar work days often start between 7:30 AM - 9 AM.

Going out late into nights Sunday-Thursday will cause a white collar worker to sleep an insufficient amount. They won't be as mentally sharp for their work the next day. This can have serious consequences in white collar work as a lot of white collar work requires mental clarity and focus. Insufficient sleep can affect job performance.

You also got into white collar work at a time when white collar interview processes were less difficult. I have had most of my white collar career after 2008. Since the mid to late 2000s, white collar employers have been more keen to lay off and less quick to hire. Hiring processing have gotten more demanding and there have been multiple recessions from 2008-present. You were already in your mid-40s and well established in white collar work when 2008 hit.

Job performance means a lot more now than it once did.

Blue collar workers who work during the day may or may not consider late night nightlife as much.

Some white collar workers will go out on Thursday nights a little bit harder.

LOL, by my mid-40s, I was well-established in being obsolete & unemployable.

 

[SW15]

LOL, by my mid-40s, I was well-established in being obsolete & unemployable.

I guess you didn't keep up your STEM skills.

The upside would have been you got more freedom to stay out late at night and pursue pussie though.

 

[Oatmeal31]

Be friendly but don’t flirt and eventually they will start becoming interested in you if you are truly what they consider high value. Remember that they likely have hot friends.

It’s really that simple.

I've been doing both and it seems to be going pretty well. Being friendly, teasing, and subtle flirting without being blatantly direct. Tempted to blow the load and just ask them out, a cold approach habit, but I know it would bite me in the ass. 3rd day working and still meeting new servers, and they're all hot. In my experience, girls love to gossip about guys, even co-workers, so I'll keep doing what I'm doing and let good rumors circulate

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Most white collar workers aren't able to go hard with nightlife Sunday-Thursday nights if they are responsible. White collar work days often start between 7:30 AM - 9 AM.

Going out late into nights Sunday-Thursday will cause a white collar worker to sleep an insufficient amount. They won't be as mentally sharp for their work the next day. This can have serious consequences in white collar work as a lot of white collar work requires mental clarity and focus. Insufficient sleep can affect job performance.

You also got into white collar work at a time when white collar interview processes were less difficult. I have had most of my white collar career after 2008. Since the mid to late 2000s, white collar employers have been more keen to lay off and less quick to hire. Hiring processing have gotten more demanding and there have been multiple recessions from 2008-present. You were already in your mid-40s and well established in white collar work when 2008 hit.

Job performance means a lot more now than it once did.

Blue collar workers who work during the day may or may not consider late night nightlife as much.

Some white collar workers will go out on Thursday nights a little bit harder.

Most people who are adults don't want to "go hard" like they did when they were in college.

It's called maturing and growing up and being an adult. Some people never reach that stage and are like Peter Pan stuck in Neverland tho...

 

[SW15]

Most people who are adults don't want to "go hard" like they did when they were in college.

It's called maturing and growing up and being an adult.

It's possible for mature adults to see the value in being able to stay out later Sunday-Thursday nights either for bar approaching new women or going later into the night with a freer spirit on 1st/2nd dates.

Women out at the bars at 11:30 PM on Tuesday or Wednesday nights might be more serious about meeting men as compared to women out at 11:30 PM on Friday or Saturday nights. There's less attention and validation seeking going on with the weeknight audience as compared to Friday/Saturday night.

As for dates, being able to push later into the night and not worry about the next morning can be a IDGAF attitude on dates that can be appealing.

There was one time where I had a week off in between jobs. I didn't travel that week. I had a first date on a Sunday night and I didn't wrap that date up until after midnight. Had I been working that week, I would have started to get concerned about work and sleep around 10 PM. That's a less appealing feeling.

I am responsible and value my sleep in preparation for my work days on the weekdays. That's been something I've been doing since college graduation. It isn't fun to do all the time.