Goodbye DJ forum, and what I've learned

[Six-String Samurai]

Yes, this will be my last post among this awesome DJ community. I wasn't here all that long, but I think that's the way it should be.

A series of events prompted me to realize that I don't need this board anymore. Tonight I took a step back and looked at what I've accomplished recently. After finalizing date plans with a girl at work today, I came home to find an instant message from the hottest girl I know, telling me she misses me and wants to see me, and that I should call her sometime. Pleased with that discovery, I checked my email, only to find a date offer from a girl I met recently that I've really been clicking with. I'm going over to her apartment tomorrow night for Halloween. After finishing my emails, I checked my phone message. Lo and behold, the fruits of my social proof have finally been reaped.

The girl that made me join this board in the first place (that statement should have vast significance for ALL of you) left me a message on my phone tonight, saying that she loves me, misses me, and why haven't I called her in almost a year. She mentioned that she was hanging out with some mutual friends and they got to talking about me. My social proof is the #1 thing I have worked on, and it spread through my extended network of friends and aquaintances RIGHT BACK to the girl that I was the most AFC over back in the day. She said she heard all about what a busy guy I am, and how many people want a piece of my time... she then practically begged me to call her.

None of this is supposed to sound like bragging. I just realized tonight that I've almost come full circle. I want to end this post with a few of the most important things I found for myself along this journey towards becoming a DJ. Everyone has their own pitfalls and obstacles to overcome, but for anyone who can relate, these are the things that helped mold me into what I am today:

• Don't look for a way out... look for a way THROUGH
• Your number one enemy is FEAR. As the author of Dune said, "Fear is the little-death and the mind-killer that brings total obliteration". If you think about it, the window of time we have on this planet is so brief! You've only got one life to live, and it is truly a holy gift (and I mean that in the most secular way possible). Why waste your life living in fear when you'll sleep forever in just a few short years anyway? What do you really have to lose? I hate to say it, but in the end we all return to the great void. Try to make something of yourself while you're here. You can't leave footprints in the sands of time by sitting on your a$$!
• When in doubt, take ACTION! Action is your best weapon against the opposite sex. I don't care what you look like, what you drive, or how much money you have. If you have more balls than the next guy, you have a huge leg up. As Pook said, "cows graze and stand around, and take notice of the bulls brave enough to approach the herd". Let that bull be you! Just do it!!
• Social proof is f*cking magic. Along with kino, I attribute my success to social proof. Treat your social proof like a seed, taking care to water it, nuturing it as it grows. If you do it right, you can create as amazing a plant as you wish. Over the course of a year and a half, my image within my group of friends/aquaintances has taken an absolute 180, and no-one even batted an eye. It is possible to go from self-doubting nerd to confident stud, and I am living proof.
• Find hobbies! My music is my life... writing it, performing it, working on my guitar skills... these are all things that form the "main course" in the exquisite dinner of my life. Girls are, at best, the really tasty side dish. Remember that, and you can't go wrong.
• It sounds stupid, but until you're really and truly willing to walk away at ANY TIME, that which you desire most will elude you the fastest. Study Zen, learn detatchment.
• The ultimate persona is somewhere between James Bond and Jim Carrey.
• Kino is god (and god is kino). Learn to attune yourself to the body language and touch of the opposite sex. Trust your instincts... use the force, Luke! If she doesn't shy away from your (well-planned) touch, you're in good shape. If she touches you back, you are golden. Girls simply will avoid physical contact with someone they are not attracted to. This is your #1 indicator of interest, period. When you learn to use kino as an interest level gauge, their interest level will read like a neon sign hanging above their head!
• Anything is possible... if you want it bad enough, you can fight your way to victory. Remember, living comes much easier once we admit we're dying. Make your line in the sand!

Good luck, friends. Remember, take everything (even this post) with a grain of salt. Trust your instincts, have no fear, and TAKE WHAT YOU DESIRE! I believe in all of you.

Cheers

-Six-String Samurai

 

[Sart]

excellent

brilliant

 

[jonny football hero]

good luck with life bro. Have a good one.

 

[Eggchen]

An excellent epilogue to your time here on the DJ forums! I wish you all the best!

 

[Jariel]

Best of luck!

I'm sure you feel good getting all this attention. Just be careful not to fall into a false sense of security.

 

[CLOONEY]

Originally posted by Jariel
Best of luck!

I'm sure you feel good getting all this attention. Just be careful not to fall into a false sense of security.

Exactly man. Getting attention from a few woman means nothing.

Good luck with everything.

You will be back, mark my words.

 

[S0LID]

Great work buddy.

Why is everyone leaving?? I'm gonna be here for a lonnnnnng time. Theres always something new to learn.

 

[Supero Masculus]

NOOOOOO!!!!! Everyone is quiting the forums lately!!!.... its sad to loose our valued people.... Plus every person who quits is hurting us even more... We need the extra experiance around here. I basically just returned after a 4 month absence and this place isn't what i remembered it to be. Anyway good luck man, we're rooting for ya!

 

[DJ_Dork]

Blah blah blah, another stupid saying "I don't need you anymore" like a drama queen b1tch.

[*]Don't look for a way out... look for a way THROUGH
[*]Your number one enemy is FEAR.
[*]When in doubt, take ACTION!

Woopty Doo.

[*]Social proof is f*cking magic.
[*]Find hobbies!
[*]It sounds stupid, Study Zen, learn detatchment.

K, thx Bye.

[*]The ultimate persona is somewhere between James Bond and Jim Carrey.

No, the ultimate persona is embracing the real you.

[*]Kino is god (and god is kino). Learn to attune yourself to the body language and touch of the opposite sex. Trust your instincts... use the force, Luke! If she doesn't shy away from your (well-planned) touch, you're in good shape. If she touches you back, you are golden. Girls simply will avoid physical contact with someone they are not attracted to. This is your #1 indicator of interest, period. When you learn to use kino as an interest level gauge, their interest level will read like a neon sign hanging above their head!

I agree with touching a girl by accident or lightly to show you are attracted to her. I disagree with your "#1" indicator on interest. I have been with girls that have zero interest with me being close to me physically as well as girls that have interest in me being close.

[*]Anything is possible... if you want it bad enough, you can fight your way to victory.

Okay go back to that porn movie you were going to jerk off to.

 

[Blue Phoenix]

Come on DJ dork, you're being too harsh man!

He'll leave the site, so you have nothing to get pissed off!

Let him go!

 

[Longview]

good luck man

 

[comminback]

REMEMBER!!!!!!

Don't let this chick turn you back into the AFC, like she had you before.

Keep your head straight! It sounds like she has all the necessities to turn your ass back into that lump of, "AFC mush".

I can hear it now.....

(her) "You need to spend more time with me!"
(him) Ok, I don't need to work out (hang with friends), I have her now.

or

(her) Lets spend some quality time together shopping
(him) ok, I like spending time with you.

STOP THE MADNESS BEFORE IT STARTS!!!

Hopefully we won't see you again on this site complaining about the chick, and how she done you wrong. It'll be your own fault, just remember, no one can love you as much as you can love yourself, just know that she can MAKE love to you better than you can MAKE love to yourself. Don't get fooled by the sink hole, all *****es have one.

Oh yeah, Good Luck.

Comminback (speaking from experience)

 

[aBAzLLnA]

People have got to stop posting "Farewell" posts, cuz honestly, who gives a ****?

 

[disciple]

I originally joined the forum back in 2000 and I learned alot and in the process also wrote some influential posts of my own.

I was pleased with the level of game I had reached and felt that it was time to move on and learn more elsewhere.

I did just that and I discovered other sources of knowledge and inspiration.

But it is now 2004 and I post on this forum once again.

Why?

I've experienced alot over the past few years, some good, and some bad.

At about the time that I left this forum, I had done something with my game that at the time I didn't think could be done.

To make a long story short, I worked my magic on a girl I worked with who was into taking guys for their money.

My game was so tight that I had this chick spending her money on me and buying me sh*t, feeding me, and asking me out on a date.

This girl was really hot and she had all kinds of guys on her sh*t.

But I was the only one that she treated like a king.

I thought that I had perfected my game and that even though I knew there is always more to learn, I felt that I had learned all I could from this forum and felt good about my own contributions to it and so I left.

I would still visit the website occasioally to look at new articles or tips but I didn't look at or post to the forum anymore.

Through all of my experiences of the past few years, I reached a point where I somehow felt I had lost something or something was missing in my game.

Even though I continued to learn and grow, I felt a need to go back to my roots to rediscover my original passion for the game.

I started to read some of my old posts from a few years back and read some of the posts from that time period and I mentally went back to the beginning like a new Don Juan.

That helped me to see that I had developed a false sense of security and that once you think you "have it" or that your game is "complete" is the minute your game starts to deteriorate.

Also, the good posts on the forum help you to maintain the right attitude and outlook on the game because let me tell you as your game gets better and you experience new things, it is very easy to lose your way or for your game to start falling off or "leaking" as the pimps say.

Also, we players need to interact with each other because it helps to know that there are others who really understand what you are going through or where you are mentally coming from.

Another thing I enjoy since returning is being able to share my knowledge and experience with other DJ's, especially the younger ones that are just coming up in the game.

When I was younger and less experienced, I was helped out greatly by the wisdom of older more experienced players.

Now I'm a mature player myself and I try to give back just as I have been given.

So consider my words before you make a complete break with the forum.

 

[Dukester]

I dont come to the sites that much anymore either, b/c all i've learned has helped, and I am going w/ the flow now.
When i do come back, and I look at the new posts, I am almost disgusted at some of them.
I offer my advice if I can, and ignore the dumb posts. This board is just getting eaten in from the inside by newbs who constantly ask stupid questions.

 

[comminback]

leaving.....nah

I don't think that he's gone for good.

One good chick game, and he'll be back, just as disciple stated.(well written post, which brought back memories)

I once had it (DJism) , thought I got a good girl, woke up (a lot later), and began to look around the net and found this site by accident.

 

[Pugsley_f5]

Samurai,


Dont get content just cause you have success, stick with the group!!!!



one thing alot of you need to internalize is that

"" Success is a process not a destination"


If you think you've arrived your dead in the water, as soon as someone stops growing they become stagnant and start falling backwards....... You should constantly be growing even now, the reason millionaires are soo successful is they realize that they have not arrived and theres always something new to learn no matter if they make millions or billions. (this is one of the most important lessons I have learned from my mentor who has a strong 7 figure income in Raleigh NC, I get to have his thought process injected into my brain every day)

"You're either ripe and rotting or green and growing!"

 

[thebsharp]

People have got to stop posting "Farewell" posts, cuz honestly, who gives a ****?

He gives good tip, your an idiot for not seeing that. You rather read post like "she looks at me, does she like me?" post?