Going to be completely honest with myself, game question

[B0SS MAN]

Forgive me for the long read but I wanted to make sure I hit everything.

Ima ask this in the adult forum because I want help from people that have already been where am at. So at 17 I have never had a girlfriend or done anything, kisses or nothing. Still a virgin. I'm a dedicated student-athlete, who practices six days a week and maintains a 5.0 GPA, so I know I have goals in life and I'm working towards something. I have great family and friends but despite that I feel real lonely sometimes because I'm not getting any type of attention from any of the girls that I am interested in, let alone any action.

I have been on this website for over a year and I have still seen no success. I don't sit in the front of the computer everyday and try to cram everything as I do have a life but I check once in awhile to see if I can find anything that helps. I've already been through the bible and have tried to put forth most of the basic rules and everything but still no success.

Anyway, you could say i lack a lot of confidence when it comes to girls but not when it comes to myself, as people always tell me that I walk like I know who I am and a lot of the time girls always suspect that I have a whole bunch of options lined up and that I'm a hoe, so I guess that means they see me in a sexual way? But I have never really had any type of success with girls. When it comes to talking to them, I'm fine. I can make conversation with basically anybody about anything but it just never ends up turning into attraction, just friendship. I always feel awkward about making a move because I'm around 6'3-6'4 and most of the girls I've been interested in have been smaller so I don't know how to transition to the kiss because I don't want to lean in and have her turn away or make it awkward.

And the last thing, about spinning plates, I'm real picky when it comes to girls (looks wise) so it's been hard for me to find girls in my school who I'd really consider talking to because I get bored quickly if I talk to a girl I am not interested in (even though those are the ones that end up liking me). I'm not the partying type really either so I don't get out much and when I do go out I always have to come home early because my parents are strict with curfews and most people don't go out until after 9 and I have to be home before 12:30 in most cases, so it's hard for me to meet girls.

In a way, I feel like I'm putting too much emphasis on success but I feel like nothing is going to change unless I do something because I'm not going to wake up one morning and all of a sudden be spectacular with females. So I need some serious advice with girls and on a personal level because this has been eating me up since I was 13.

 

[ARrocket]

Good for you for maintaining your grades and focusing on bettering yourself.

That said, there comes a time when you have to step up your game with the ladies. Don't use your curfew as an excuse...there is plenty of time to game them. You say you don't get out much; then, get out more. Be around women, and things will start to happen.

Also, you have to start somewhere man. Read this. Build up your confidence with some of the girls you think aren't good enough; trust me, it will go a LONG way toward future success with the girls you actually want.

As for the girls just lapsing into friends, make sure you read up about kino and keeping a sexual frame. That will go a long way towards helping you out.

Lastly, don't fall into the trap of outcome dependency. Go into every situation knowing that you have nothing to lose. Just be fun, care-free, and make sure you have a good time. The rest will follow.

 

[B0SS MAN]

Also, you have to start somewhere man. Read this. Build up your confidence with some of the girls you think aren't good enough; trust me, it will go a LONG way toward future success with the girls you actually want.

I already do this. I just lose interest in them when they end up liking me because I don't want them. It's just with girls I like I end up having problems with.

As for the girls just lapsing into friends, make sure you read up about kino and keeping a sexual frame. That will go a long way towards helping you out.

Anything in particular that you recommend reading?

Lastly, don't fall into the trap of outcome dependency. Go into every situation knowing that you have nothing to lose. Just be fun, care-free, and make sure you have a good time. The rest will follow.

Probably the most important thing you said lol because thats really hard for me. I end up just chilling for awhile but eventually when I think it's not going anywhere it becomes an all or nothing type thing.

 

[Bible_Belt]

I don't know how to transition to the kiss because I don't want to lean in and have her turn away or make it awkward.

The sosuave "kiss test" works wonders. Before you kiss her, touch her hair and look into her eyes. Any girl who will let you do that will want to kiss you.