Dash Riprock
Master Don Juan
I love Chili Cheese Fritos. BUT, I’m also a gym nut, a workout freak, do MMA, and keep in top shape. So unfortunately, I cannot eat Chili Cheese Fritos everyday. I treat myself maybe once/week—tops. And every time I grab a handful and chow them down--MAN ARE THEY GOOD!!
Well my man, it’s the same thing with women…read on…
One variation of Male Indifference that has worked well for me is Going Slow.
This can be a hard one especially when you have a hot chick in tow, but the benefits far outweigh the risks:
1-You separate yourself from the AFCs who want to rush in and do everything fast because they're so excited to be with her
2-She sees you as non-needy and confident (neediness may be a woman's #1 turn off)
3-She will usually ask you for more time, etc., trying to win you or validate herself
4-Women love to fanaticize; show her a GREAT time on the dates, be affectionate, funny, and treat her well, then distance yourself for a while. If her IL is high, she will simmer, stew, wonder, think, dwell, crave, and possibly boil--all in anticipating your next move.
5-Continue this routine for a while, SLOWLY advancing things. Women heat up slower than men.
6-If you feel resistance or are losing control of the relationship somehow, pull back for a few days. Go silent. This usually elicits a response from a girl with mod-high IL which lets you know where things stand. YOU then determine when the next date will be, but not too soon, go SLOW remember.
7-Limit the phone conversations in-between dates. 15 minutes max, set up the date, throw some c&f at her, and GET OFF the phone. Save the chit-chat for face-to-face.
Some guys I've told this to say, "Yeah, but what if some guys slides in while you're doing the slow thing, don’t women crave attention?" It can happen but keep in mind 90% of ALL guys are AFCs which means he won't last long AND if you played your cards right to begin with, doing all the DJ things, she is simmering and highly anticipating your next call or date invite. The attention she’s craving is YOURS, not some predictable AFC’s who will spill his guts or act all AFC right off the bat. Most dates don’t ever get past date #1 or #2. The new dude could well be gone in no time--and this will only RAISE your value. You’re UNIQUE, a DJ (TOP 10%), not an AFC commodity--and after dating a lot of guys she knows and sees this.
You’re different AND you treat her well. You are not around all that much because you are your own man, you’re in demand with other women and your friends. You WANT her in your life, but you don’t NEED her in your life. So you go at your own pace.
I like to date a girl once every 5-9 days in the early going, at least until you decide to be exclusive with her—around the three-month mark—if SHE makes it that far with you based on YOUR standards, not hers.
If she DOES hook up with another guy in the interim and dumps you, she’s either a Professional Dater or so NEEDY she has no life and can't STAND being alone. So DJ, do you really even want a chick like that in your life?
So, its' really all good no matter how it works out in the long run.
You can't lose by going SLOWLY and letting her heat up.
Best,
Dash
Well my man, it’s the same thing with women…read on…
One variation of Male Indifference that has worked well for me is Going Slow.
This can be a hard one especially when you have a hot chick in tow, but the benefits far outweigh the risks:
1-You separate yourself from the AFCs who want to rush in and do everything fast because they're so excited to be with her
2-She sees you as non-needy and confident (neediness may be a woman's #1 turn off)
3-She will usually ask you for more time, etc., trying to win you or validate herself
4-Women love to fanaticize; show her a GREAT time on the dates, be affectionate, funny, and treat her well, then distance yourself for a while. If her IL is high, she will simmer, stew, wonder, think, dwell, crave, and possibly boil--all in anticipating your next move.
5-Continue this routine for a while, SLOWLY advancing things. Women heat up slower than men.
6-If you feel resistance or are losing control of the relationship somehow, pull back for a few days. Go silent. This usually elicits a response from a girl with mod-high IL which lets you know where things stand. YOU then determine when the next date will be, but not too soon, go SLOW remember.
7-Limit the phone conversations in-between dates. 15 minutes max, set up the date, throw some c&f at her, and GET OFF the phone. Save the chit-chat for face-to-face.
Some guys I've told this to say, "Yeah, but what if some guys slides in while you're doing the slow thing, don’t women crave attention?" It can happen but keep in mind 90% of ALL guys are AFCs which means he won't last long AND if you played your cards right to begin with, doing all the DJ things, she is simmering and highly anticipating your next call or date invite. The attention she’s craving is YOURS, not some predictable AFC’s who will spill his guts or act all AFC right off the bat. Most dates don’t ever get past date #1 or #2. The new dude could well be gone in no time--and this will only RAISE your value. You’re UNIQUE, a DJ (TOP 10%), not an AFC commodity--and after dating a lot of guys she knows and sees this.
You’re different AND you treat her well. You are not around all that much because you are your own man, you’re in demand with other women and your friends. You WANT her in your life, but you don’t NEED her in your life. So you go at your own pace.
I like to date a girl once every 5-9 days in the early going, at least until you decide to be exclusive with her—around the three-month mark—if SHE makes it that far with you based on YOUR standards, not hers.
If she DOES hook up with another guy in the interim and dumps you, she’s either a Professional Dater or so NEEDY she has no life and can't STAND being alone. So DJ, do you really even want a chick like that in your life?
So, its' really all good no matter how it works out in the long run.
You can't lose by going SLOWLY and letting her heat up.
Best,
Dash
