Going out by yourself

[kidkris2007]

Hey guys.

I've been looking on this forum about a year now. I still have a long way to go to be where i want

My problem is I'm 25 and alot of my friends work and don't have time to go out bars as often as I like to improve on my game (I want to get out at least 3 days a week to sarge).

How many of you guys go out to bars by yourself regularly and how exactly do you 'get over' the ackwardness of being by yourself. Most bars I go to are about 75% guys so I feel intimidated by that alone.

 

[Nighthawk]

Back when I was man-whoring it up, I would go to clubs about three times a week on my own. Did very well - go to places that tourists go to, lots of foreign hotties looking to do in someone elses county what they would worry about doing in their own.

 

[Poonani Maker]

I go alone all the time. The waitresses begin to know you and are happy to see you after about a year, even if they know you always go alone. People, at least where I'm at, will open up a convo with an alone person, if you are staggering in your looks like I am. If you look bad, then you'd better have people around you or have some speaking/storytelling skills to get your foot in the door.

 

[RBB]

Duude!! It's easier to day game by yourself.

But if night game is your thing, make more friends. Join a lair. I don't care about night game right now. But...

Come with us to sarge this Saturday at Northridge Mall. I haven't been there but a fellow community member said it was a sweet spot for day game. We'll set up something for night as well just to make a day out of it.

PM me your number if you want in. Most guys will be 21+

 

[KnockoutJM]

At the club i have noticed it feels better to go with a bunch of people. It gives you people to talk to and hang around during the night, and by knowing/noticing and talking to many people it adds attraction to you, making you look friendly, outgoing, important, and just a person that everyone wants to be friends with.

 

[Obsidian]

if you go to a bar alone, you could try meeting lots of people of both sexes at first. Try to get rapport and phone #s from guys. Then perhaps you can call up your new friends later and sarge with them (or at least go out with them, so you'll feel more comfortable sarging yourself).

 

[Scoundrel]

Lots of good advice here.

No one knows you're alone. Just talk to people and you'l come off as a fun, social guy. If someone askes where your friends are, say "everywhere."

 

[GamePlan]

Man, I know what this situation is like. It used to really bother me. But now I'm trying to improve (or well overcome my social anxiety) by talking to people during the day and hope I can get to a stage where I can hit on girls during the day w/o alcohol lol.

However goign out at night is just fun..I usually dont have a problem going out with friends sometimes, but too many times i get in a situation where they want to go to some silly small club where you cant really sarge (b/c they're in a relationship already) or dont go out at all.

There was a festival which is pretty much like cancun without a beach during my city for 12 days a while ago and I pretty much went to clubs alone each time at night (b/c my friends were too wasted during the day, already). I was never in a situation, where I would have had to say it to a girl, but my reply to people I knew was usually something along the lines "my friends have gone home already, but I still wanna go to the clubs, party it up and all".

I like that, because usually if you go out alone people think of you as "boring", but by saying that it turns the whole thing around and makes you look like the party guy having a good time when everybody else is home already.

I'm wondering if one could use that at normal club situations, but if you said "my friends are all boring and at home, so im just going out alone!", that doesn't sound very credible I guess..because there's no obvious reason like a crazy festival during the day...

 

[Poonani Maker]

I was never in a situation, where I would have had to say it to a girl, but my reply to people I knew was usually something along the lines "my friends have gone home already, but I still wanna go to the clubs, party it up and all".

I like that, because usually if you go out alone people think of you as "boring", but by saying that it turns the whole thing around and makes you look like the party guy having a good time when everybody else is home already.

I'm wondering if one could use that at normal club situations, but if you said "my friends are all boring and at home, so im just going out alone!", that doesn't sound very credible I guess..because there's no obvious reason like a crazy festival during the day...

I say this as well when some gal wonders if I'm with others. I'll say they wanted to goto such n such place and I didn't. I'd rather listen to the music here. They're usually 80% of the time ok with that answer.

 

[strong like bull]

i used to go out to the bars on my own quite a bit, and i usually had a great time and i usually pulled ass. its not really that i liked being alone, but if i was in the mood to drink or look at butt and all my buddies were working or busy, id still go anyways. i had previously worked at a few of the best bars in town and so when i went out, i knew a lot of the staff at whatever bar i was at and also knew a lot of the regulars there. so even though i was alone, i had a lot of acquaintences there to hang out with.

my 'game' was dress up sharp and post up at the bar and talk to the staff. every now and again id make a round and talk to the beertub girls and whoever else i recognized. id get hammered and enjoy myself and sooner or later id see girls checking me out. half the time the girl would just walk up to me, or her friends would come up to introduce me to one of her friends. it was pretty cool.

a lot of people might give you a hard time for flyin' solo... but all that really matters is what works for you. im kind of a reserved type anyways so it didnt bother me. i still had confidence even though i was alone and for some its easier to have fun and be confident when they have wingmen. you gotta do what you gotta do, and thats it.

interestingly enough, my dad used to go 'lone wolf' too for the same reasons. maybe its genetic...

-SLB

 

[Tha Realnezz]

I don't reccomend it at all..

If I can't go out with a least a few broads,i'd rather not go..perferably i'd go with the guys but i refuse to out alone..unless i'm extremley bored.

What you can do is get them to go do some manly **** in the late afternoon..usually the gym,a game,etc....(NO HOMO) and then just juice them up to go sarging afterwards at night to a club,etc..

Most american men are queer az hell or socially retarded either that or workaholics or married...so usually if you're the type that goes out alot or wants to...you'll find yourself among women...

 

[Abbott]

I often go alone, and I never feel awkward at all.

 

[The Nice Guy is Gone]

I used to have the same idea, but when I realized that one of the only way to meet people (not just girls) was to go to the bars, whether you were by yourself or not. The way I got started was I would sit at the bar (by where the drinks were to be ordered) and just talk to people. I would talk to guys, girls, the bartenders, and the ****tail waitresses--and it helped me to improve my confidence and my willingness to go out and meet people.

 

[Killer_Demo]

yea i like to go out by myself IF i got the cash to do it...