going out alone

[takemehigher]

Hi I have got a few good friends but none of them go out to a club or bar. Like me I also don't go out a lot anymore because at some time you get to the point where you've seen it all. But I still want to go out have fun. So I decided to take the courage put on my bad shoes and go out alone with the intention of a least meeting a girl and get her phone nr.

First of all I went a little later because people are more drunk so it should be more easy to pick up girls right? When I got into the city I didn't have the courage to enter a bar/club alone. So I walked around for 2-3 hours in the hope of meeting a few girls. And then it finally happened, three girl aging 18-20 asked me for a light. I said ok but well trade for the cigarette because I didn't have any left. When I lighted their cigarettes the girl with the package of cigarettes ran away (she was drunk and crazy). So I stood there with her 2 girlfriends and of course I was promised a cigarette We chatted a bit, the best looking 8hb (the other was a 6.5 and 7.5) asked me why I was alone.

I lied to them saying I brought my friend home because he was sick, and I still wanted to have fun so I went back alone. I also lied about my age when they did the age guessing game one of them said 24 the other 26 so I said I'm 27 (I'm actually 31) . Then I went along with the 2 girls to look for her girlfriend. After we found her I got the cigarette I was promised and it was ok for me to come along.

So we went to a club. Finally I was in. I smalltalked to all 3 girls but lied about my job when they asked and we danced of course I wanted to hb8. Damn she had a fine ass. And she had a good interest level it seemed she was playing with her hair I cought her looking some time when we were dancing etc. Did kino to all three of them, and after an hour the crazy drunk girl was lost so we looked for her and went outside and we found her again.

Then some guys joined us talking and I was kind of quiet then because one of them was after my hb8 i knew immediately. I was talking to her friend but saw them exchange numbers and thought fk i ruined it. The interest level was probably low at this time. After 10-15 mins I walked with them to the bus and I also managed to get her phone nr.

She talked about going out on sunday and she wanted to meet up with me so we'll see what happens. I don't expect much though or she flakes or ignores my phone call. But I felt proud for a while even though I didn't kiss or anything.

Even if there is no continuation with this girl it motivates me to go out alone again, and next time I will take the step to enter the club by myself.

That is my share of today. Any tips for the next time I have been out of the game for quit a while.

 

[alxrose04]

Points for going alone! It's tough because you don't really have a base that you can come back to when things get stale. A good idea though is get used to talking to EVERYBODY through out your day. That way, when you get into the bar, you will have already gained momentum and are already in a talkative mood. When you get there, talk to everybody, guy, girl, bouncer, everybody. Sooner or later, it'll lead to a girl.

There also seems to be a good amount of lying. I understand that you don't want to come off as a weirdo for being out alone but my only concern is that it'll catch up with you and blow up in your face. By talking to everybody, even guys, next time they ask you where are you friends, you can point to the guys that you just met. And BAM! You just told the truth....

As for when another guy comes into the group, don't worry about being quiet. Tell the girls that its rude not to get introduced and introduce yourself. What you can do then is make fun of the girls with the guy saying things like "Are they always like this?" That way, you and the guy are immediately on the same team, you get a temporary wing man, and you show the girls that you can adapt and make friends easily. All which are very attractive traits. Oh and you can find out how they all know each other so you'll know who's boyfriend/girlfriend and who's not.

All in all, great job on going out by yourself. Not a lot of people do that. Hats off to you sir!

 

[MM92]

respect for you going alone but personally i have mates

 

[badboyjmm]

respect for you going alone but personally i have mates

Well I got friends to go out with, but I love to take the challenge when I go alone. Besides, I tend to get better results alone.

 

[JCballin88]

Props to you too for going out alone... I try this once and a while but usually end up nervously fidgeting on my phone instead of socializing like I need to be.

 

[Charm2K]

Going out alone is no biggie. Cause once u enter the club nobody knows you, they dont know if u gonna meet somebody up or maybe your friends are coming in later on.

Its all comes how you act once you are in, if u stand at same place drinking yours beer and afraid of watching people in the eyes and talk to them it will be a bit strange.

Act confindent, stand tall and enjoy yourself. All other things will fall in order.

 

[iqqi]

Going out alone is awesome. It puts you out of your comfort zone, literally, because you are not encircled by the safety net of your friends aka people you already know. This makes you open to friendships with many more people than normal.

I think it was more awkward for you to just roam the streets alone, than going into a club alone. Most clubs or bars are full of drunk people, so no one is going to realize you are alone. Many people arrive alone to meet their friends, so as you are going into a place, you can be that person. Even if you have to tell it to yourself in your own head, that you are going to meet your friends. You are the first one there, so grab a drink, and scope the scene while you wait. You start to catch a buzz, and find you don't care you are alone at that point, and you are talking to people easily. If anyone asks at that point, there are a multitude of "normal" reasons you could have, including that your friend abandoned you (to go with some girl, to go to work, to go grab something to eat around the corner, ect ect, ect.) and all will be forgotten after a half hour of fun anyways.

Once you get to the next level of feeling comfortable in your own skin, you can own your alone-ness. Lone wolves are sexy.

 

[bigneil]

Yes, going out alone is the best.

Try this: dress up and sit at the bar at the best restaurant. Get to know the staff. The valet, piano player, hostess, manager, bartenders, waitresses and regulars. Talk to whoever sits next to you - old or young, male or female. Then, when it happens to be a hot female, the conversation will be natural.