give me the MECHANICS of a dj night out

[Delta]

howdy,

so i'm wondering what a dj does to score... the dull step by step... i just want an idea of what the routine is. unfortunately, there is still a lot of mystique in the whole process... to the point where i want to see a DOCUMENTARY of what exactly happens. give me a stream of consciousness breakdown of an evening:

- friday night, sat night, sun?

- where to first? do you drive? do you park nearby and then barhop on foot?

- is there a local area with a lot of bars nearby? or do you go to a club?

- how many in your group?

- generally how long do you stay in one place before you move on? how long do you usually wait before chatting someone up.... what do you look for before the approach? are girls usually by themselves? group of unapproachable friends? pairs or small groups looking around?

- what is the success rate for getting numbers? for making out? if making out, where does that usually happen? what is the success rate of getting someone to come home with you.
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also, do you go out with the express purpose of meeting women or are you guys always approaching it as a byproduct?

if it is a focused attempt, do you always go to clubs and bars?

do you, with the purpose of meeting women, go to the market? does that really work?
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finally, anyone in the los angeles, san fernando valley area? what are good places to go around here?

thanks.

delta

p.s. if you guys hit bars and clubs - from a fitness/calorie standpoint, what/how much do you end up drinking? cuz if it's a lot, i can't imagine you can go out a lot without putting on a considerable amount of weight.

 

[rocky_mtn]

OK I'll try my best, I'm not the best PUA but have been working on it...
Answers in bold

howdy,

so i'm wondering what a dj does to score... the dull step by step... i just want an idea of what the routine is. unfortunately, there is still a lot of mystique in the whole process... to the point where i want to see a DOCUMENTARY of what exactly happens. give me a stream of consciousness breakdown of an evening:

- friday night, sat night, sun? Fri and Sat night after 10:30 or 11:00

- where to first? do you drive? do you park nearby and then barhop on foot?
I don't drive because I drink, I take the bus out and cab back, nothing wrong with bringing a babe back in a cab

- is there a local area with a lot of bars nearby? or do you go to a club?
Find a place that you are confortable with, or have friend(s) that go there. I go to a wine bar that my friends frequent. On a good night I can be there with a group of 12 friends, both M and F, makes hitting on women easier with a group behind you, but not always necesarty I'll also go tgo other places solo or with a bud, and have some success

- how many in your group?
The more the better, but one good friend as wingman is good too. Sarging solo takes some balls but if your adventurous, then theres not much holding you back

- generally how long do you stay in one place before you move on? Depends if you are having fun, its not always about hitting on chicks, its avout having fun, if you are having a good time then the chicks will be attacked to you

how long do you usually wait before chatting someone up....
Don't wait to talk to someone if they smile at you or give you eye contact. Be graceful, but don't hesitate, go up and talk to her.

what do you look for before tapproach? Eye contact, a smile or a stare

are girls usually by themselves? rarely, usually in pairs or groups. If you are with a bud, then talking to one while bud is running interference gets things going

group of unapproachable friends? pairs or small groups looking around?

- what is the success rate for getting numbers? pretty good for making out? if they are drunk, really good, otherwise not so good
if making out, where does that usually happen? what is the success rate of getting someone to come home with you.
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also, do you go out with the express purpose of meeting women or are you guys always approaching it as a byproduct?If I take the touble to shower and put on clean clothes then yes moth#rF*cher, I'm getting me some (a joke)

if it is a focused attempt, do you always go to clubs and bars? scope out places, the corner pub could be as good as the dance club down town, it all depends

do you, with the purpose of meeting women, go to the market? does that really work?
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finally, anyone in the los angeles, san fernando valley area? what are good places to go around here?

thanks.

delta

p.s. if you guys hit bars and clubs - from a fitness/calorie standpoint, what/how much do you end up drinking? cuz if it's a lot, i can't imagine you can go out a lot without putting on a considerable amount of weight.
A steady diet of beer, wine and wiskey....

 

[AngelusPUA]

How long is a piece of string?

Seriously man there is no set of rules on how to score you just go out enjoy yourself and meet women.

It's all about... (In no particular order)

-How you dress
-Status
-Style
-Class
-Looks
-Culture
-Knowing what to say and when to say it
-Confidence
-Witt

 

[Delta]

thanks much rocky.

that's starting to paint a picture.

angelus,

i'm a believer that there are a lot of common, everyday, prosaic stuff that djs do that eventually get them to women... they may do it without thinking but for someone foreign to the scene, it's all a vast, black mystery.

that's what i'm trying to get at.

i've spent my time so far working out and packed on some muscle onto a skinny frame, built up my wardrobe, always been witty and sharp and i feel pretty confident and rarin' to go.

problem is, i am LITERALLY all dressed up with nowhere to go.

many have friends and you guys naturally go to places that are conducive to pick ups.

i don't have that. so i'm just trying to get a picture - seeing that in l.a. at least, markets and coffee shops, etc. do NOT seem conducive.

(said it before but my friends are christian, i am not... man without a country)
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also, i don't want to leave it to chance opportunities keeping an eye out when i go to the store. i'd like to make POINTED excursions designed specifically to go chick hunting. so wondering what that trip looks like.

thanks again.

delta

 

[AngelusPUA]

Move to Europe.....

Ok I get what you mean, maybe you should try checking out some night clubs. Personally my best ever pickups are day time ones at palces like malls, book shops and just ont he street. If you are not comfortable with day time approched yet just try out some clubs or if your not comfortable with dancing go to a bar.

I would stay of the alcohol although it is liquid confidence it tends to f*ck up your game.

 

[Tomatoes]

Delta. I suggest you use the forums search feature. Look for threads started by Shezz and Fash. They always post good FR's which I find useful. I would suggest reading a few of them. See how they take things.

Sarge On!

 

[So pimp its scary]

You wanna know the mentality of players in the club??

Walk into the club, usually through the VIP door, and sometimes free of charge.

There are 2 situations as far as approaching chicks go :
-Out for a good time : if a girl sends out a vibe, or is peacoking whoever notices first makes the approach

- Out to get laid : Instantly starting a conversation with the hottest group of girls.

Alot of the time tho, I'm not with my player buddies... those times I often end up approaching a group of women for my friends and bringing them back to the table.

Alot of the time I won't even ask for a number if I don't kiss the girl first... and even then I won't ask for a number untill it's clear that sex with the girl that night is not an option.

If a girl doesn't show immediate interest when I start chatting her up, I walk away. I'm not saying I walk away if I get shot down, but that's obvious... I'm saying if a girl hasn't escalated a notch or didn't laugh at my jokes.... I'll walk away... Fvck it, I'd be wasting my time.

When I'm in the zone, I definately go out to get at LEAST 3-4 numbers in a night... any leass is a waste of time... my record is 11 numbers and brought the 12th one home, and there are people that witnessed... the next time I talked to them the conversation was basically 'WTF?!?! How the feck did you pull that shyt last night?"

Lol and to answer the question about picking up girls at the market... hell ya.I was working across the street from a grocery store, and about once a month for 3 months I'd meet a girl and get her number during my lunch hour. That totally affected my reputation at work.

 

[Delta]

oh. and how's this for prosaic - how much does a night out usually run you guys?

it seems to be about $30 - $70 the way i figure. not horrible to be sure but can't really do it indefinitely either.

delta