Girls that GIVE a lot but also EXPECT a lot

[Heretolearn]

Hi,

I go for these girls for some reason. The highs are AWESOME, the lows are RIDICULOUS.

I mean some of the cool things they do are wonderful. I love that and it gets me hooked as that is what I want but the rest of it is ridiculous as I say.

Ideas? Experiences? Thoughts? (obviously lows only come out after honeymoon period)

 

[darkstarrr]

Hi,

I go for these girls for some reason. The highs are AWESOME, the lows are RIDICULOUS.

I mean some of the cool things they do are wonderful. I love that and it gets me hooked as that is what I want but the rest of it is ridiculous as I say.

Ideas? Experiences? Thoughts? (obviously lows only come out after honeymoon period)

I'm not sure if I see the connection between giving and expecting and highs and lows, which sounds more like what a lot of us have ben discussing on the other threads.

I can say from experience that I actually don't mind when a girl expects certain things from me. Like for me to be on time, but not necesarily for me to give her things all the time or spend a lot of money on her. I like it when a women expects me to give it my best because I enjoy living my life that way. And because i am the type of person to give it my all, and try to be a good person and be as uplifting as I can for those who are close to me, its nice when I get a little (or a lot haha) back from the other person. Because I know I am not the one doing all the paddling.

When one person gives and the other one is always thinking about themselves that pisses me off.

When neither person gives then whats the point.

When both people give, or more specifically - give it there all (try their best) then that is when things are apt to work out the way we often envision.

 

[jophil28]

Hi,

I go for these girls for some reason. The highs are AWESOME, the lows are RIDICULOUS.

You are addicted to adrenaline and brain chemicals.
The rollercoaster is an exciting place to have sex, but a long way to fall.

 

[Mr. Me]

What are you doing, hooking up with "Martyrs"? A Martyr is one of those people that does and does for others, so willingly, and then gets peeved when they feel overlooked or slighted by those people. Martyrs are just insecure fragile ego people who "do and do for others" as a way to be liked by others, which is why they're angry when it doesn't pan out that way.

Or are you talking about being with genuine "Givers"? Even Givers have a little bit of Taker in them, which is fine. Or are you saying you're totally self-centered? You're going to have to give specifics about what she does, what you do or don't do, what she says about that.

 

[Heretolearn]

Good replies everyone:

ok, examples:

Each girl has been different and done this in different ways but they can make me feel like the most special guy on the planet (eg. running and jumping into my arms with the worlds happiest look on their faces, cleaning my whole place unasked, buying awesome gifts and giving the worlds coolest love notes/messages)

BUT they also expect a LOT in return eg. counselling sessions, putting up with mood swings, illogical and erratic behaviour, a level of understanding beyond my comprehension, me to change etc etc.

 

[decades]

memba that song, you love the thunder? well you love the drama.

 

[AIRWARRIOR71]

Sounds to me like you like the action more than the person. The feeling is what gives you the juice, is what I think...but at the same time to get that high (junkie getting their fix), you are getting the lows (withdrawals) like a druggie has to deal with.

Look at it outside of your personal viewpoint...you are in it for the ride and not the person...its cool if that is what you want, but that's also why the lows are so low too! Extreme highs come with extreme lows to balance the equation in this aspect.

Ride the ride if you want, but it means you gotta feel the potholes too!