Girls not texting back

[Let's Get Real]

I had it happen a couple of times where I got a girls phone number and we've been out once or twice and then we'll be texting and she doesn't respond to a text of mine. Sometimes after I've asked a question.

What do you guys do when they don't text back?

 

[the_stig]

She isn't interested.. delete the number and move on.

 

[Let's Get Real]

Btw...I had one girl do this and I called her on her sh!t. I said "and now you're playing games. Late." She text me back and said she wasn't playing games and invited me out that night.

She ended up being my girlfriend.

 

[chance]

flip the story around. if you went on a couple dates with a girl and she text you after that, you didn't reply. obviously you didn't like her that much, otherwise why else wouldn't you reply?

 

[Gray The Prince]

She isn't interested.. delete the number and move on.

Don't jump to conclusions now, it just depends on the situation.


OP: It just varies on the reason WHY she hasn't answered back? Good job on calling her out on her sh!t though.

 

[Let's Get Real]

flip the story around. if you went on a couple dates with a girl and she text you after that, you didn't reply. obviously you didn't like her that much, otherwise why else wouldn't you reply?

I don't always like to respond to them when they text because I like to keep em a lil worried. If you always respond to them or respond right away then they already know you like em. game killer in the beginning when a lot of girls enjoy the chase.

I just started talking to a girl that I'm kind of interested in but not that much. If she keeps pursuing me then I'm down to chill but I'm not going to really pursue her. I really haven't even given her a chance yet. I might end up liking her if she keeps pursuing me and when we hang out it's cool but i don't really care to pursue her. I bet it's like that for a lot of women. They meet a guy that's good looking but not drop dead fine so they're cool with giving it a chance but they're not going to jump at the chance right away.

After thinking about it I feel like pursuing them a little more knowing that the more they hang out with me the more of a chance that they'll start to like me. I can't expect them to drop their lives after a 30 min conversation. I can talk that they with her cuz they love the ****iness but you gotta know how they see you as well.

btw looks are an analogy in this example.

 

[Craig Reeves]

Ugh, this forum gives terrible advice. Look, check out my post in the DJ Bible (very first chapter). That will get you started.

But look here, mayne, I'll tell you this.

Girls not texting back is COMMON. Girls not calling back is COMMON. Girls blowing off is COMMON. The very fact that this is a concern to you is very telling of where you're at in your game.

Even MPUA's are blown off all the time. It's just something women do, even if they're really into you. It usually means a lack of Comfort, not attraction. The best thing to do is to keep trying to contact her until you get her. There's only three exceptions:

1. If you lose interest (of course)

2. If she specifically and explicitly tells you she is not interested (LJBF for example) or you find out that she's spoken for or gay.

3. Pursuing her could possible threaten your standing or position in the professional world (i.e., you find out that this girl is actually your boss's boss)

Hope this helps.

Best,
Craig

 

[bilboteabaggins]

texts don't go thru sometimes, sad but true LOL

 

[Let's Get Real]

The best thing to do is to keep trying to contact her until you get her.

I agree. That's what I said in my previous message. I will pursue them harder.

The very fact that this is a concern to you is very telling of where you're at in your game.

No it's not.

I was curious as to how everyone else handled it because I'm always looking to improve or add something to my game. Like you said, women do it all the time. If it's bound to happen then I'd like to know different ways to handle it. Then again, maybe it is telling where I'm at in my game...advanced.

 

[I'm in the Mood]

Ugh, this forum gives terrible advice. Look, check out my post in the DJ Bible (very first chapter). That will get you started.

But look here, mayne, I'll tell you this.

Girls not texting back is COMMON. Girls not calling back is COMMON. Girls blowing off is COMMON. The very fact that this is a concern to you is very telling of where you're at in your game.

Even MPUA's are blown off all the time. It's just something women do, even if they're really into you. It usually means a lack of Comfort, not attraction. The best thing to do is to keep trying to contact her until you get her. There's only three exceptions:

1. If you lose interest (of course)

2. If she specifically and explicitly tells you she is not interested (LJBF for example) or you find out that she's spoken for or gay.

3. Pursuing her could possible threaten your standing or position in the professional world (i.e., you find out that this girl is actually your boss's boss)

Hope this helps.

Best,
Craig

And I thought all of the superb advice to be found on this board was gone for good!

 

[IamJosan]

If a girl doesn't text back I just leave it at that and move on. I always wait for the girl to text me first, and they usually do. Sometimes you have to do a little chasing too though.

 

[horaholic]

doublepost

 

[horaholic]

Dont move on. Just text her some other time like it never happened. She might have been too busy to write back.

Plus, your texts might be boring. dont send her anything that isnt funny, or interesting. Also, GIVE value, dont take it. EI: never write anything like "Whats up?" or "what are you doing?" Thats sounds like you want her to drop what she's doing to GIVE you entertainment. Anything you send her should add some kind of value to her life, and no this isnt supplication.

 

[synergy1]

Btw...I had one girl do this and I called her on her sh!t. I said "and now you're playing games. Late." She text me back and said she wasn't playing games and invited me out that night.

She ended up being my girlfriend.

same thing happened to me. I got a chicks number, and texted her on the way out ( was taking the bus out of the city) and she didn't reply. I thought she wasn't interested so I moved on. A month later, we go back to the city to hang out ( my friend knew her friend) and we hit it off. a bit later she was my gf. I still never got a good reason why she didn't respond to my first text!

It pays to be a little persistent, but not overboard here. Sometimes they don't get it, sometimes they forget. Generally, its a sign of lack of interest, but not always. At the same time, you should be moving on other targets so if it doesn't work with this chick, you can move on. No harm done.

 

[RockaRolla25]

This happened to me before. A girl told me I was handsome one day at work. I don't know why. She just said it randomly. She has a b/f though.

So that night I texted her maybe around 9:30 asking her a question about something (I forget what exactly). She doesn't respond until about 1:30 in the morning, which is 4 HOURS LATER! And she responded as if I just sent the text 5 mins ago.

Not even a "Oh sorry I took so long to get back to you." And she LIVES on her phone all the time. She's ALWAYS around it. So "being busy" ain't an excuse.

You got to realize some girls are just STUPID and make no sense.

 

[Iceberg]

This happened to me before. A girl told me I was handsome one day at work. I don't know why. She just said it randomly. She has a b/f though.

So that night I texted her maybe around 9:30 asking her a question about something (I forget what exactly). She doesn't respond until about 1:30 in the morning, which is 4 HOURS LATER! And she responded as if I just sent the text 5 mins ago.

Not even a "Oh sorry I took so long to get back to you." And she LIVES on her phone all the time. She's ALWAYS around it. So "being busy" ain't an excuse.

You got to realize some girls are just STUPID and make no sense.

I wouldn't apologize either for responding to a text 4 hours after receiving it. I'm actually angrier at you for complaining about it. You'd think it was 4 days.

People aren't always going to be attached to their phones. And even if they are, it doesn't really mean they're obligated to respond to your texts as soon as possible. Are we allowed to have private moments uninterrupted by technology? "Oh my god, some random guy from work texted! I better drop everything and respond now, before I forget this important communication exchange!"

/end rant

 

[RockaRolla25]

I wouldn't apologize either for responding to a text 4 hours after receiving it. I'm actually angrier at you for complaining about it. You'd think it was 4 days.

People aren't always going to be attached to their phones. And even if they are, it doesn't really mean they're obligated to respond to your texts as soon as possible. Are we allowed to have private moments uninterrupted by technology? "Oh my god, some random guy from work texted! I better drop everything and respond now, before I forget this important communication exchange!"

/end rant

Just pointing out it shows she wasn't interested. That's all. If a girl is interested, she will want to text you back.

The Brad Pitt example is always thrown around here. Would she wait 4 hours if she got a text from Mr. Pitt? Nope! :woo:

 

[Blackmm]

The best thing to do is to keep trying to contact her until you get her.

I agree. That's what I said in my previous message. I will pursue them harder.

The very fact that this is a concern to you is very telling of where you're at in your game.

No it's not.

I was curious as to how everyone else handled it because I'm always looking to improve or add something to my game. Like you said, women do it all the time. If it's bound to happen then I'd like to know different ways to handle it. Then again, maybe it is telling where I'm at in my game...advanced.

Bad advise. Women ALWAYS get their messages. whether its a text, email or VM. If you keep sending her messages she hasn't responded to, you know what she does? she shares them with her girlfriends and clowns on you for being a simp.

Technology is too far advanced now for messages not to go through. Even on the off chance her phone is broken or turned off, she will get your message as soon as she turns her phone on or repaired.

 

[tryst type]

To the OP you mentioned you were texting back and forth. Were you having a lengthy conversation? Because I advise to stay away from those with a girl, I've learned it kills anticipation/urgency in her part to see you.

The only exception I have is if the lengthy convo was something along the lines of flirtatious/sexual undertones to heighten her interest in seeing you.

Now if you've asked something of significance or trying to see her via text and she doesn't respond, i usually just follow up with a teasing text to show it's not bothering me while getting a better idea about wether she was ignoring me or not. Some examples "I realize you love when I chase bc I'm SO incredibly sexy with an addicting personality and it makes you feel lucky for once.. But! This is no way to rope me "
Another I've sent with success "Oh look at me my name's (girl's name) I'm like sooo totally bad ass not responding to a text! "

Just show it doesn't bother you and if she still doesn't respond, next her bc she's not interested but at least you won't feel down on yourself.

 

[Let's Get Real]

Now if you've asked something of significance or trying to see her via text and she doesn't respond, i usually just follow up with a teasing text to show it's not bothering me while getting a better idea about wether she was ignoring me or not. Some examples "I realize you love when I chase bc I'm SO incredibly sexy with an addicting personality and it makes you feel lucky for once.. But! This is no way to rope me "
Another I've sent with success "Oh look at me my name's (girl's name) I'm like sooo totally bad ass not responding to a text! "

Just show it doesn't bother you and if she still doesn't respond, next her bc she's not interested but at least you won't feel down on yourself.

Great examples! Exactly what I was looking for is a way to text her back with mentioning that she didn't text me back but that it didn't bother me. I think some of you guys are wrong in that if she doesn't always text back then she's not interested. Like I said, my ex gf did that when we first met. Plus, you don't think that girls know to not always be available? They've been studying this stuff for years! Of course they know how to play hard to get.