Girls Dont Want to Go On Dates Anymore

[Jonblood]

So I'm in college, and I've noticed that when I ask a girl who gave me her number to go out to the park or something, they'd always rather meet at a party...That's cool and all but during the summer when you're away from school its WACK. Just my thoughts..

 

[yuppaz]

never ever ever ever call them 'dates' to girls under 27 or so. You're 'hanging out' or 'Getting together' the word 'Date' to them is a boring, high pressure thing they can't handle unless they are already super into you.

 

[Iceberg]

Why take college girls out on real dates? It's like giving a gold watch to a 5 year old. They're too young to appreciate it.

 

[nismo-4]

never ever ever ever call them 'dates' to girls under 27 or so. You're 'hanging out' or 'Getting together' the word 'Date' to them is a boring, high pressure thing they can't handle unless they are already super into you.

I wouldn't even call it a date to a 57 year old! I won't even ask a girl to hang out, cuz they translate it as date. But you're right about the fact that they need to be super into you.

 

[handle]

Yeah man isn't it great? I don't get it, why are you unhappy about not having to go on dates? Dates are boring.

 

[Maxtro]

So then what do you do with college girls?

I'm getting shit in college and I have no idea what else to do.

 

[yuppaz]

"I'm going to check out xyz over at abc, it's going to be amazing, they have blah and blah blah. you should tag along" - setting the meetup isn't my strong suite, so maybe someone good at this can chime in

 

[handle]

For me it's pretty specific because I go to college in a city and everyone lives close to eachother, but...

You go to one party, you chill with people there, you continue on going to parties and ****, you just lay down some "game" or whatever you want to call it on girls at these different events, and then at some point leave together. Usually the "leaving together" thing happens after the party has moved to a club/bar. Also, of course, you can get the number at any point along the way (usually I leave that 'til I've been at a gathering featuring this girl twice or three times) and progress from there.

Others will have more interesting techniques I'm sure, but I basically go to all parties, all potlucks, all nights out and you start seeing familiar overlaps of people between the different friend groups. So you don't even bother with the phone number or the date or any of the bull****. Loose connections, lots of loose connections all the time.

Also note that this is perfect because it's just an extension of my social life. AND note that you have insta-social proof because you hang out with so many people that you have respect with all kinds of groups. Sweet.

And again, note that unfortunately my "model" of doing things isn't applicable to all college people.

 

[Maxtro]

Hmm that's a very different approach. Though it seems like it works.

So how do you get into that scene? I've been going to a big uni in SoCal and I haven't been to a single party or social event. I just don't know the right people.

 

[nismo-4]

Hmm that's a very different approach. Though it seems like it works.

So how do you get into that scene? I've been going to a big uni in SoCal and I haven't been to a single party or social event. I just don't know the right people.

Sometimes you just gotta go alone. As scary as that may sound, just do it! Find flyers for these events and just go.

 

[Maxtro H & F]

Sometimes you just gotta go alone. As scary as that may sound, just do it! Find flyers for these events and just go.

I would if I knew about them. I've gone to some pretty crazy places by myself. Going to a house party is no sweat.

I just need to find out where they are.

 

[CuriousGirl]

Yeah they do, they're either shy/nervous or they're not into you that much.